Boy slapped my daughter's butt on the walk from school

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't know a single 12/13 year old girl who plays outside anymore, unless you count sports team time. They talk to their friends on FaceTime. We've only been in the neighborhood since last fall. Do any posters know the names of the 1,000 people in their office buildings? All 989?

eh, my kids still play outside. Most kids do.

When I worked in a large building I absolutely did not know everyone by name in that building. But I could generally tell you which department they worked in and I usually knew someone in that dept who could have told me their name...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't know a single 12/13 year old girl who plays outside anymore, unless you count sports team time. They talk to their friends on FaceTime. We've only been in the neighborhood since last fall. Do any posters know the names of the 1,000 people in their office buildings? All 989?

I asked by DD and she said it would take about a day to find out the name of any kid in her school -- same size as op's daughter.

That's great, but you nor anyone else can actually give details about how they would do it with school out, other than looking at a yearbook. The question of how was asked 29 pages ago. How quickly your child could find it really isn't that helpful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't know a single 12/13 year old girl who plays outside anymore, unless you count sports team time. They talk to their friends on FaceTime. We've only been in the neighborhood since last fall. Do any posters know the names of the 1,000 people in their office buildings? All 989?

eh, my kids still play outside. Most kids do.

When I worked in a large building I absolutely did not know everyone by name in that building. But I could generally tell you which department they worked in and I usually knew someone in that dept who could have told me their name...

You could get their name if you didn't go to the office or have contact information for the people in that department?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't know a single 12/13 year old girl who plays outside anymore, unless you count sports team time. They talk to their friends on FaceTime. We've only been in the neighborhood since last fall. Do any posters know the names of the 1,000 people in their office buildings? All 989?

I asked by DD and she said it would take about a day to find out the name of any kid in her school -- same size as op's daughter.

That's great, but you nor anyone else can actually give details about how they would do it with school out, other than looking at a yearbook. The question of how was asked 29 pages ago. How quickly your child could find it really isn't that helpful.

You are a grown woman and cannot figure out how so do something that the average 12-13 year old can do?

[Anonymous]

There are 11 kids within *walking distance* of Op's home - how hard could it be for Op's daughter to know at least the street that one of them lives on?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There are 11 kids within *walking distance* of Op's home - how hard could it be for Op's daughter to know at least the street that one of them lives on?

Most likely op's daughter lied to her mom and isn't the innocent victim she proclaims and she ldoesn't want the boys found because the truth will come out. It doesn't take a PhD to find out the name of a kid at school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't know a single 12/13 year old girl who plays outside anymore, unless you count sports team time. They talk to their friends on FaceTime. We've only been in the neighborhood since last fall. Do any posters know the names of the 1,000 people in their office buildings? All 989?

eh, my kids still play outside. Most kids do.

When I worked in a large building I absolutely did not know everyone by name in that building. But I could generally tell you which department they worked in and I usually knew someone in that dept who could have told me their name...

You could get their name if you didn't go to the office or have contact information for the people in that department?

Yes. I would see people from other depts in the work cafeteria or the parking lot or during a fire drill or on a smoke break (I used to smoke). In fact, I met lots of people from other departments that way. You see the direction people walk in, what floor they go to, so you have a general idea of what dept they work in. If I needed to get a person's name for some reason (maybe they dropped something that I wanted to give back to them) I would just ask a person that I did know who worked in that dept.

[Anonymous]

If you escalate this by calling the police or the school or a parent over something that your daughter thinks is over, then do not expect her to tell you the next time something like this happens. Your job as a parent of a tween/teen is to teach your daughter how to handle situations like this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't know a single 12/13 year old girl who plays outside anymore, unless you count sports team time. They talk to their friends on FaceTime. We've only been in the neighborhood since last fall. Do any posters know the names of the 1,000 people in their office buildings? All 989?

eh, my kids still play outside. Most kids do.

When I worked in a large building I absolutely did not know everyone by name in that building. But I could generally tell you which department they worked in and I usually knew someone in that dept who could have told me their name...

You could get their name if you didn't go to the office or have contact information for the people in that department?

Yes. I would see people from other depts in the work cafeteria or the parking lot or during a fire drill or on a smoke break (I used to smoke). In fact, I met lots of people from other departments that way. You see the direction people walk in, what floor they go to, so you have a general idea of what dept they work in. If I needed to get a person's name for some reason (maybe they dropped something that I wanted to give back to them) I would just ask a person that I did know who worked in that dept.

Just realized you were asking if I could have gotten names during a work holiday. Maybe, but it would have been more difficult.

But in the case of kids being off for the summer....well, they live in your neighborhood so, yeah, I wouldn't expect to have to go back to school to figure out who lived around the block from me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you escalate this by calling the police or the school or a parent over something that your daughter thinks is over, then do not expect her to tell you the next time something like this happens. Your job as a parent of a tween/teen is to teach your daughter how to handle situations like this.

This. I think Op's daughter walked in the door upset and Op pounced and....will not let it go.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you escalate this by calling the police or the school or a parent over something that your daughter thinks is over, then do not expect her to tell you the next time something like this happens. Your job as a parent of a tween/teen is to teach your daughter how to handle situations like this.

This. I think Op's daughter walked in the door upset and Op pounced and....will not let it go.

...especially, when her daughter lied in the first place...

[Anonymous]

I suspect that there are some other problems going on w/Op's daughter (possibly other kids) and this boy/this incident is being used as....a scapegoat or an excuse. Something is odd with it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I suspect that there are some other problems going on w/Op's daughter (possibly other kids) and this boy/this incident is being used as....a scapegoat or an excuse. Something is odd with it.

Agree wholeheartedly.

[Anonymous]

Every time I read this thread the OPs story gets embellished.

I think I'm done.

[Anonymous]

Teenage years can be difficult and filled with angst for some kids. I hope Op and her daughter get this all worked out and have a nice summer.