Ladies who made it their job to marry a rich man-how did you do it?

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I’ve only dated rich men- private equity and other finance types, mostly. The key is to be attractive, smart and “fun.” It helps tremendously to run in their circles when it comes to finding them. Aka go to a good undergrad and grad school and your networks will broaden tenfold.

I’m honestly not sure where I would look otherwise- probably latch on to one or two friends from those circles and ask for a set-up or join a social club. My fiancé was a set up from a high school friend, actually. They went to Yale together and we both happened to be single in NYC at the right time.

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Anonymous wrote: Recognize how vile you sound in asking how to marry rich. That's step 1. Then, if you want money, get your ass in gear and work for it.
-A woman

Oh honey if you don’t think being married to a rich man is work...

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Anonymous wrote:Find out within the first couple dates what they do for a living, where they live, what they drive. If it doesn’t meet your standards move on to the next. Never waiting time on someone who doesn’t live a certain life style etc.

SMH. My male friends intentionally play down their wealth initially for this very reason.

Good. That’s another way to weed them out and see it wouldn’t be a match. It’s not always how much money they make it’s how much they’re willing to give and how they view their role as a man. If two people have different beliefs no need to waste any more time than necessary. On to the next.

This exactly. Plenty of wealthy men out there are stingy bastards and/or wary of gold diggers and want to make the women "work for it."

I find nothing wrong with it. Men have the right to keep their money close to them. I wouldn’t call it stingy. If you expect to marry a wealthy man and do nothing, why shouldn’t you work for it? You better be damn good in bed if you can’t bring anything else to the table.

No, of course you don’t dear. But those are very silly girls who get caught up with men who are hiding the ball.

[Anonymous]

I had a Biglaw colleague (business services, not a lawyer) who was blatantly working there to snag a man. She went through a couple of partners, but eventually landed one. Wouldn't want to be married to that guy for all the money in the world, but I hear through the grapevine that she's content. DH's firm (boutique, not Biglaw) also had a receptionist who blatantly cycled through hitting on all the associates. Honestly, it was absolutely hysterical to watch but it worked out for her too - she landed a second year who I don't think had ever been on a date before and stood no chance against her assault.

So I guess the moral of the story is that if you're not picky and really only want $ (although TBH law isn't really next level $$$$$) get yourself a job?

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Anonymous wrote:Find out within the first couple dates what they do for a living, where they live, what they drive. If it doesn’t meet your standards move on to the next. Never waiting time on someone who doesn’t live a certain life style etc.

I know someone that thought the guy was rich, because he had nice car, dressed well etc. It turned out he had no savings, no assets, and just spent everything on looking the part

Smart people can easily find out what they own etc. No way to hide it these days.

Most wealthy men want marriage and kids. Often they look for a caretaker type woman which is perfectly ok. Just as it is for men who desire attractive women, and yes sex. These two things with men and women will not change no matter what. If women didn't value security and lifestyle she would marry the guy standing on the off ramp, lol.

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Anonymous wrote: Recognize how vile you sound in asking how to marry rich. That's step 1. Then, if you want money, get your ass in gear and work for it.
-A woman

Oh honey if you don’t think being married to a rich man is work...

A poor man is much more work though......

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm not talking about being a sugar baby either. Women who were worth less than their current or former husbands and knew they wanted to marry for money over love how did you attract your rich husband?

All my cousins are wealthy through family and their careers. All married homemakers, and are still happily married.

If that makes certain people angry I guess they are miserable. Many on this board, but my advice would be to change your circumstances instead of being jealous of others.

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Anonymous wrote:Meet him in college before he’s rich
Going to top college helps.

And being a good reliable faithful spouse after. That’s how it’s done.

Pretty much this. Any of my friends married money a lot later than that had to do a lot more compromising on their spouse. The truly good ones are snapped up early.

[Anonymous]

A friend of one of my good friends married into a very wealthy/prominent family. She was thin and attractive and attended a top law school, and had working class roots. Post law school she only associated with people from families that were rich and/or influential; she was not rude to people without that background, just disinterested (i experienced this firsthand as I am not from a prominent/rich family). With that narrowed social circle, she met and started dating her husband (they either worked together at a law firm or he was friends with someone from her firm). Then they got married and now she’s living her best life hobnobbing with high society in the city where they live. I am sure others have tried the same thing and failed, but it worked perfectly for her. I can’t imagine that she stays in touch with her family of origin.

[Anonymous]

I dated a couple of men one or two times and thought ... you can’t afford me. So I moved on.

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Anonymous wrote: Recognize how vile you sound in asking how to marry rich. That's step 1. Then, if you want money, get your ass in gear and work for it.
-A woman

Oh honey if you don’t think being married to a rich man is work...

Being married to ANY man is work, but being married to someone financially solvent is easier...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A friend of one of my good friends married into a very wealthy/prominent family. She was thin and attractive and attended a top law school, and had working class roots. Post law school she only associated with people from families that were rich and/or influential; she was not rude to people without that background, just disinterested (i experienced this firsthand as I am not from a prominent/rich family). With that narrowed social circle, she met and started dating her husband (they either worked together at a law firm or he was friends with someone from her firm). Then they got married and now she’s living her best life hobnobbing with high society in the city where they live. I am sure others have tried the same thing and failed, but it worked perfectly for her. I can’t imagine that she stays in touch with her family of origin.

She went to college and made something of herself as well. Not like she was a waitress hoping to snag a rich lawyer. This is a pretty common story, nothing new here.

It fails for some people because they have a poor personality, or lack good manners which others easily spot. I've seen that myself.

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