Mixed-collar dating

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’ve recently started seeing a guy who’s wonderful. However, I have an advanced degree and he’s thoroughly blue-collar. (We’re both in our thirties.) Can it work?

I’ve recently started seeing a woman who’s wonderful. However, I have an advanced degree and she’s thoroughly blue collar. (We’re both in our thirties.) Can it work?

You are making me laugh. No man said that ever.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don’t do this unless you want to live the blue collar life.

Working in coal mines? What sort of blue collar life do you envision for residents of the DC metro area?

Sanitation engineer?

[Anonymous]

[quote=Anonymous]Absolutely not.
Don’t even consider lowering your white collar self to his level. [/quote]

do you understand the term ignorant? Totally no depth person. You are a waste.

[Anonymous]

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Absolutely not.
Don’t even consider lowering your white collar self to his level. [/quote]

do you understand the term ignorant? Totally no depth person. You are a waste.


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do you understand sarcasm? apparently not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Absolutely not.
Don’t even consider lowering your white collar self to his level.

My father was a contractor, so it’s not as though I consider myself “above” him or am unfamiliar with blue collar culture or men. I’m just wondering if there’s anyone here with insight on these kinds of pairings.

OK ... If your father was a contractor and you consider yourself familiar with blue-collar culture (whatever that means), then presumably you would have some insights?

[Anonymous]

It definitely can work if you have a shared culturaL background and values. I see it all the time in my community. I’m AA. Over half of my AA female friends and relatives are professionals and have advanced degrees but are happily married to men who are blue collar and do not have a four year degree. Helps if the guy isn’t insecure about money and feels his work is meaningful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don’t do this unless you want to live the blue collar life.

Working in coal mines? What sort of blue collar life do you envision for residents of the DC metro area?

Sanitation engineer?

Nah, based on DCUM in the past, I think it’s living in ... Woodbridge or Pimmit Hills.

[Anonymous]

Blue-collar people cannot afford Pimmit Hills unless they've bought there a long time ago.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If I ever get divorced or my H passes away, I'd be happy to date someone with their own trade business. I have an ivy degree and a masters from a top school and I think I'm making the same amount as my electrician.

Yes but your income will go up with time, and his won't

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Of course. A partner at my old law firm is married to a firefighter.

Firefighters can be pretty well educated. At our big, well regarded state school, lots of guys get building science degrees and do the general contractor/fireflighter split when they graduate. Extremely lucrative.

My best friend from college (an ivy) who has a very successful career in public administration is married to a firefighter with a masters degree in fire protection sciences. He's a professor on his "off" days.

Point is, i don't think firefighter is particularly "blue collar".

Agree. I think modern firefighters and police--especially those in specialized units--in big cities are increasingly college-educated. I know some well-educated NYPD officers (many of them specialize in a certain type of crime, e.g., white collar crime) and well-educated firefighters (especially in CA, where they need people to direct response to these massive wildfires and who understand how to track these fires and manage resources).

[Anonymous]

My first boss was a super white-collar person (Boston Brahmin, Harvard for undergrad and graduate, Choate Rosemary Hall for boarding school back when it was just Rosemary Hall for girls, etc.), executive at a prestigious company. Married to a guy with no degree who worked with his hands. He took care of her for years at home while she battled a terminal illness and died from it.

[Anonymous]

This is so obviously a troll post.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’ve recently started seeing a guy who’s wonderful. However, I have an advanced degree and he’s thoroughly blue-collar. (We’re both in our thirties.) Can it work?

I’ve recently started seeing a woman who’s wonderful. However, I have an advanced degree and she’s thoroughly blue collar. (We’re both in our thirties.) Can it work?

You are making me laugh. No man said that ever.

I think they were being flip. Men don't care about degrees. My cousin married a cute waitress, he has his own law firm. Same with the other 2 cousins and all women are SAHMs.

[Anonymous]

Of course it can work. For some people it can't because of their narrow and superficial world views. Judge the relationship on it's total package. If it's going to bother you to tell someone your husband is a plumber or contractor, then get out. If he's good at his job, I don't know why you wouldn't be proud of him. Would he be a good husband/father/friend? That's what is important.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’ve recently started seeing a guy who’s wonderful. However, I have an advanced degree and he’s thoroughly blue-collar. (We’re both in our thirties.) Can it work?

I’ve recently started seeing a woman who’s wonderful. However, I have an advanced degree and she’s thoroughly blue collar. (We’re both in our thirties.) Can it work?

You are making me laugh. No man said that ever.

I think they were being flip. Men don't care about degrees. My cousin married a cute waitress, he has his own law firm. Same with the other 2 cousins and all women are SAHMs.

The guys in my circle absolutely do care about degrees. Even if the eventual goal is to "put your wife out of work" they want the hyper educated, successful wife initially. It's another status symbol to be a power couple, at least for a time, and bringing a waitress around all your fellow successful buddies (and their successful wives!) is not impressive.