advice to mothers of daughters

[Anonymous]

spin-off... what specific things do you suggest?

[Anonymous]

Don't marry lazy men. Make sure they know how to take care of themselves; ask about their debt and spending habits. You can't change a man. Marry the man who is, not who you think he can be.

[Anonymous]

He is not going to "save" you from whatever you don't want to deal with. Have your own plans.

[Anonymous]

Make sure he is handy, can find his way around a proper tool box, is kind, considerate, ambitious.

[Anonymous]

Take care of your own happiness....no one is served by your being a martyr to everyone else's need and no one can make you happy.

Don't make decisions based on guilt

Don't apologize for the way you want to live your life, there are no prizes for doing what others think is best...they don't have to live your life at the end of the day

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Make sure he is handy, can find his way around a proper tool box, is kind, considerate, ambitious.

Really? Wouldn't she be better served by making sure that SHE is handy?

[Anonymous]

Its sad that the first 3 are all focused on who they marry.

[Anonymous]

Teach DD to be something other than a pleaser. Teach her how to not just say no, but also HELL no.

And, that the hardest, most terrifying thing in life is choosing what you want and owning that choice, including possible failure at it -- it is much easier choosing to help others get what they want, but this is not the same thing.

[Anonymous]

Do not make decisions about your life based on a man who is not your husband.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Its sad that the first 3 are all focused on who they marry.

..because based on this forum, this is the main source of angst for married women.

[Anonymous]

Make sure your daughters excel in Math. This opens doors for them in high paying STEM careers.

[Anonymous]

A man is not a plan.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Its sad that the first 3 are all focused on who they marry.

Amen. Teach your daughter to find her own strength and passion. Expect her to do well in making decisions for her life. Dont focus on who she should marry because she'll make that and other important life decisions based on what you and her Dad teach her about herself and her self worth.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Make sure he is handy, can find his way around a proper tool box, is kind, considerate, ambitious.

Thanks 1950s.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A man is not a plan.

Except when he's your third husband, you're staring down 60, and he's rich.