I can't be friends with moms of 3+ kids

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow, sweeping generalizations much? I have six kids (2 step kids are included) and have never paid $60 an hour for a babysitter. Hell, because of their age differences, I don't think we've ever had anyone outside the family babysit all the kids at once - it's just never been needed. My kids are very well behaved, and yes, I got easy kids but still, we are strict on behavior and manners and they rise to the occasion.

Maybe try taking each person individually instead of categorizing people.

So you never do anything without your kids? Like you and your DH?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Pp w 5 kids. I socialize w childless people. I have a spouse who can babysit. I really don't see how its any harder than 2 in terms of my social life. Once you need babysitting you need babysitting

Ok Mom of 5 kids. So your spouse babysits? Poor kids don't have a Dad?

So you all need a spouse to babysit. I'm talking about getting together with spouses. Honestly, the spouses are more interesting because they have interesting careers, hang out around adults and are capable of holding a conversation.

Lol. Stereotype much.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You’re old and have an only. We’re still ovulating and have fun fanilies. Can’t relate!

OP here. No, you're not fun. You don't have anything to talk about other than childcare. You're also always tired because you never get any sleep, but you spend your days cooking and cleaning and you complain all the time about your life. So why do this to yourself?

I’m an AVP at a Big Ten. I travel and am a Master’s swimmer. Bye! Sorry you can’t handle more than one lonely child.

This is horrible mean. It was kind of rude of OP to make judgements in her original post, but this is beyond the pale and really reflects poorly on you. Shame on you. So mean.

OP felt free to make some sweeping generalizations. If you dish it out…

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Wow, sweeping generalizations much? I have six kids (2 step kids are included) and have never paid $60 an hour for a babysitter. Hell, because of their age differences, I don't think we've ever had anyone outside the family babysit all the kids at once - it's just never been needed. My kids are very well behaved, and yes, I got easy kids but still, we are strict on behavior and manners and they rise to the occasion.

Maybe try taking each person individually instead of categorizing people.

So you never do anything without your kids? Like you and your DH?

She didn't say she never had a babysitter. She just has family. That's great. I'm the pp w 5 kids and never had more than 25$ an hour babysitter. Do you guys use facebook? College listservs? I seriously have never had anyone ask for more than 25!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Wow, sweeping generalizations much? I have six kids (2 step kids are included) and have never paid $60 an hour for a babysitter. Hell, because of their age differences, I don't think we've ever had anyone outside the family babysit all the kids at once - it's just never been needed. My kids are very well behaved, and yes, I got easy kids but still, we are strict on behavior and manners and they rise to the occasion.

Maybe try taking each person individually instead of categorizing people.

So you never do anything without your kids? Like you and your DH?

Where did you read that?
I’m a dp but also have six kids. We actually got to go out alone a little more once our older kids could babysit. Yes, we paid them but it was easy to arrange on short notice.

[Anonymous]

Are you living near religious cults where women have a bunch of kids and are not allowed out?
Your description just isn’t anything I’ve seen in this area.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You’re old and have an only. We’re still ovulating and have fun fanilies. Can’t relate!

OP here. No, you're not fun. You don't have anything to talk about other than childcare. You're also always tired because you never get any sleep, but you spend your days cooking and cleaning and you complain all the time about your life. So why do this to yourself?

I’m an AVP at a Big Ten. I travel and am a Master’s swimmer. Bye! Sorry you can’t handle more than one lonely child.

You're obviously an exception. Most moms struggle having a career and 3 kids. Many drop working because they can't afford to pay for 3 spots at daycare and keep up with demands of home and work life.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Wow, sweeping generalizations much? I have six kids (2 step kids are included) and have never paid $60 an hour for a babysitter. Hell, because of their age differences, I don't think we've ever had anyone outside the family babysit all the kids at once - it's just never been needed. My kids are very well behaved, and yes, I got easy kids but still, we are strict on behavior and manners and they rise to the occasion.

Maybe try taking each person individually instead of categorizing people.

So you never do anything without your kids? Like you and your DH?

We do, but as I said, because of their age differences we don't need someone to babysit all the kids. They're not close in age. We can pay the older ones to babysit the younger ones. When they were little (0-6) we had a nanny for afternoons/evenings. DH and I can absolutely go out for dinner without the kids and leave them home alone at this point. But again, age spread - two of them have already moved out.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You’re old and have an only. We’re still ovulating and have fun fanilies. Can’t relate!

OP here. No, you're not fun. You don't have anything to talk about other than childcare. You're also always tired because you never get any sleep, but you spend your days cooking and cleaning and you complain all the time about your life. So why do this to yourself?

I’m an AVP at a Big Ten. I travel and am a Master’s swimmer. Bye! Sorry you can’t handle more than one lonely child.

You're obviously an exception. Most moms struggle having a career and 3 kids. Many drop working because they can't afford to pay for 3 spots at daycare and keep up with demands of home and work life.

NP. I’m laughing so hard as I forward this friend to my cousin. She’s a mom of four who was on “The Voice” a few seasons ago. We’ve got a girls’ trip to Nashville coming up.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You’re old and have an only. We’re still ovulating and have fun fanilies. Can’t relate!

OP here. No, you're not fun. You don't have anything to talk about other than childcare. You're also always tired because you never get any sleep, but you spend your days cooking and cleaning and you complain all the time about your life. So why do this to yourself?

I’m an AVP at a Big Ten. I travel and am a Master’s swimmer. Bye! Sorry you can’t handle more than one lonely child.

You're obviously an exception. Most moms struggle having a career and 3 kids. Many drop working because they can't afford to pay for 3 spots at daycare and keep up with demands of home and work life.

(Psst…ever hear of a nanny? Maybe you’re not a high enough earner to be familiar.)

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Wow, sweeping generalizations much? I have six kids (2 step kids are included) and have never paid $60 an hour for a babysitter. Hell, because of their age differences, I don't think we've ever had anyone outside the family babysit all the kids at once - it's just never been needed. My kids are very well behaved, and yes, I got easy kids but still, we are strict on behavior and manners and they rise to the occasion.

Maybe try taking each person individually instead of categorizing people.

So you never do anything without your kids? Like you and your DH?

Where did you read that?
I’m a dp but also have six kids. We actually got to go out alone a little more once our older kids could babysit. Yes, we paid them but it was easy to arrange on short notice.

I saw a TikTok a few days ago about how they did some survey and most people said the most difficult was having 3 kids, that after 4 it got easier, so 4, 5, 6 was easy.

Half of the comments on that TikTok were people saying it got easy, because the older kids got old enough to parent younger kids. Most comments had something to say about those poor older kids who were forced to raise their siblings.

Six kids a a lunacy in my world.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You’re what, 45? I wouldn’t think we’d have much in common. Moms of online are always anxious and defensive anyway.

Pass.

Hey! I’m 45 with one kid, and one of my best friends has three young kids and we see each other all the time. Don’t lump us all us old moms of onlies in with grumpy OP.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You’re what, 45? I wouldn’t think we’d have much in common. Moms of online are always anxious and defensive anyway.

Pass.

Hey! I’m 45 with one kid, and one of my best friends has three young kids and we see each other all the time. Don’t lump us all us old moms of onlies in with grumpy OP.

Fair enough.

[Anonymous]

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NP. I’m laughing so hard as I forward this friend to my cousin. She’s a mom of four who was on “The Voice” a few seasons ago. We’ve got a girls’ trip to Nashville coming up.

Did you cousin sing or something? Is that an accomplishment to audition for a reality show? Well, I have to give her credit. At least she did something fun.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You’re old and have an only. We’re still ovulating and have fun fanilies. Can’t relate!

OP here. No, you're not fun. You don't have anything to talk about other than childcare. You're also always tired because you never get any sleep, but you spend your days cooking and cleaning and you complain all the time about your life. So why do this to yourself?

I’m an AVP at a Big Ten. I travel and am a Master’s swimmer. Bye! Sorry you can’t handle more than one lonely child.

You're obviously an exception. Most moms struggle having a career and 3 kids. Many drop working because they can't afford to pay for 3 spots at daycare and keep up with demands of home and work life.

NP. You must run in a different crowd than I do. I have plenty of SAHM friends, and they almost all dropped out of the workforce after their first. I have 3 kids and have worked full-time as a lawyer throughout my career, and that’s true of the majority of my friends with 2-4 kids as well. Having good interactions with fellow parents is always about the parent’s attitude, level of anxiety, and ability to discipline, IME, regardless of the number of kids involved.