Boy slapped my daughter's butt on the walk from school

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Holy shit. The stuff in middle school and junior high was nothing. Wait until shes a young lady and attracting male attention from all sides. Empower her, don't make her a victim.

I'm not OP- what in the world do you mean by this?

It means my mother told me to stand up for myself. To make clear when an advance was unwanted. She didn't talk to the principal for me and call the police. So when I grew up and faced unwanted male attention in the real world I was able to handle myself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Holy shit. The stuff in middle school and junior high was nothing. Wait until shes a young lady and attracting male attention from all sides. Empower her, don't make her a victim.

I'm not OP- what in the world do you mean by this?

Girls do this stuff too. My brother was getting harassed by a bunch of girls because he was attractive. They would take his stuff and hide them to get his attention. I basically went to the head girl and told her to knock it off. The genders are noticing each other and trying to get each other's attention. Let's criminalize the girls too..stealing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sheesh, adult or not, boy or girl, you don't brush off some random person slapping you on the butt. This kid does need a stern talking to at minimum so he doesn't think he's entitled to slap people (anywhere) just because he feels like it. And the OPs daughter does need some strategies for responding to this kind of behavior.

+1 I think what people are reacting to is the overreaction by calling the police and labeling a 12 yr old a rapist.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Holy shit. The stuff in middle school and junior high was nothing. Wait until shes a young lady and attracting male attention from all sides. Empower her, don't make her a victim.

I'm not OP- what in the world do you mean by this?

Not the PP, but OP could teach her daughter to loudly say, I don't appreciate that! I will be letting the principle and your parents know about this. Or fend off and block the guy. Or hit him.

There are some really bad people in the world. I was walking in Spain when a group of migrant workers came up to me and a gang of them accosted me and assaulted me touching me through my clothes. I fended them off by knocking them off. OP's daughter should figure out how to defend herself and stand up for herself, and assess the situation instead of immediately involving the police.

PP you are responding to. Ok, I see what you are saying. I agree. I also OP should contact the school, and let this be a learning experience for the young man as well that slapping people's butts is not funny or acceptable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Holy shit. The stuff in middle school and junior high was nothing. Wait until shes a young lady and attracting male attention from all sides. Empower her, don't make her a victim.

I'm not OP- what in the world do you mean by this?

Not the PP, but OP could teach her daughter to loudly say, I don't appreciate that! I will be letting the principle and your parents know about this. Or fend off and block the guy. Or hit him.

There are some really bad people in the world. I was walking in Spain when a group of migrant workers came up to me and a gang of them accosted me and assaulted me touching me through my clothes. I fended them off by knocking them off. OP's daughter should figure out how to defend herself and stand up for herself, and assess the situation instead of immediately involving the police.

This is exactly what I meant by my post.

[Anonymous]

Jesus. Haven't read all of the responses. I don't think the lid should be arrested, but the school isn't going to just give me his address and parents' number. How am I supposed to contact them? School is over.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Holy shit. The stuff in middle school and junior high was nothing. Wait until shes a young lady and attracting male attention from all sides. Empower her, don't make her a victim.

I'm not OP- what in the world do you mean by this?

Not the PP, but OP could teach her daughter to loudly say, I don't appreciate that! I will be letting the principle and your parents know about this. Or fend off and block the guy. Or hit him.

There are some really bad people in the world. I was walking in Spain when a group of migrant workers came up to me and a gang of them accosted me and assaulted me touching me through my clothes. I fended them off by knocking them off. OP's daughter should figure out how to defend herself and stand up for herself, and assess the situation instead of immediately involving the police.

PP you are responding to. Ok, I see what you are saying. I agree. I also OP should contact the school, and let this be a learning experience for the young man as well that slapping people's butts is not funny or acceptable.

Helicopter parenting at its finest.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Holy shit. The stuff in middle school and junior high was nothing. Wait until shes a young lady and attracting male attention from all sides. Empower her, don't make her a victim.

I'm not OP- what in the world do you mean by this?

It means my mother told me to stand up for myself. To make clear when an advance was unwanted. She didn't talk to the principal for me and call the police. So when I grew up and faced unwanted male attention in the real world I was able to handle myself.

Ok, that's important, but if nothing happens to the young man, he and his buddies learn that this type of stuff is funny/acceptable. And then women are on the defense everywhere, forever.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Jesus. Haven't read all of the responses. I don't think the lid should be arrested, but the school isn't going to just give me his address and parents' number. How am I supposed to contact them? School is over.

How about let it go.

How about talk to your daughter and say in life (fair or not) sometimes we get unwanted advances and give her the tools to deal with them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Holy shit. The stuff in middle school and junior high was nothing. Wait until shes a young lady and attracting male attention from all sides. Empower her, don't make her a victim.

I'm not OP- what in the world do you mean by this?

Not the PP, but OP could teach her daughter to loudly say, I don't appreciate that! I will be letting the principle and your parents know about this. Or fend off and block the guy. Or hit him.

There are some really bad people in the world. I was walking in Spain when a group of migrant workers came up to me and a gang of them accosted me and assaulted me touching me through my clothes. I fended them off by knocking them off. OP's daughter should figure out how to defend herself and stand up for herself, and assess the situation instead of immediately involving the police.

PP you are responding to. Ok, I see what you are saying. I agree. I also OP should contact the school, and let this be a learning experience for the young man as well that slapping people's butts is not funny or acceptable.

Helicopter parenting at its finest.

Why is this helicopter parenting?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Holy shit. The stuff in middle school and junior high was nothing. Wait until shes a young lady and attracting male attention from all sides. Empower her, don't make her a victim.

I'm not OP- what in the world do you mean by this?

It means my mother told me to stand up for myself. To make clear when an advance was unwanted. She didn't talk to the principal for me and call the police. So when I grew up and faced unwanted male attention in the real world I was able to handle myself.

Ok, that's important, but if nothing happens to the young man, he and his buddies learn that this type of stuff is funny/acceptable. And then women are on the defense everywhere, forever.

Honestly I don't think anything needs to happen. If it were me in this exact situation my older brother would probably have threatened him. Which would go way further than this girls mommy getting his mommy and the principal involved.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Holy shit. The stuff in middle school and junior high was nothing. Wait until shes a young lady and attracting male attention from all sides. Empower her, don't make her a victim.

I'm not OP- what in the world do you mean by this?

It means my mother told me to stand up for myself. To make clear when an advance was unwanted. She didn't talk to the principal for me and call the police. So when I grew up and faced unwanted male attention in the real world I was able to handle myself.

Ok, that's important, but if nothing happens to the young man, he and his buddies learn that this type of stuff is funny/acceptable. And then women are on the defense everywhere, forever.

Honestly I don't think anything needs to happen. If it were me in this exact situation my older brother would probably have threatened him. Which would go way further than this girls mommy getting his mommy and the principal involved.

The good old days where male protective figures looked for you and your dad waited on a porch with a shot gun.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Holy shit. The stuff in middle school and junior high was nothing. Wait until shes a young lady and attracting male attention from all sides. Empower her, don't make her a victim.

I'm not OP- what in the world do you mean by this?

It means my mother told me to stand up for myself. To make clear when an advance was unwanted. She didn't talk to the principal for me and call the police. So when I grew up and faced unwanted male attention in the real world I was able to handle myself.

So if a man slaps your butt today at work, how are you going to stand up for yourself? Are you not going to report him? Is that what OP should teach her daughter, that boys will be boys and it's ridiculous to make a big deal out of unwanted touching?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Holy shit. The stuff in middle school and junior high was nothing. Wait until shes a young lady and attracting male attention from all sides. Empower her, don't make her a victim.

I'm not OP- what in the world do you mean by this?

It means my mother told me to stand up for myself. To make clear when an advance was unwanted. She didn't talk to the principal for me and call the police. So when I grew up and faced unwanted male attention in the real world I was able to handle myself.

Ok, that's important, but if nothing happens to the young man, he and his buddies learn that this type of stuff is funny/acceptable. And then women are on the defense everywhere, forever.

Honestly I don't think anything needs to happen. If it were me in this exact situation my older brother would probably have threatened him. Which would go way further than this girls mommy getting his mommy and the principal involved.

Wait, does OP have an older son to threaten the kid? How is that relevant? I understand that traditionally, behavior like this slides, but I wouldn't let it slide, because I would not want the kid to learn that it is ok to touch women in an unwanted way. We want to change the environment so that young men who slap butts grow into adults who could do worse.

[Anonymous]

* DO NOT grow into adults who could do worse.