Boy slapped my daughter's butt on the walk from school

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Anonymous wrote:I suspect that there are some other problems going on w/Op's daughter (possibly other kids) and this boy/this incident is being used as....a scapegoat or an excuse. Something is odd with it.

She was asking for it.

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Anonymous wrote:I suspect that there are some other problems going on w/Op's daughter (possibly other kids) and this boy/this incident is being used as....a scapegoat or an excuse. Something is odd with it.

She was asking for it.

Oh, good grief. Yeah, pp. That's exactly what people are saying . Not.

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Anonymous wrote:I suspect that there are some other problems going on w/Op's daughter (possibly other kids) and this boy/this incident is being used as....a scapegoat or an excuse. Something is odd with it.

She was asking for it.

Oh, good grief. Yeah, pp. That's exactly what people are saying . Not.

Yep. Another dcum overreaction instead of actually piecing together the inconsistencies in the story as it has evolved and sing that a lot doesn't add up.

[Anonymous]

If Op's daughter really wanted to find these boys she could borrow a year book, look on Instagram or Twitter (or a friend's account if helicopter mom forbids her from having an account), ask some friends, etc. She has fm done none of the above because (a) she isn't telling the whole truth or (b) she realizes her mother is an over the top nut case and she wants her to stop or (c) all of the above. The fact that op appears so oblivious to the obvious ways to locate this kid makes me think she is either a troll or has no common sense--I am not sure which is worse at this point. Although a troll would be preferable to a grown woman who appears so helpless.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If Op's daughter really wanted to find these boys she could borrow a year book, look on Instagram or Twitter (or a friend's account if helicopter mom forbids her from having an account), ask some friends, etc. She has fm done none of the above because (a) she isn't telling the whole truth or (b) she realizes her mother is an over the top nut case and she wants her to stop or (c) all of the above. The fact that op appears so oblivious to the obvious ways to locate this kid makes me think she is either a troll or has no common sense--I am not sure which is worse at this point. Although a troll would be preferable to a grown woman who appears so helpless.

You sound a little nuts. I didn't said nothing was being done, just for the posters calling me helpless to answer the original question I asked. Other than looking in a yearbook, how are we supposed to find the boy's name? How can I search social media without a name or any identifying information? No one has been able to come up with a plan other than wandering the neighborhood. A door to door search of hundreds of houses isn't feasible.

You guys are insulting me, but none of you know how to find his name. Maybe, you guys are the helpless ones?

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Anonymous wrote:If Op's daughter really wanted to find these boys she could borrow a year book, look on Instagram or Twitter (or a friend's account if helicopter mom forbids her from having an account), ask some friends, etc. She has fm done none of the above because (a) she isn't telling the whole truth or (b) she realizes her mother is an over the top nut case and she wants her to stop or (c) all of the above. The fact that op appears so oblivious to the obvious ways to locate this kid makes me think she is either a troll or has no common sense--I am not sure which is worse at this point. Although a troll would be preferable to a grown woman who appears so helpless.

You sound a little nuts. I didn't said nothing was being done, just for the posters calling me helpless to answer the original question I asked. Other than looking in a yearbook, how are we supposed to find the boy's name? How can I search social media without a name or any identifying information? No one has been able to come up with a plan other than wandering the neighborhood. A door to door search of hundreds of houses isn't feasible.

You guys are insulting me, but none of you know how to find his name. Maybe, you guys are the helpless ones?

OP, for the love of god get off the internet and figure it out. If looking in the year book and contacting the school got you nowhere do you really think people online with no knowledge of the school or neighborhood is going to do any better? You daughter saw these people, even if she doesn't know them she needs to help you identify them or this is over, done... not strangers on the internet you need to keep playing the victim to...

Social Media and the Internet for Dummies:
Search by the name of the school,
Search by common friends... search based on activities (your daughter may not know them, but could she guess they were boys from a team sport or something? )

You sound so crazy, of course you and your daughter have a better chance of figuring this out, the fact that you keep coming back here thinking people can help you when you have not one stitch of identifying information to give them makes you seem pathetic... okay OP, I will finally give you what you want , go ahead and call the cops, I am sure they will do all the detective work for you

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Anonymous wrote:If Op's daughter really wanted to find these boys she could borrow a year book, look on Instagram or Twitter (or a friend's account if helicopter mom forbids her from having an account), ask some friends, etc. She has fm done none of the above because (a) she isn't telling the whole truth or (b) she realizes her mother is an over the top nut case and she wants her to stop or (c) all of the above. The fact that op appears so oblivious to the obvious ways to locate this kid makes me think she is either a troll or has no common sense--I am not sure which is worse at this point. Although a troll would be preferable to a grown woman who appears so helpless.

You sound a little nuts. I didn't said nothing was being done, just for the posters calling me helpless to answer the original question I asked. Other than looking in a yearbook, how are we supposed to find the boy's name? How can I search social media without a name or any identifying information? No one has been able to come up with a plan other than wandering the neighborhood. A door to door search of hundreds of houses isn't feasible.

You guys are insulting me, but none of you know how to find his name. Maybe, you guys are the helpless ones?

Seriously lady. You have been given multiple ideas and avenues to pursue. You daughter could find them in short order if she so chose. She has not tried to even borrow a year book much less look on social media. Perhaps, you should be asking why. She either lied to you or wants you to drop the matter.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If Op's daughter really wanted to find these boys she could borrow a year book, look on Instagram or Twitter (or a friend's account if helicopter mom forbids her from having an account), ask some friends, etc. She has fm done none of the above because (a) she isn't telling the whole truth or (b) she realizes her mother is an over the top nut case and she wants her to stop or (c) all of the above. The fact that op appears so oblivious to the obvious ways to locate this kid makes me think she is either a troll or has no common sense--I am not sure which is worse at this point. Although a troll would be preferable to a grown woman who appears so helpless.

You sound a little nuts. I didn't said nothing was being done, just for the posters calling me helpless to answer the original question I asked. Other than looking in a yearbook, how are we supposed to find the boy's name? How can I search social media without a name or any identifying information? No one has been able to come up with a plan other than wandering the neighborhood. A door to door search of hundreds of houses isn't feasible.

You guys are insulting me, but none of you know how to find his name. Maybe, you guys are the helpless ones?

You are a troll. People have ad nauseam told you how to find his name if you want to. Which is crazy that you want to.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If Op's daughter really wanted to find these boys she could borrow a year book, look on Instagram or Twitter (or a friend's account if helicopter mom forbids her from having an account), ask some friends, etc. She has fm done none of the above because (a) she isn't telling the whole truth or (b) she realizes her mother is an over the top nut case and she wants her to stop or (c) all of the above. The fact that op appears so oblivious to the obvious ways to locate this kid makes me think she is either a troll or has no common sense--I am not sure which is worse at this point. Although a troll would be preferable to a grown woman who appears so helpless.

You sound a little nuts. I didn't said nothing was being done, just for the posters calling me helpless to answer the original question I asked. Other than looking in a yearbook, how are we supposed to find the boy's name? How can I search social media without a name or any identifying information? No one has been able to come up with a plan other than wandering the neighborhood. A door to door search of hundreds of houses isn't feasible.

You guys are insulting me, but none of you know how to find his name. Maybe, you guys are the helpless ones?

You are a troll. People have ad nauseam told you how to find his name if you want to. Which is crazy that you want to.

BOOM!

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Anonymous wrote:Exactly! It's not likely to be prosecuted, but the parents and kid need to know that it *could* be.

So OP reports it, there are no witnesses except for the boys egging on the perpetrator. I think that number has been reported as 10 boys, but it may have increased. Dunno.

So we've got the word of 1 girl v. 11 boys, off school grounds, no witnesses, and no signs of physical damage. Sounds like a really strong case...

Why is everyone so obsessed about this. It sounds lIke the goal would be to have a person of authority tell him that's not acceptable. Is the concern that he's too much of a fragile flower for an adult to tell him to cut it out?

Exactly! He needs to have someone make him see that peer pressure/encouragement from friends can't outweigh what he should know is wrong.

There was one child telling him to stop, and 10 more telling him to do it. An adult would put all of that into perspective.

You know what's odd? My daughter is expected to protect herself independently when outnumbered, suck it up and not have an emotional reaction. The boy is just an awkward child who did something stupid and he shouldn't be reminded that his behavior was unacceptable. After all, he's just a child!

If a group of girls had done this to the Op's daughter instead would you still want to make sure that they were held accountable? I ask because girls actually tend to be way worse to other girls than boys are.

Not OP, but I would. I was bullied all throughout school, sometimes it was a one-off for the kid that day, sometimes that kid did it frequently to me and/or others. Either way, I don't care what the gender of the child is, every child should know by middle school if not later ele to keep their hands to themselves.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There are 11 kids within *walking distance* of Op's home - how hard could it be for Op's daughter to know at least the street that one of them lives on?

No, there's at least 1 that lives in walking distance. I don't know about anyone else, but the last day of school when I was in middle school, we all went to someone's house as a group... and some of the kids were normally bussed and others lived in other neighborhoods. So she has to figure out which 1+ kid(s) lives in her neighborhood, and her daughter may not remember the face for that kid if they were at the back of the pack.

[Anonymous]

It is doubtful that things happened they way they have been presented here. If so, op's daughter would have borrowed a year book and identified the kid. She either lied and doesn't want the truth to come out or she wants her mom to butt out because she handled the situation and doesn't want op escalating matters. Either that or op is simply a pathetic troll.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:There are 11 kids within *walking distance* of Op's home - how hard could it be for Op's daughter to know at least the street that one of them lives on?

No, there's at least 1 that lives in walking distance. I don't know about anyone else, but the last day of school when I was in middle school, we all went to someone's house as a group... and some of the kids were normally bussed and others lived in other neighborhoods. So she has to figure out which 1+ kid(s) lives in her neighborhood, and her daughter may not remember the face for that kid if they were at the back of the pack.

11 kids all coming from different neighborhoods usually (but not always) means - Club, Team. Look in the yearbook and see what club/team these kids are all on.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:There are 11 kids within *walking distance* of Op's home - how hard could it be for Op's daughter to know at least the street that one of them lives on?

No, there's at least 1 that lives in walking distance. I don't know about anyone else, but the last day of school when I was in middle school, we all went to someone's house as a group... and some of the kids were normally bussed and others lived in other neighborhoods. So she has to figure out which 1+ kid(s) lives in her neighborhood, and her daughter may not remember the face for that kid if they were at the back of the pack.

11 kids all coming from different neighborhoods usually (but not always) means - Club, Team. Look in the yearbook and see what club/team these kids are all on.

or google a first name, school name, and team sport. Something is bound to pop up on facebook, instagram, or twitter. OP has refused to make such an effort. She's too busy being helpless and outraged.

[Anonymous]

Its been almost a week and all OP has accomplished is arguing on the internet. You'd think she was trying to find Jimmy Hoffa. Maybe if she put half as much energy into finding this boy-rapist, this 12yo piece of human filth, this budding cretin in training, as she has back peddling and bitching and moaning she would find him.

But no.