Ladies who made it their job to marry a rich man-how did you do it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not to detail this: but the insistence of women that they are ‘good in bed’. You do know that it’s good for men: Everytime.

So a woman being ‘good’ is often just being joyfully available (to borrow from the fundies). That’s the big secret.

So if that’s ‘how you snagged a rich man’, plenty of other women have mastered that same skill set

This is definitely not true. There are plenty of joyfully available women that are just not good in bed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your premise is false— people don’t sit down and say they are “marrying for money over love”. They limit their dating pool to people who were in strong career fields, or whose families were comfortably off (the Venn diagram between these two groups is nearly a circle). Then just like any other dating relationship they hit it off with someone they want to marry.

I wouldn’t say I know anyone who made it their “job” to marry rich, I would say I know plenty of people who are self aware enough to know they don’t want to be poor or to struggle.

This DH wasn’t super wealthy when we met. But I could tell he was going places. The fact that he was/is an incredible lover was a very nice bonus.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your premise is false— people don’t sit down and say they are “marrying for money over love”. They limit their dating pool to people who were in strong career fields, or whose families were comfortably off (the Venn diagram between these two groups is nearly a circle). Then just like any other dating relationship they hit it off with someone they want to marry.

I wouldn’t say I know anyone who made it their “job” to marry rich, I would say I know plenty of people who are self aware enough to know they don’t want to be poor or to struggle.

Lol who are you fooling. Marrying someone because they're in a top 1% career field and come from a top 1% family is the same thing as marrying rich. This area especially has a gigantic well off middle class, which isn't enough for the ladies here. Why keep up the pretense that many of you all wanted in on the top 1%?

[Anonymous]

I married a normal dude and he became an entrepreneur and it worked out. Life is hard to predict.

[Anonymous]

First wives make men worthy of gold, gold diggers become second wives.

[Anonymous]

I married a motivated guy with a poor family that no one wanted to date when I decided to say yes to him. I wasn’t too needy and I didn’t put too much pressure on the relationship. He wanted to get married before I did. I had some goals I wanted to accomplish first. He respected that and we got married after I hit a career milestone that wasn’t too far off (2 years away).

He makes good money now but not enough for most DCUM single ladies.

[Anonymous]

I married someone equal but his career did better than either of us expected so just a stroke of luck. However, money wasn't a consideration and his family had a lot of debt which he paid off and financially supported them for decades.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Find out within the first couple dates what they do for a living, where they live, what they drive. If it doesn’t meet your standards move on to the next. Never waiting time on someone who doesn’t live a certain life style etc.

I know someone that thought the guy was rich, because he had nice car, dressed well etc. It turned out he had no savings, no assets, and just spent everything on looking the part

Smart people can easily find out what they own etc. No way to hide it these days.

Most wealthy men want marriage and kids. Often they look for a caretaker type woman which is perfectly ok. Just as it is for men who desire attractive women, and yes sex. These two things with men and women will not change no matter what. If women didn't value security and lifestyle she would marry the guy standing on the off ramp, lol.

Funny. I had a golddigger friend DM me out of the blue claiming I’m poor because she couldn’t find where my assets are.

She tried bribing someone at the actual courthouse for my address and they wouldn’t give it to her.

Some assets can’t be found online for everyone. Don’t believe everything you read on the internet either.

[Anonymous]

Thing is that many women marry their equals and then put their own careers on back burner for kids and household responsibilities which makes husbands seem more successful.

[Anonymous]

My spouse had an ex from grad school who first started dating him after he had happened to mention that he had extended family who lived in a place that was known for its very well off residents. After a while she realized that a) his immediate family, while comfortable, was not actually rich, and b) he was interested in a career that involved service to the community rather than making big money. She broke up with him really fast after that, haha.

As it turned out, both her first and second husbands are extremely rich and come from wealthy families. They are both well known and successful in their career fields, and one is mentioned in the news now and then because of his position. I guess she really honed her rich boyfriend/husband finding skills after her experience with my now husband. 😄

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My spouse had an ex from grad school who first started dating him after he had happened to mention that he had extended family who lived in a place that was known for its very well off residents. After a while she realized that a) his immediate family, while comfortable, was not actually rich, and b) he was interested in a career that involved service to the community rather than making big money. She broke up with him really fast after that, haha.

As it turned out, both her first and second husbands are extremely rich and come from wealthy families. They are both well known and successful in their career fields, and one is mentioned in the news now and then because of his position. I guess she really honed her rich boyfriend/husband finding skills after her experience with my now husband. 😄

She’s smart

[Anonymous]

It's easy just decide to love money

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My spouse had an ex from grad school who first started dating him after he had happened to mention that he had extended family who lived in a place that was known for its very well off residents. After a while she realized that a) his immediate family, while comfortable, was not actually rich, and b) he was interested in a career that involved service to the community rather than making big money. She broke up with him really fast after that, haha.

As it turned out, both her first and second husbands are extremely rich and come from wealthy families. They are both well known and successful in their career fields, and one is mentioned in the news now and then because of his position. I guess she really honed her rich boyfriend/husband finding skills after her experience with my now husband. 😄

She’s smart

Maybe about some things. I know other things about her that show she has pretty low standards in her morals about how she treats other people and that she was willing to be involved in dishonesty to get what she wanted in life. As they say, what goes around comes around. I’d rather know that I am honest and treat other people well than be be rich.

[Anonymous]

I am a woman and I have no idea how one makes it a job to marry rich.

I married a guy who I loved and respected, and we've been lucky and unlucky. Life happens. Marrying for money is a stupid thing to do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Find out within the first couple dates what they do for a living, where they live, what they drive. If it doesn’t meet your standards move on to the next. Never waiting time on someone who doesn’t live a certain life style etc.

SMH. My male friends intentionally play down their wealth initially for this very reason.

+1

My male friends can see through this faaaaaast. They smell the desperation, will use you for sex and then goodbye.

Women who have their pick are desirable, appealing women (judging by what men of that pedigree think, not what women think they should think is attractive) who do not chase men.

BS. Your well-off male friends have also made it a job to find a woman who checks the boxes - thin, attractive, highly educated, UMC. They understand it's an exchange and have no problem when these type of women "just so happens" to bump into them at the tennis club, the sailing club, the business school library, the bar below the law office etc. They run faaaaast from women they consider below them in social stature, that's all.