Mixed-collar dating

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My friend and her (HS educated only) started a PORTA POTTY business. They make at least double what my DH and I make (doctorate and MBA- and both in high paying fields)

People have no clue.

It doesn't matter how much money they make, they still have a disgusting job and no education, which was the whole point.

Those people will never, ever fit in with other UMC/UC people. They have absolutely nothing in common with anyone else in that income strata beyond HHI. On the other hand, a couple with advanced degrees, even if they are literally unemployed, would still have many, many things in common with well-off people, because they shared so many of the same life experiences (private schools, top tier colleges, postgrad experiences, etc.). Whereas the other couple literally shovels sh!t all day. They'll never be respected, they'll never be seen as a leer, as an equal, because they aren't. They're just poorly educated trash with money.

Your response is horrifying and goes against the spirit of America, where honest/hard work is rewarded and socioeconomic mobility is possible. You would do very well in a caste system. Also: the porta potty family's money is green just like the rest of ours.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It depends OP. A lot of blue collar people have no books in their homes and don't speak properly/have poor grammar. It would drive me nuts if someone said "ain't" or something along those lines. If he reads and can speak well -- give him a chance. If he comes from a depraved background...tread cautiously.

Depraved people come in all income brackets. I'm not sure why there is a special PSA here for blue collar depravity.[/quote

Just answering OP's question. You can ask your own question about some other topic.

Since blue collar workers are not more likely than other classes to be depraved, your response is not relevant to the conversation or helpful to OP. Your comment brings to mind rhetoric I've heard recently about why poor immigrants shouldn't be allowed into the US.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My friend and her (HS educated only) started a PORTA POTTY business. They make at least double what my DH and I make (doctorate and MBA- and both in high paying fields)

People have no clue.

It doesn't matter how much money they make, they still have a disgusting job and no education, which was the whole point.

Those people will never, ever fit in with other UMC/UC people. They have absolutely nothing in common with anyone else in that income strata beyond HHI. On the other hand, a couple with advanced degrees, even if they are literally unemployed, would still have many, many things in common with well-off people, because they shared so many of the same life experiences (private schools, top tier colleges, postgrad experiences, etc.). Whereas the other couple literally shovels sh!t all day. They'll never be respected, they'll never be seen as a leer, as an equal, because they aren't. They're just poorly educated trash with money.

Guess which group I'd rather socialize with? I'd rather shovel shit all day than listen to your drivel about your, private schools, top tier colleges, postgrad experiences for 15 minutes. I know so many over-educated idiots who couldn't change a light bulb, much less find meaningful work.

[Anonymous]

I’m a white collar professional with a humanities degree, my DH is a union tradesmen who makes nearly double my income. Most of his coworkers are pretty country (not saying it as a judgement, just in relation to their interests) but DH loves to read; can discuss movies, cultural goings-on, and current events; likes going out to unusual restaurants and trying new things.

I wouldn’t write him off just because of his job or educational background. Some of the posters on here are snobby as hell.

[Anonymous]

Go for the nice blue collar guy as long as your white collar job doesn't make him feel insecure (I tried this and it didn't work). The people that will judge your relationship are not the type of people you want to befriend anyway.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My friend and her (HS educated only) started a PORTA POTTY business. They make at least double what my DH and I make (doctorate and MBA- and both in high paying fields)

People have no clue.

It doesn't matter how much money they make, they still have a disgusting job and no education, which was the whole point.

Those people will never, ever fit in with other UMC/UC people. They have absolutely nothing in common with anyone else in that income strata beyond HHI. On the other hand, a couple with advanced degrees, even if they are literally unemployed, would still have many, many things in common with well-off people, because they shared so many of the same life experiences (private schools, top tier colleges, postgrad experiences, etc.). Whereas the other couple literally shovels sh!t all day. They'll never be respected, they'll never be seen as a leer, as an equal, because they aren't. They're just poorly educated trash with money.

You are definitely not Invited to our pool party.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It depends OP. A lot of blue collar people have no books in their homes and don't speak properly/have poor grammar. It would drive me nuts if someone said "ain't" or something along those lines. If he reads and can speak well -- give him a chance. If he comes from a depraved background...tread cautiously.

Most of the appallingly bookless houses I've been in are UMC.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm married to a public works guy. He's awesome and we love each other a lot.

Fascinating. Are you a housekeeper?

No, our house is quite a mess. But way to try and be an asshole.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Go for the nice blue collar guy as long as your white collar job doesn't make him feel insecure (I tried this and it didn't work). The people that will judge your relationship are not the type of people you want to befriend anyway.

Agree. Nothing against it in theory, but in practice the combination of being more educated and making more money has been a dealbreaker for these guys even if it wasn't for me. Major insecurity and jealousy issues that generally translated into treating me poorly and cheating.

[Anonymous]

It depends... There is no reason on the surface why the relationship can't work but I have seen there be problems. Sometimes, it's because of income (jealousy/ spending). Sometimes, it's because of opportunities (resentment). Sometimes, there is a big difference in upbringing, spending habits, eating, etc. Sometimes, the person earning more money resents the other one.

But stuff happens in all relationships. Weigh everything and see how it goes.