S/O How do you justify having an affair?

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Anonymous wrote:PP — you pretend to understand what betrayal would feel like but you do not have any clue.

People — do not say what you would do if it has not happened to you. You do not actually know.

If you go into any marriage without considering that there is a significant possibility( what is it? 20%?) that your spouse will cheat on you, you are a fool.

All this betrayal nonsense is just theatrics. Yes, it's hurtful and painful. It's not the end of the world. You did not marry a unicorn. You married an earthling like others did before you.

I can’t believe someone is so full of themselves and says they are lazy that they spend pages and pages just spewing their random thoughts on a topic that doesn’t involve them. What a gross person

DCUM is here for random thoughts too. You spew yours, I spew mine.

That is what lazy people do actually: sit behind a computer and spew random thoughts. Other lazy people like you keep reading them and crying foul when they don't match up to your delusional and disengenious worldview.

But at least they act interested in the topic rather than all knowing or it's something they know. Not some know it all who has never experienced something. That is just narcissistic.

Let them focus on what they know instead of claiming superiority over APs while feasting on the same trash.

I am actually more objective than they are ( never been an AP, never cheated on anyone and never caught anyone cheating on me). I am in a nice neutral position to see through the bs. They are welcone.

You are an ignoramus.

Happy to be one on this issue. I prefer that to being a trashy person who wants to play victim and claim genius at the same time.

If we agree you are one, then get off this relationship board on affairs. You don't need to post your opinions on something you don't know about and you are a trashy person to do so.

Being cheated on does not make you any wiser or knowledgeable on these issues. Your bias actually makes you less objective.

And you don't own these boards. Just respond to the post you agree with and keep it moving.

Experience is everything.

Someone who never had kids cannot cone close to knowing what that experience is like or what being a parent over the years is truly like; the work, the stress, the love, the $ investment, etc.

Someone who lived in a war zone is going to know a lot more than seeing it on the news.

Someone married 20 years is going to know a lot more about the realities and ups and downs in a two decade+ marriage than a 25-year old that hasn’t been married.

What people see in movies, hear about in the abstract is nothing like when it is personally happening in their lives.

In your world, a 10-year old has as much insight about life as an 80-year old because he doesn’t need to experience it.

You get dumber with each additional post.

So being cheated on and keeping the cheat gives you experience in judging APs intelligence as low and yours as high?

Delusional!

I'm not OP. I am commenting on how ridiculous your post is. You seem really angry. If you are comfortable being AP, own it and ignore comments that make you feel bad.

+100 if you are going to fight against people that think what you are doing is wrong, you are going to have a lot more minds to change than a few people on this message board:

A Gallup poll conducted found that 91% of Americans consider it to be either always or almost always wrong for married people to have sexual relations with someone other than their spouses, and in response to a separate but related question, 89% say that "married men and women having an affair" is morally unacceptable.

Go find your 9% that will tell you what you are doing is magnificent.

Stop deflecting. It shows that you are too stupid to have the actual discussion. Here let me lay it out again for you: You " victims" sound like idiots when you claim that your DH's AP is not as bright as you are because she slept with the same defective man you are sleeping with.

You are a genius, AP. Feel better. Now you can stop your 10-page rant.

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Anonymous wrote:PP — you pretend to understand what betrayal would feel like but you do not have any clue.

People — do not say what you would do if it has not happened to you. You do not actually know.

If you go into any marriage without considering that there is a significant possibility( what is it? 20%?) that your spouse will cheat on you, you are a fool.

All this betrayal nonsense is just theatrics. Yes, it's hurtful and painful. It's not the end of the world. You did not marry a unicorn. You married an earthling like others did before you.

I can’t believe someone is so full of themselves and says they are lazy that they spend pages and pages just spewing their random thoughts on a topic that doesn’t involve them. What a gross person

DCUM is here for random thoughts too. You spew yours, I spew mine.

That is what lazy people do actually: sit behind a computer and spew random thoughts. Other lazy people like you keep reading them and crying foul when they don't match up to your delusional and disengenious worldview.

But at least they act interested in the topic rather than all knowing or it's something they know. Not some know it all who has never experienced something. That is just narcissistic.

Let them focus on what they know instead of claiming superiority over APs while feasting on the same trash.

I am actually more objective than they are ( never been an AP, never cheated on anyone and never caught anyone cheating on me). I am in a nice neutral position to see through the bs. They are welcone.

You are an ignoramus.

Happy to be one on this issue. I prefer that to being a trashy person who wants to play victim and claim genius at the same time.

If we agree you are one, then get off this relationship board on affairs. You don't need to post your opinions on something you don't know about and you are a trashy person to do so.

Being cheated on does not make you any wiser or knowledgeable on these issues. Your bias actually makes you less objective.

And you don't own these boards. Just respond to the post you agree with and keep it moving.

Experience is everything.

Someone who never had kids cannot cone close to knowing what that experience is like or what being a parent over the years is truly like; the work, the stress, the love, the $ investment, etc.

Someone who lived in a war zone is going to know a lot more than seeing it on the news.

Someone married 20 years is going to know a lot more about the realities and ups and downs in a two decade+ marriage than a 25-year old that hasn’t been married.

What people see in movies, hear about in the abstract is nothing like when it is personally happening in their lives.

In your world, a 10-year old has as much insight about life as an 80-year old because he doesn’t need to experience it.

You get dumber with each additional post.

So being cheated on and keeping the cheat gives you experience in judging APs intelligence as low and yours as high?

Delusional!

I'm not OP. I am commenting on how ridiculous your post is. You seem really angry. If you are comfortable being AP, own it and ignore comments that make you feel bad.

Sorry you are not bright enough to accept that a happily married woman who has never cheated can have a different point of view from you.

This was never directed at OP. I commented on some pp's delusion that her DH 's AP was not smart and all you '"smart" and " non- angry" posters came crying and diverting:

" you must be an AP, you must be a narcissist, you are very angry"

Keep them coming, dummy.

And a happily married woman that found out her spouse with cheating is going to have a different experience than the happily married woman who has no idea he is cheating or never has cheated.

You have such non sequitur arguments though you think you are bright. That's a dangerous combo. Well, back to work for those of us that are gainfully employed. Lunch is over.

Yeah, she is going to feel like a genius who married trash that sleeps with dumb women.

That makes a lot of sense.

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Anonymous wrote:PP — you pretend to understand what betrayal would feel like but you do not have any clue.

People — do not say what you would do if it has not happened to you. You do not actually know.

If you go into any marriage without considering that there is a significant possibility( what is it? 20%?) that your spouse will cheat on you, you are a fool.

All this betrayal nonsense is just theatrics. Yes, it's hurtful and painful. It's not the end of the world. You did not marry a unicorn. You married an earthling like others did before you.

I can’t believe someone is so full of themselves and says they are lazy that they spend pages and pages just spewing their random thoughts on a topic that doesn’t involve them. What a gross person

DCUM is here for random thoughts too. You spew yours, I spew mine.

That is what lazy people do actually: sit behind a computer and spew random thoughts. Other lazy people like you keep reading them and crying foul when they don't match up to your delusional and disengenious worldview.

But at least they act interested in the topic rather than all knowing or it's something they know. Not some know it all who has never experienced something. That is just narcissistic.

Let them focus on what they know instead of claiming superiority over APs while feasting on the same trash.

I am actually more objective than they are ( never been an AP, never cheated on anyone and never caught anyone cheating on me). I am in a nice neutral position to see through the bs. They are welcone.

You are an ignoramus.

Happy to be one on this issue. I prefer that to being a trashy person who wants to play victim and claim genius at the same time.

If we agree you are one, then get off this relationship board on affairs. You don't need to post your opinions on something you don't know about and you are a trashy person to do so.

Being cheated on does not make you any wiser or knowledgeable on these issues. Your bias actually makes you less objective.

And you don't own these boards. Just respond to the post you agree with and keep it moving.

Experience is everything.

Someone who never had kids cannot cone close to knowing what that experience is like or what being a parent over the years is truly like; the work, the stress, the love, the $ investment, etc.

Someone who lived in a war zone is going to know a lot more than seeing it on the news.

Someone married 20 years is going to know a lot more about the realities and ups and downs in a two decade+ marriage than a 25-year old that hasn’t been married.

What people see in movies, hear about in the abstract is nothing like when it is personally happening in their lives.

In your world, a 10-year old has as much insight about life as an 80-year old because he doesn’t need to experience it.

You get dumber with each additional post.

So being cheated on and keeping the cheat gives you experience in judging APs intelligence as low and yours as high?

Delusional!

I'm not OP. I am commenting on how ridiculous your post is. You seem really angry. If you are comfortable being AP, own it and ignore comments that make you feel bad.

+100 if you are going to fight against people that think what you are doing is wrong, you are going to have a lot more minds to change than a few people on this message board:

A Gallup poll conducted found that 91% of Americans consider it to be either always or almost always wrong for married people to have sexual relations with someone other than their spouses, and in response to a separate but related question, 89% say that "married men and women having an affair" is morally unacceptable.

Go find your 9% that will tell you what you are doing is magnificent.

Stop deflecting. It shows that you are too stupid to have the actual discussion. Here let me lay it out again for you: You " victims" sound like idiots when you claim that your DH's AP is not as bright as you are because she slept with the same defective man you are sleeping with.

You are a genius, AP. Feel better. Now you can stop your 10-page rant.

Go watch where your DH puts his stuff.

I am just having a good time.

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Anonymous wrote:PP — you pretend to understand what betrayal would feel like but you do not have any clue.

People — do not say what you would do if it has not happened to you. You do not actually know.

If you go into any marriage without considering that there is a significant possibility( what is it? 20%?) that your spouse will cheat on you, you are a fool.

All this betrayal nonsense is just theatrics. Yes, it's hurtful and painful. It's not the end of the world. You did not marry a unicorn. You married an earthling like others did before you.

I can’t believe someone is so full of themselves and says they are lazy that they spend pages and pages just spewing their random thoughts on a topic that doesn’t involve them. What a gross person

DCUM is here for random thoughts too. You spew yours, I spew mine.

That is what lazy people do actually: sit behind a computer and spew random thoughts. Other lazy people like you keep reading them and crying foul when they don't match up to your delusional and disengenious worldview.

But at least they act interested in the topic rather than all knowing or it's something they know. Not some know it all who has never experienced something. That is just narcissistic.

Let them focus on what they know instead of claiming superiority over APs while feasting on the same trash.

I am actually more objective than they are ( never been an AP, never cheated on anyone and never caught anyone cheating on me). I am in a nice neutral position to see through the bs. They are welcone.

You are an ignoramus.

Happy to be one on this issue. I prefer that to being a trashy person who wants to play victim and claim genius at the same time.

If we agree you are one, then get off this relationship board on affairs. You don't need to post your opinions on something you don't know about and you are a trashy person to do so.

Being cheated on does not make you any wiser or knowledgeable on these issues. Your bias actually makes you less objective.

And you don't own these boards. Just respond to the post you agree with and keep it moving.

Experience is everything.

Someone who never had kids cannot cone close to knowing what that experience is like or what being a parent over the years is truly like; the work, the stress, the love, the $ investment, etc.

Someone who lived in a war zone is going to know a lot more than seeing it on the news.

Someone married 20 years is going to know a lot more about the realities and ups and downs in a two decade+ marriage than a 25-year old that hasn’t been married.

What people see in movies, hear about in the abstract is nothing like when it is personally happening in their lives.

In your world, a 10-year old has as much insight about life as an 80-year old because he doesn’t need to experience it.

You get dumber with each additional post.

So being cheated on and keeping the cheat gives you experience in judging APs intelligence as low and yours as high?

Delusional!

I'm not OP. I am commenting on how ridiculous your post is. You seem really angry. If you are comfortable being AP, own it and ignore comments that make you feel bad.

+100 if you are going to fight against people that think what you are doing is wrong, you are going to have a lot more minds to change than a few people on this message board:

A Gallup poll conducted found that 91% of Americans consider it to be either always or almost always wrong for married people to have sexual relations with someone other than their spouses, and in response to a separate but related question, 89% say that "married men and women having an affair" is morally unacceptable.

Go find your 9% that will tell you what you are doing is magnificent.

Stop deflecting. It shows that you are too stupid to have the actual discussion. Here let me lay it out again for you: You " victims" sound like idiots when you claim that your DH's AP is not as bright as you are because she slept with the same defective man you are sleeping with.

You are a genius, AP. Feel better. Now you can stop your 10-page rant.

Go watch where your DH puts his stuff.

I am just having a good time.

Umm. I just saw it. Nooner. We both WAH full-time. Are you arguing with an imaginary woman that you think is your AP's wife?

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Anonymous wrote:PP — you pretend to understand what betrayal would feel like but you do not have any clue.

People — do not say what you would do if it has not happened to you. You do not actually know.

If you go into any marriage without considering that there is a significant possibility( what is it? 20%?) that your spouse will cheat on you, you are a fool.

All this betrayal nonsense is just theatrics. Yes, it's hurtful and painful. It's not the end of the world. You did not marry a unicorn. You married an earthling like others did before you.

I can’t believe someone is so full of themselves and says they are lazy that they spend pages and pages just spewing their random thoughts on a topic that doesn’t involve them. What a gross person

DCUM is here for random thoughts too. You spew yours, I spew mine.

That is what lazy people do actually: sit behind a computer and spew random thoughts. Other lazy people like you keep reading them and crying foul when they don't match up to your delusional and disengenious worldview.

But at least they act interested in the topic rather than all knowing or it's something they know. Not some know it all who has never experienced something. That is just narcissistic.

Let them focus on what they know instead of claiming superiority over APs while feasting on the same trash.

I am actually more objective than they are ( never been an AP, never cheated on anyone and never caught anyone cheating on me). I am in a nice neutral position to see through the bs. They are welcone.

You are an ignoramus.

Happy to be one on this issue. I prefer that to being a trashy person who wants to play victim and claim genius at the same time.

If we agree you are one, then get off this relationship board on affairs. You don't need to post your opinions on something you don't know about and you are a trashy person to do so.

Being cheated on does not make you any wiser or knowledgeable on these issues. Your bias actually makes you less objective.

And you don't own these boards. Just respond to the post you agree with and keep it moving.

Experience is everything.

Someone who never had kids cannot cone close to knowing what that experience is like or what being a parent over the years is truly like; the work, the stress, the love, the $ investment, etc.

Someone who lived in a war zone is going to know a lot more than seeing it on the news.

Someone married 20 years is going to know a lot more about the realities and ups and downs in a two decade+ marriage than a 25-year old that hasn’t been married.

What people see in movies, hear about in the abstract is nothing like when it is personally happening in their lives.

In your world, a 10-year old has as much insight about life as an 80-year old because he doesn’t need to experience it.

You get dumber with each additional post.

So being cheated on and keeping the cheat gives you experience in judging APs intelligence as low and yours as high?

Delusional!

I'm not OP. I am commenting on how ridiculous your post is. You seem really angry. If you are comfortable being AP, own it and ignore comments that make you feel bad.

+100 if you are going to fight against people that think what you are doing is wrong, you are going to have a lot more minds to change than a few people on this message board:

A Gallup poll conducted found that 91% of Americans consider it to be either always or almost always wrong for married people to have sexual relations with someone other than their spouses, and in response to a separate but related question, 89% say that "married men and women having an affair" is morally unacceptable.

Go find your 9% that will tell you what you are doing is magnificent.

Stop deflecting. It shows that you are too stupid to have the actual discussion. Here let me lay it out again for you: You " victims" sound like idiots when you claim that your DH's AP is not as bright as you are because she slept with the same defective man you are sleeping with.

You are a genius, AP. Feel better. Now you can stop your 10-page rant.

Go watch where your DH puts his stuff.

I am just having a good time.

Umm. I just saw it. Nooner. We both WAH full-time. Are you arguing with an imaginary woman that you think is your AP's wife?

I'm convinced this AP is the Jerry Springer 'cash me outside' girl .

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Anonymous wrote:PP — you pretend to understand what betrayal would feel like but you do not have any clue.

People — do not say what you would do if it has not happened to you. You do not actually know.

If you go into any marriage without considering that there is a significant possibility( what is it? 20%?) that your spouse will cheat on you, you are a fool.

All this betrayal nonsense is just theatrics. Yes, it's hurtful and painful. It's not the end of the world. You did not marry a unicorn. You married an earthling like others did before you.

I can’t believe someone is so full of themselves and says they are lazy that they spend pages and pages just spewing their random thoughts on a topic that doesn’t involve them. What a gross person

DCUM is here for random thoughts too. You spew yours, I spew mine.

That is what lazy people do actually: sit behind a computer and spew random thoughts. Other lazy people like you keep reading them and crying foul when they don't match up to your delusional and disengenious worldview.

But at least they act interested in the topic rather than all knowing or it's something they know. Not some know it all who has never experienced something. That is just narcissistic.

Let them focus on what they know instead of claiming superiority over APs while feasting on the same trash.

I am actually more objective than they are ( never been an AP, never cheated on anyone and never caught anyone cheating on me). I am in a nice neutral position to see through the bs. They are welcone.

You are an ignoramus.

Happy to be one on this issue. I prefer that to being a trashy person who wants to play victim and claim genius at the same time.

If we agree you are one, then get off this relationship board on affairs. You don't need to post your opinions on something you don't know about and you are a trashy person to do so.

Being cheated on does not make you any wiser or knowledgeable on these issues. Your bias actually makes you less objective.

And you don't own these boards. Just respond to the post you agree with and keep it moving.

Experience is everything.

Someone who never had kids cannot cone close to knowing what that experience is like or what being a parent over the years is truly like; the work, the stress, the love, the $ investment, etc.

Someone who lived in a war zone is going to know a lot more than seeing it on the news.

Someone married 20 years is going to know a lot more about the realities and ups and downs in a two decade+ marriage than a 25-year old that hasn’t been married.

What people see in movies, hear about in the abstract is nothing like when it is personally happening in their lives.

In your world, a 10-year old has as much insight about life as an 80-year old because he doesn’t need to experience it.

You get dumber with each additional post.

So being cheated on and keeping the cheat gives you experience in judging APs intelligence as low and yours as high?

Delusional!

I'm not OP. I am commenting on how ridiculous your post is. You seem really angry. If you are comfortable being AP, own it and ignore comments that make you feel bad.

+100 if you are going to fight against people that think what you are doing is wrong, you are going to have a lot more minds to change than a few people on this message board:

A Gallup poll conducted found that 91% of Americans consider it to be either always or almost always wrong for married people to have sexual relations with someone other than their spouses, and in response to a separate but related question, 89% say that "married men and women having an affair" is morally unacceptable.

Go find your 9% that will tell you what you are doing is magnificent.

Stop deflecting. It shows that you are too stupid to have the actual discussion. Here let me lay it out again for you: You " victims" sound like idiots when you claim that your DH's AP is not as bright as you are because she slept with the same defective man you are sleeping with.

You are a genius, AP. Feel better. Now you can stop your 10-page rant.

Go watch where your DH puts his stuff.

I am just having a good time.

Umm. I just saw it. Nooner. We both WAH full-time. Are you arguing with an imaginary woman that you think is your AP's wife?

Good. Keep track of it so dumb women don't get close.

No AP for me, thanks. I am grateful for the DH I got. No cheating for either of us and therefore no mental gymnastics to build fake " self esteem" that some people have to build to stomach sleeping with their trashy DHs.

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Anonymous wrote:PP — you pretend to understand what betrayal would feel like but you do not have any clue.

People — do not say what you would do if it has not happened to you. You do not actually know.

If you go into any marriage without considering that there is a significant possibility( what is it? 20%?) that your spouse will cheat on you, you are a fool.

All this betrayal nonsense is just theatrics. Yes, it's hurtful and painful. It's not the end of the world. You did not marry a unicorn. You married an earthling like others did before you.

I can’t believe someone is so full of themselves and says they are lazy that they spend pages and pages just spewing their random thoughts on a topic that doesn’t involve them. What a gross person

DCUM is here for random thoughts too. You spew yours, I spew mine.

That is what lazy people do actually: sit behind a computer and spew random thoughts. Other lazy people like you keep reading them and crying foul when they don't match up to your delusional and disengenious worldview.

But at least they act interested in the topic rather than all knowing or it's something they know. Not some know it all who has never experienced something. That is just narcissistic.

Let them focus on what they know instead of claiming superiority over APs while feasting on the same trash.

I am actually more objective than they are ( never been an AP, never cheated on anyone and never caught anyone cheating on me). I am in a nice neutral position to see through the bs. They are welcone.

You are an ignoramus.

Happy to be one on this issue. I prefer that to being a trashy person who wants to play victim and claim genius at the same time.

If we agree you are one, then get off this relationship board on affairs. You don't need to post your opinions on something you don't know about and you are a trashy person to do so.

Being cheated on does not make you any wiser or knowledgeable on these issues. Your bias actually makes you less objective.

And you don't own these boards. Just respond to the post you agree with and keep it moving.

Experience is everything.

Someone who never had kids cannot cone close to knowing what that experience is like or what being a parent over the years is truly like; the work, the stress, the love, the $ investment, etc.

Someone who lived in a war zone is going to know a lot more than seeing it on the news.

Someone married 20 years is going to know a lot more about the realities and ups and downs in a two decade+ marriage than a 25-year old that hasn’t been married.

What people see in movies, hear about in the abstract is nothing like when it is personally happening in their lives.

In your world, a 10-year old has as much insight about life as an 80-year old because he doesn’t need to experience it.

You get dumber with each additional post.

So being cheated on and keeping the cheat gives you experience in judging APs intelligence as low and yours as high?

Delusional!

I'm not OP. I am commenting on how ridiculous your post is. You seem really angry. If you are comfortable being AP, own it and ignore comments that make you feel bad.

+100 if you are going to fight against people that think what you are doing is wrong, you are going to have a lot more minds to change than a few people on this message board:

A Gallup poll conducted found that 91% of Americans consider it to be either always or almost always wrong for married people to have sexual relations with someone other than their spouses, and in response to a separate but related question, 89% say that "married men and women having an affair" is morally unacceptable.

Go find your 9% that will tell you what you are doing is magnificent.

Stop deflecting. It shows that you are too stupid to have the actual discussion. Here let me lay it out again for you: You " victims" sound like idiots when you claim that your DH's AP is not as bright as you are because she slept with the same defective man you are sleeping with.

You are a genius, AP. Feel better. Now you can stop your 10-page rant.

Go watch where your DH puts his stuff.

I am just having a good time.

Umm. I just saw it. Nooner. We both WAH full-time. Are you arguing with an imaginary woman that you think is your AP's wife?

I'm convinced this AP is the Jerry Springer 'cash me outside' girl .

The one your husband watches porn videos of?

How can you not see how ridiculous you are when you try to insult women for things your husband participates in and then turn aound and sleep with your husband?

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Anonymous wrote:PP — you pretend to understand what betrayal would feel like but you do not have any clue.

People — do not say what you would do if it has not happened to you. You do not actually know.

If you go into any marriage without considering that there is a significant possibility( what is it? 20%?) that your spouse will cheat on you, you are a fool.

All this betrayal nonsense is just theatrics. Yes, it's hurtful and painful. It's not the end of the world. You did not marry a unicorn. You married an earthling like others did before you.

I can’t believe someone is so full of themselves and says they are lazy that they spend pages and pages just spewing their random thoughts on a topic that doesn’t involve them. What a gross person

DCUM is here for random thoughts too. You spew yours, I spew mine.

That is what lazy people do actually: sit behind a computer and spew random thoughts. Other lazy people like you keep reading them and crying foul when they don't match up to your delusional and disengenious worldview.

But at least they act interested in the topic rather than all knowing or it's something they know. Not some know it all who has never experienced something. That is just narcissistic.

Let them focus on what they know instead of claiming superiority over APs while feasting on the same trash.

I am actually more objective than they are ( never been an AP, never cheated on anyone and never caught anyone cheating on me). I am in a nice neutral position to see through the bs. They are welcone.

You are an ignoramus.

Happy to be one on this issue. I prefer that to being a trashy person who wants to play victim and claim genius at the same time.

If we agree you are one, then get off this relationship board on affairs. You don't need to post your opinions on something you don't know about and you are a trashy person to do so.

Being cheated on does not make you any wiser or knowledgeable on these issues. Your bias actually makes you less objective.

And you don't own these boards. Just respond to the post you agree with and keep it moving.

Experience is everything.

Someone who never had kids cannot cone close to knowing what that experience is like or what being a parent over the years is truly like; the work, the stress, the love, the $ investment, etc.

Someone who lived in a war zone is going to know a lot more than seeing it on the news.

Someone married 20 years is going to know a lot more about the realities and ups and downs in a two decade+ marriage than a 25-year old that hasn’t been married.

What people see in movies, hear about in the abstract is nothing like when it is personally happening in their lives.

In your world, a 10-year old has as much insight about life as an 80-year old because he doesn’t need to experience it.

You get dumber with each additional post.

So being cheated on and keeping the cheat gives you experience in judging APs intelligence as low and yours as high?

Delusional!

I'm not OP. I am commenting on how ridiculous your post is. You seem really angry. If you are comfortable being AP, own it and ignore comments that make you feel bad.

+100 if you are going to fight against people that think what you are doing is wrong, you are going to have a lot more minds to change than a few people on this message board:

A Gallup poll conducted found that 91% of Americans consider it to be either always or almost always wrong for married people to have sexual relations with someone other than their spouses, and in response to a separate but related question, 89% say that "married men and women having an affair" is morally unacceptable.

Go find your 9% that will tell you what you are doing is magnificent.

Stop deflecting. It shows that you are too stupid to have the actual discussion. Here let me lay it out again for you: You " victims" sound like idiots when you claim that your DH's AP is not as bright as you are because she slept with the same defective man you are sleeping with.

You are a genius, AP. Feel better. Now you can stop your 10-page rant.

Go watch where your DH puts his stuff.

I am just having a good time.

Umm. I just saw it. Nooner. We both WAH full-time. Are you arguing with an imaginary woman that you think is your AP's wife?

Good. Keep track of it so dumb women don't get close.

No AP for me, thanks. I am grateful for the DH I got. No cheating for either of us and therefore no mental gymnastics to build fake " self esteem" that some people have to build to stomach sleeping with their trashy DHs.

OMG. This is exactly the kind of woman that men cheat on, the ones that think it will never happen to them. Good luck with that. He's probably cheating right now.

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Anonymous wrote:PP — you pretend to understand what betrayal would feel like but you do not have any clue.

People — do not say what you would do if it has not happened to you. You do not actually know.

If you go into any marriage without considering that there is a significant possibility( what is it? 20%?) that your spouse will cheat on you, you are a fool.

All this betrayal nonsense is just theatrics. Yes, it's hurtful and painful. It's not the end of the world. You did not marry a unicorn. You married an earthling like others did before you.

I can’t believe someone is so full of themselves and says they are lazy that they spend pages and pages just spewing their random thoughts on a topic that doesn’t involve them. What a gross person

DCUM is here for random thoughts too. You spew yours, I spew mine.

That is what lazy people do actually: sit behind a computer and spew random thoughts. Other lazy people like you keep reading them and crying foul when they don't match up to your delusional and disengenious worldview.

But at least they act interested in the topic rather than all knowing or it's something they know. Not some know it all who has never experienced something. That is just narcissistic.

Let them focus on what they know instead of claiming superiority over APs while feasting on the same trash.

I am actually more objective than they are ( never been an AP, never cheated on anyone and never caught anyone cheating on me). I am in a nice neutral position to see through the bs. They are welcone.

You are an ignoramus.

Happy to be one on this issue. I prefer that to being a trashy person who wants to play victim and claim genius at the same time.

If we agree you are one, then get off this relationship board on affairs. You don't need to post your opinions on something you don't know about and you are a trashy person to do so.

Being cheated on does not make you any wiser or knowledgeable on these issues. Your bias actually makes you less objective.

And you don't own these boards. Just respond to the post you agree with and keep it moving.

Experience is everything.

Someone who never had kids cannot cone close to knowing what that experience is like or what being a parent over the years is truly like; the work, the stress, the love, the $ investment, etc.

Someone who lived in a war zone is going to know a lot more than seeing it on the news.

Someone married 20 years is going to know a lot more about the realities and ups and downs in a two decade+ marriage than a 25-year old that hasn’t been married.

What people see in movies, hear about in the abstract is nothing like when it is personally happening in their lives.

In your world, a 10-year old has as much insight about life as an 80-year old because he doesn’t need to experience it.

You get dumber with each additional post.

So being cheated on and keeping the cheat gives you experience in judging APs intelligence as low and yours as high?

Delusional!

I'm not OP. I am commenting on how ridiculous your post is. You seem really angry. If you are comfortable being AP, own it and ignore comments that make you feel bad.

+100 if you are going to fight against people that think what you are doing is wrong, you are going to have a lot more minds to change than a few people on this message board:

A Gallup poll conducted found that 91% of Americans consider it to be either always or almost always wrong for married people to have sexual relations with someone other than their spouses, and in response to a separate but related question, 89% say that "married men and women having an affair" is morally unacceptable.

Go find your 9% that will tell you what you are doing is magnificent.

Stop deflecting. It shows that you are too stupid to have the actual discussion. Here let me lay it out again for you: You " victims" sound like idiots when you claim that your DH's AP is not as bright as you are because she slept with the same defective man you are sleeping with.

You are a genius, AP. Feel better. Now you can stop your 10-page rant.

Go watch where your DH puts his stuff.

I am just having a good time.

Umm. I just saw it. Nooner. We both WAH full-time. Are you arguing with an imaginary woman that you think is your AP's wife?

I'm convinced this AP is the Jerry Springer 'cash me outside' girl .

The one your husband watches porn videos of?

How can you not see how ridiculous you are when you try to insult women for things your husband participates in and then turn aound and sleep with your husband?

Again, who are you talking to? You are responding to multiple people as if they are the same poster. We are all apparently the same woman. Check the voices in your head.

You are coming off as irrationally angry on the behalf of OW/APs with your perfect marriage and husband. Why are you arguing for 10 pages about hypothetical situations and attacking random posters?

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Anonymous wrote:PP — you pretend to understand what betrayal would feel like but you do not have any clue.

People — do not say what you would do if it has not happened to you. You do not actually know.

If you go into any marriage without considering that there is a significant possibility( what is it? 20%?) that your spouse will cheat on you, you are a fool.

All this betrayal nonsense is just theatrics. Yes, it's hurtful and painful. It's not the end of the world. You did not marry a unicorn. You married an earthling like others did before you.

I can’t believe someone is so full of themselves and says they are lazy that they spend pages and pages just spewing their random thoughts on a topic that doesn’t involve them. What a gross person

DCUM is here for random thoughts too. You spew yours, I spew mine.

That is what lazy people do actually: sit behind a computer and spew random thoughts. Other lazy people like you keep reading them and crying foul when they don't match up to your delusional and disengenious worldview.

But at least they act interested in the topic rather than all knowing or it's something they know. Not some know it all who has never experienced something. That is just narcissistic.

Let them focus on what they know instead of claiming superiority over APs while feasting on the same trash.

I am actually more objective than they are ( never been an AP, never cheated on anyone and never caught anyone cheating on me). I am in a nice neutral position to see through the bs. They are welcone.

You are an ignoramus.

Happy to be one on this issue. I prefer that to being a trashy person who wants to play victim and claim genius at the same time.

If we agree you are one, then get off this relationship board on affairs. You don't need to post your opinions on something you don't know about and you are a trashy person to do so.

Being cheated on does not make you any wiser or knowledgeable on these issues. Your bias actually makes you less objective.

And you don't own these boards. Just respond to the post you agree with and keep it moving.

Experience is everything.

Someone who never had kids cannot cone close to knowing what that experience is like or what being a parent over the years is truly like; the work, the stress, the love, the $ investment, etc.

Someone who lived in a war zone is going to know a lot more than seeing it on the news.

Someone married 20 years is going to know a lot more about the realities and ups and downs in a two decade+ marriage than a 25-year old that hasn’t been married.

What people see in movies, hear about in the abstract is nothing like when it is personally happening in their lives.

In your world, a 10-year old has as much insight about life as an 80-year old because he doesn’t need to experience it.

You get dumber with each additional post.

So being cheated on and keeping the cheat gives you experience in judging APs intelligence as low and yours as high?

Delusional!

I'm not OP. I am commenting on how ridiculous your post is. You seem really angry. If you are comfortable being AP, own it and ignore comments that make you feel bad.

+100 if you are going to fight against people that think what you are doing is wrong, you are going to have a lot more minds to change than a few people on this message board:

A Gallup poll conducted found that 91% of Americans consider it to be either always or almost always wrong for married people to have sexual relations with someone other than their spouses, and in response to a separate but related question, 89% say that "married men and women having an affair" is morally unacceptable.

Go find your 9% that will tell you what you are doing is magnificent.

Stop deflecting. It shows that you are too stupid to have the actual discussion. Here let me lay it out again for you: You " victims" sound like idiots when you claim that your DH's AP is not as bright as you are because she slept with the same defective man you are sleeping with.

You are a genius, AP. Feel better. Now you can stop your 10-page rant.

Go watch where your DH puts his stuff.

I am just having a good time.

Umm. I just saw it. Nooner. We both WAH full-time. Are you arguing with an imaginary woman that you think is your AP's wife?

I'm convinced this AP is the Jerry Springer 'cash me outside' girl .

The one your husband watches porn videos of?

How can you not see how ridiculous you are when you try to insult women for things your husband participates in and then turn aound and sleep with your husband?

Again, who are you talking to? You are responding to multiple people as if they are the same poster. We are all apparently the same woman. Check the voices in your head.

You are coming off as irrationally angry on the behalf of OW/APs with your perfect marriage and husband. Why are you arguing for 10 pages about hypothetical situations and attacking random posters?

How do you know that there are 10 pages worth? Ah, so you read through them all. Wonderful and very non- angry of you!

I actually quote whoever I am responding to, so there really is no doubt there other than the one you are creating in your head to deflect.

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Anonymous wrote:PP — you pretend to understand what betrayal would feel like but you do not have any clue.

People — do not say what you would do if it has not happened to you. You do not actually know.

If you go into any marriage without considering that there is a significant possibility( what is it? 20%?) that your spouse will cheat on you, you are a fool.

All this betrayal nonsense is just theatrics. Yes, it's hurtful and painful. It's not the end of the world. You did not marry a unicorn. You married an earthling like others did before you.

I can’t believe someone is so full of themselves and says they are lazy that they spend pages and pages just spewing their random thoughts on a topic that doesn’t involve them. What a gross person

DCUM is here for random thoughts too. You spew yours, I spew mine.

That is what lazy people do actually: sit behind a computer and spew random thoughts. Other lazy people like you keep reading them and crying foul when they don't match up to your delusional and disengenious worldview.

But at least they act interested in the topic rather than all knowing or it's something they know. Not some know it all who has never experienced something. That is just narcissistic.

Let them focus on what they know instead of claiming superiority over APs while feasting on the same trash.

I am actually more objective than they are ( never been an AP, never cheated on anyone and never caught anyone cheating on me). I am in a nice neutral position to see through the bs. They are welcone.

You are an ignoramus.

Happy to be one on this issue. I prefer that to being a trashy person who wants to play victim and claim genius at the same time.

If we agree you are one, then get off this relationship board on affairs. You don't need to post your opinions on something you don't know about and you are a trashy person to do so.

Being cheated on does not make you any wiser or knowledgeable on these issues. Your bias actually makes you less objective.

And you don't own these boards. Just respond to the post you agree with and keep it moving.

Experience is everything.

Someone who never had kids cannot cone close to knowing what that experience is like or what being a parent over the years is truly like; the work, the stress, the love, the $ investment, etc.

Someone who lived in a war zone is going to know a lot more than seeing it on the news.

Someone married 20 years is going to know a lot more about the realities and ups and downs in a two decade+ marriage than a 25-year old that hasn’t been married.

What people see in movies, hear about in the abstract is nothing like when it is personally happening in their lives.

In your world, a 10-year old has as much insight about life as an 80-year old because he doesn’t need to experience it.

You get dumber with each additional post.

So being cheated on and keeping the cheat gives you experience in judging APs intelligence as low and yours as high?

Delusional!

I'm not OP. I am commenting on how ridiculous your post is. You seem really angry. If you are comfortable being AP, own it and ignore comments that make you feel bad.

+100 if you are going to fight against people that think what you are doing is wrong, you are going to have a lot more minds to change than a few people on this message board:

A Gallup poll conducted found that 91% of Americans consider it to be either always or almost always wrong for married people to have sexual relations with someone other than their spouses, and in response to a separate but related question, 89% say that "married men and women having an affair" is morally unacceptable.

Go find your 9% that will tell you what you are doing is magnificent.

Stop deflecting. It shows that you are too stupid to have the actual discussion. Here let me lay it out again for you: You " victims" sound like idiots when you claim that your DH's AP is not as bright as you are because she slept with the same defective man you are sleeping with.

You are a genius, AP. Feel better. Now you can stop your 10-page rant.

Go watch where your DH puts his stuff.

I am just having a good time.

Umm. I just saw it. Nooner. We both WAH full-time. Are you arguing with an imaginary woman that you think is your AP's wife?

Good. Keep track of it so dumb women don't get close.

No AP for me, thanks. I am grateful for the DH I got. No cheating for either of us and therefore no mental gymnastics to build fake " self esteem" that some people have to build to stomach sleeping with their trashy DHs.

OMG. This is exactly the kind of woman that men cheat on, the ones that think it will never happen to them. Good luck with that. He's probably cheating right now.

So now you know the APs intelligence and the women men cheat on.

You are so wise!

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Sounds to me like some women better start giving their DH’s the Rice Krispy test as soon as they walk in the door.

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What is the rice Krispy test?

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Wtf is this?

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Anonymous wrote:PP — you pretend to understand what betrayal would feel like but you do not have any clue.

People — do not say what you would do if it has not happened to you. You do not actually know.

If you go into any marriage without considering that there is a significant possibility( what is it? 20%?) that your spouse will cheat on you, you are a fool.

All this betrayal nonsense is just theatrics. Yes, it's hurtful and painful. It's not the end of the world. You did not marry a unicorn. You married an earthling like others did before you.

I can’t believe someone is so full of themselves and says they are lazy that they spend pages and pages just spewing their random thoughts on a topic that doesn’t involve them. What a gross person

DCUM is here for random thoughts too. You spew yours, I spew mine.

That is what lazy people do actually: sit behind a computer and spew random thoughts. Other lazy people like you keep reading them and crying foul when they don't match up to your delusional and disengenious worldview.

But at least they act interested in the topic rather than all knowing or it's something they know. Not some know it all who has never experienced something. That is just narcissistic.

Let them focus on what they know instead of claiming superiority over APs while feasting on the same trash.

I am actually more objective than they are ( never been an AP, never cheated on anyone and never caught anyone cheating on me). I am in a nice neutral position to see through the bs. They are welcone.

You are an ignoramus.

Happy to be one on this issue. I prefer that to being a trashy person who wants to play victim and claim genius at the same time.

If we agree you are one, then get off this relationship board on affairs. You don't need to post your opinions on something you don't know about and you are a trashy person to do so.

Being cheated on does not make you any wiser or knowledgeable on these issues. Your bias actually makes you less objective.

And you don't own these boards. Just respond to the post you agree with and keep it moving.

Experience is everything.

Someone who never had kids cannot cone close to knowing what that experience is like or what being a parent over the years is truly like; the work, the stress, the love, the $ investment, etc.

Someone who lived in a war zone is going to know a lot more than seeing it on the news.

Someone married 20 years is going to know a lot more about the realities and ups and downs in a two decade+ marriage than a 25-year old that hasn’t been married.

What people see in movies, hear about in the abstract is nothing like when it is personally happening in their lives.

In your world, a 10-year old has as much insight about life as an 80-year old because he doesn’t need to experience it.

You get dumber with each additional post.

So being cheated on and keeping the cheat gives you experience in judging APs intelligence as low and yours as high?

Delusional!

I'm not OP. I am commenting on how ridiculous your post is. You seem really angry. If you are comfortable being AP, own it and ignore comments that make you feel bad.

+100 if you are going to fight against people that think what you are doing is wrong, you are going to have a lot more minds to change than a few people on this message board:

A Gallup poll conducted found that 91% of Americans consider it to be either always or almost always wrong for married people to have sexual relations with someone other than their spouses, and in response to a separate but related question, 89% say that "married men and women having an affair" is morally unacceptable.

Go find your 9% that will tell you what you are doing is magnificent.

Stop deflecting. It shows that you are too stupid to have the actual discussion. Here let me lay it out again for you: You " victims" sound like idiots when you claim that your DH's AP is not as bright as you are because she slept with the same defective man you are sleeping with.

You are a genius, AP. Feel better. Now you can stop your 10-page rant.

Go watch where your DH puts his stuff.

I am just having a good time.

Umm. I just saw it. Nooner. We both WAH full-time. Are you arguing with an imaginary woman that you think is your AP's wife?

Good. Keep track of it so dumb women don't get close.

No AP for me, thanks. I am grateful for the DH I got. No cheating for either of us and therefore no mental gymnastics to build fake " self esteem" that some people have to build to stomach sleeping with their trashy DHs.

Yes, and the good news is that your DH is the only man incapable of cheating in the world, and you are the only omniscient person in the world, so you definitely know everything he does and thinks at all times. How we mere mortals envy you two!

In all seriousness PP, it's a very normal and human thing to blame victims to avoid the scary thought that bad shlt could happen to us. You see it when a child gets left in a hot car and people proclaim that they would never ever be as dumb as the parents who did that. Actually it's all about how our brains work and the way we can do things on autopilot without realizing it. None of us are above that, just as none of us are all that different than people who follow their primal instincts into an affair. It's not a sign of intelligence to say "haha, luckily this could never happen to me!" It's a sign of intelligence to say, "You know, I'm just as susceptible to these things as the next person, so that's why I'm going to install a baby car seat alarm/have an open phone policy with my spouse . . ."