Was accidentally on a group text...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People here who can no longer distinguish between a NT child’s out of control behavior and the manifestations of a condition like autism really worry me.

Your banshee is not exciting. He is causing other people to experience a rise in their BP. https://www.nytimes.com/2020/08/12/parenting/kid-crying-response.html

Hon do everybody a favor and learn meditation

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People here who can no longer distinguish between a NT child’s out of control behavior and the manifestations of a condition like autism really worry me.

Your banshee is not exciting. He is causing other people to experience a rise in their BP. https://www.nytimes.com/2020/08/12/parenting/kid-crying-response.html

I was going to post something similar. Constant screaming and kids getting into things they shouldn’t, causing adults to constantly be on edge worrying what the kid will do next, is STRESS. Stress causes all sorts of medical conditions. It’s serious. And it’s pretty awful to inflict that on your friends.

It’s certainly not “harmless”.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People here who can no longer distinguish between a NT child’s out of control behavior and the manifestations of a condition like autism really worry me.

Your banshee is not exciting. He is causing other people to experience a rise in their BP. https://www.nytimes.com/2020/08/12/parenting/kid-crying-response.html

I was going to post something similar. Constant screaming and kids getting into things they shouldn’t, causing adults to constantly be on edge worrying what the kid will do next, is STRESS. Stress causes all sorts of medical conditions. It’s serious. And it’s pretty awful to inflict that on your friends.

It’s certainly not “harmless”.

If a loud kid at a birthday party causes you that much stress I’m inclined to think you do indeed have a medical condition.

[Anonymous]

My god. This thread has gotten so off the rails.

It’s also obvious how some people on here are self projecting their own experiences who have “that child” and overreacting and telling OP to do crazy things....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People here who can no longer distinguish between a NT child’s out of control behavior and the manifestations of a condition like autism really worry me.

Your banshee is not exciting. He is causing other people to experience a rise in their BP. https://www.nytimes.com/2020/08/12/parenting/kid-crying-response.html

I was going to post something similar. Constant screaming and kids getting into things they shouldn’t, causing adults to constantly be on edge worrying what the kid will do next, is STRESS. Stress causes all sorts of medical conditions. It’s serious. And it’s pretty awful to inflict that on your friends.

It’s certainly not “harmless”.

If a loud kid at a birthday party causes you that much stress I’m inclined to think you do indeed have a medical condition.

This isn't a loud kid at a random birthday party that you never see again. It sounds like OP invites herself along everywhere the group goes. That sucks if the group has no opportunity to decompress and relax without him there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People here who can no longer distinguish between a NT child’s out of control behavior and the manifestations of a condition like autism really worry me.

Your banshee is not exciting. He is causing other people to experience a rise in their BP. https://www.nytimes.com/2020/08/12/parenting/kid-crying-response.html

I was going to post something similar. Constant screaming and kids getting into things they shouldn’t, causing adults to constantly be on edge worrying what the kid will do next, is STRESS. Stress causes all sorts of medical conditions. It’s serious. And it’s pretty awful to inflict that on your friends.

It’s certainly not “harmless”.

If a loud kid at a birthday party causes you that much stress I’m inclined to think you do indeed have a medical condition.

^^^ this FFS

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People here who can no longer distinguish between a NT child’s out of control behavior and the manifestations of a condition like autism really worry me.

Your banshee is not exciting. He is causing other people to experience a rise in their BP. https://www.nytimes.com/2020/08/12/parenting/kid-crying-response.html

I was going to post something similar. Constant screaming and kids getting into things they shouldn’t, causing adults to constantly be on edge worrying what the kid will do next, is STRESS. Stress causes all sorts of medical conditions. It’s serious. And it’s pretty awful to inflict that on your friends.

It’s certainly not “harmless”.

If a loud kid at a birthday party causes you that much stress I’m inclined to think you do indeed have a medical condition.

This isn't a loud kid at a random birthday party that you never see again. It sounds like OP invites herself along everywhere the group goes. That sucks if the group has no opportunity to decompress and relax without him there.

It’s a play date. You need Prozac

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:in which a texter badmouthed my kid!
I'm on a few different group threads for my kids' various activities, and I'm sure the sender did NOT know I was in this thread. She wrote, "Unfortunately, [DS's name] will be there, so bring Advil and wine."

My son can get hyper and loud. OK, I'm sure she has no idea I saw this, but it will dawn on her after a fashion - do I chime in or let it stew or what. NOBODY has responded....

I'm almost amused but also like, WTF lady...Nobody's kid is perfect.

How old is your hyper and loud kid? What have the teachers said?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nothing you say is going to make her feel bad. Your kid is a wild child, most likely everyone in that text feels the same way.

This.

What a bunch of immature responses. Aggressive or passive aggressive. Be classy. Ignore. Don’t show up. Work on your kids behavior. As a PP said I too have high expectations and my kid has ADHD.

SAD DCUM. 31 pages. Mean girl behavior. Grow up, evolve some. Leave this pettiness behind. It’s not just enough to do some yoga and meditation. Let some of that good stuff impact other areas of your life.

[Anonymous]

I'm the PP with teens and wow I cannot believe how delicate some of you are. So a kid screams sometimes or is loud. Who cares. Good gravy, if you can't manage a kid who is loud at a playdate* how do you ever manage the basic functions of life?

* You know that if you are hosting the playdate, you can tell the child to knock it off or take them to a park, right? One of my kids had a friend who couldn't handle indoor playdates. Fine, so we just arranged time with that child at parks. Not a big deal. Later we learned that the parents were going through a difficult divorce and of course the poor kid was acting out. It's been years since, that child is now a driven teen who is starting his own high-tech businesses and is still friends with mine.

This isn't as hard as some of you want to make it. OP needs to ditch her nasty alcoholic friend and call it a day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nothing you say is going to make her feel bad. Your kid is a wild child, most likely everyone in that text feels the same way.

This.

What a bunch of immature responses. Aggressive or passive aggressive. Be classy. Ignore. Don’t show up. Work on your kids behavior. As a PP said I too have high expectations and my kid has ADHD.

SAD DCUM. 31 pages. Mean girl behavior. Grow up, evolve some. Leave this pettiness behind. It’s not just enough to do some yoga and meditation. Let some of that good stuff impact other areas of your life.

I agree that probably the whole group feels this way which is why the woman felt comfortable enough to group text. It has been brought up before and/or is common knowledge. They like you, they tolerate your kid, and they invited you. Work on his behavior. Show up or don't, but a mean text back isn't the best way to handle this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nothing you say is going to make her feel bad. Your kid is a wild child, most likely everyone in that text feels the same way.

This.

What a bunch of immature responses. Aggressive or passive aggressive. Be classy. Ignore. Don’t show up. Work on your kids behavior. As a PP said I too have high expectations and my kid has ADHD.

SAD DCUM. 31 pages. Mean girl behavior. Grow up, evolve some. Leave this pettiness behind. It’s not just enough to do some yoga and meditation. Let some of that good stuff impact other areas of your life.

I agree that probably the whole group feels this way which is why the woman felt comfortable enough to group text. It has been brought up before and/or is common knowledge. They like you, they tolerate your kid, and they invited you. Work on his behavior. Show up or don't, but a mean text back isn't the best way to handle this.

Doubt it... we all have that one bitchy friend we deal with because we feel bad for their kid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People here who can no longer distinguish between a NT child’s out of control behavior and the manifestations of a condition like autism really worry me.

Your banshee is not exciting. He is causing other people to experience a rise in their BP. https://www.nytimes.com/2020/08/12/parenting/kid-crying-response.html

I was going to post something similar. Constant screaming and kids getting into things they shouldn’t, causing adults to constantly be on edge worrying what the kid will do next, is STRESS. Stress causes all sorts of medical conditions. It’s serious. And it’s pretty awful to inflict that on your friends.

It’s certainly not “harmless”.

If a loud kid at a birthday party causes you that much stress I’m inclined to think you do indeed have a medical condition.

The thing is, i bet he isn't just "loud and wild." If he is over 6, he probably loudly says inappropriate things, gets into stuff he shouldn't, is damaging to belongings, and causes general chaos--plus other kids usually will somewhat follow, making all the parents annoyed and now causing them to go and correct their own child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm the PP with teens and wow I cannot believe how delicate some of you are. So a kid screams sometimes or is loud. Who cares. Good gravy, if you can't manage a kid who is loud at a playdate* how do you ever manage the basic functions of life?

* You know that if you are hosting the playdate, you can tell the child to knock it off or take them to a park, right? One of my kids had a friend who couldn't handle indoor playdates. Fine, so we just arranged time with that child at parks. Not a big deal. Later we learned that the parents were going through a difficult divorce and of course the poor kid was acting out. It's been years since, that child is now a driven teen who is starting his own high-tech businesses and is still friends with mine.

This isn't as hard as some of you want to make it. OP needs to ditch her nasty alcoholic friend and call it a day.

Seriously and I am sure these bitches volunteer at their kids school and also talk trash about kids.

We had to ban moms from volunteering with kids in the classroom because so many are like this bitch mom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People here who can no longer distinguish between a NT child’s out of control behavior and the manifestations of a condition like autism really worry me.

Your banshee is not exciting. He is causing other people to experience a rise in their BP. https://www.nytimes.com/2020/08/12/parenting/kid-crying-response.html

I was going to post something similar. Constant screaming and kids getting into things they shouldn’t, causing adults to constantly be on edge worrying what the kid will do next, is STRESS. Stress causes all sorts of medical conditions. It’s serious. And it’s pretty awful to inflict that on your friends.

It’s certainly not “harmless”.

If a loud kid at a birthday party causes you that much stress I’m inclined to think you do indeed have a medical condition.

The thing is, i bet he isn't just "loud and wild." If he is over 6, he probably loudly says inappropriate things, gets into stuff he shouldn't, is damaging to belongings, and causes general chaos--plus other kids usually will somewhat follow, making all the parents annoyed and now causing them to go and correct their own child.

Wrong! Hey if you are team alcoholic just own it, you guys are terrible with kids. You need to medicate your way through your children's lives. You can't manage any tiny bit of stress without alcohol.