Men, how do you find a wife who makes around the same as you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Find someone with a good work ethic in grad school or shortly thereafter and humility (i.e. doesn't expect life to be handed to them on a silver platter). The rest is luck.

OP here, so I work in tech which is well known for not valuing anything over a Bachelor’s unless you go into some very specialized work like AI, thus I only have a BS in Computer Science. I have zero plans on ever getting a Master’s degree because I simply don’t need and nobody I work with has one. I guess I’m screwed?

A BS in computer science and you are demanding a high earner wife? No, dude, you are not "screwed", I don't think there's a line of women wanting to screw you. Income notwithstanding.
What's wrong with those programmers, are they all autistic?

[Anonymous]

Top schools. DH and I both went to the same HYPS school — half our classmates are similar, another good chunk met their spouses at top grad schools / post college jobs (same “analyst class”).

[Anonymous]

I make 300k and DH makes 500k. We met 20 yrs ago on the beach in Dewey, DE.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I make 300k and DH makes 500k. We met 20 yrs ago on the beach in Dewey, DE.

Poodle beach?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I make 300k and DH makes 500k. We met 20 yrs ago on the beach in Dewey, DE.

Poodle beach?

Nope. That is in Rehoboth. We met on Dewey beach.

[Anonymous]

I’m in your target income range and make more than twice what my husband does ($105K). No elite schools, no family money, no grad school. The disparity in earning is private v. government job, the latter of which is more flexible and provides better family healthcare. As others have noted, he’s not threatened by my success, doesn’t dump all the household chores on me, and isn’t looking to be taken care of like he’s not an adult.

[Anonymous]

Fair warning OP- men who make the same amount typically have to pull their 50% with kids and chores. Men who marry low earning spouse seem to expect servitude

[Anonymous]

This thread is hilarious

[Anonymous]

First -
Totally unlikely a 25 year old will make $200K. That’s still entry level age.

I married at 33, my husband was 36. He made twice as much as me at the time. After 10 years I made
$25K more. Then he got laid off. Was is employed for a time. He is employed now. Makes decent money, but I make way
More now.

You have no idea how life will turn out.

[Anonymous]

This post seems trolly.

[Anonymous]

I wish my wife made 10x more than me so I could just retire and stay at home and trade stocks all day.

LOVE IT if my wife could make as much or more than me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Seems like every other poster here makes 200-300k and is married to someone else making a salary in this range. How do you guys find women like this? I make in this range as well but every girl I’ve dated earns below 50k. I’m not sure I want to enter a marriage with such a disparity in earnings, but I cannot for the life of me find a single woman who is at my level career wise. Am I dating too young? I mostly stick with women 25-30. I’m
32.

If you want children are you prepared to do 50% ?

[Anonymous]

Don’t throw all the $50k ladies aside. I make a little less than that but have a huge TF....so.....

[Anonymous]

When I met my husband at a happy hour, I was 25 and he was 29. I was earning $70K and he was earning a lot more. He supported me through law school, after which my earnings went way up. He does most of the cooking and cleaning, and is the primary parent. I couldn't keep my job if he wasn't stepping up on the home front.

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At 25-30 my husband made like 50k and I made 40. Now he makes 280 and I make 80 but do most of the kid stuff. My sister in law made 30k when she met her husband at 25, but now at 35 years old brings in 120 and he makes about 150. My point is a lot can happen between 30 and 40 years old career wise. Find someone who is passionate about her career and ambitious like you and the rest will follow.