Mixed-collar dating

[Anonymous]

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Absolutely not.
Don’t even consider lowering your white collar self to his level. [/quote]

do you understand the term ignorant? Totally no depth person. You are a waste.


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do you understand sarcasm? apparently not.[/quote]

I’m the PP with that sarcastic reply. Thanks for having my back on the above comment.
Sarcasm, especially when written, is often lost by the reader. But, for those that get it, it usually elicits a good laugh.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’ve recently started seeing a guy who’s wonderful. However, I have an advanced degree and he’s thoroughly blue-collar. (We’re both in our thirties.) Can it work?

I’ve recently started seeing a woman who’s wonderful. However, I have an advanced degree and she’s thoroughly blue collar. (We’re both in our thirties.) Can it work?

You are making me laugh. No man said that ever.

I think they were being flip. Men don't care about degrees. My cousin married a cute waitress, he has his own law firm. Same with the other 2 cousins and all women are SAHMs.

The guys in my circle absolutely do care about degrees. Even if the eventual goal is to "put your wife out of work" they want the hyper educated, successful wife initially. It's another status symbol to be a power couple, at least for a time, and bringing a waitress around all your fellow successful buddies (and their successful wives!) is not impressive.

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I wasn’t going to dignify PP with a response, but I highly doubt brother who owns his own law firm is in a major city. Almost all the SAHMs I know (very wealthy, inside the beltway neighborhood) had a solid career at some point. A few of them had better careers than many of the women who continue to work FT, which is how they met their husbands in the first place.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’ve recently started seeing a guy who’s wonderful. However, I have an advanced degree and he’s thoroughly blue-collar. (We’re both in our thirties.) Can it work?

I’ve recently started seeing a woman who’s wonderful. However, I have an advanced degree and she’s thoroughly blue collar. (We’re both in our thirties.) Can it work?

You are making me laugh. No man said that ever.

I think they were being flip. Men don't care about degrees. My cousin married a cute waitress, he has his own law firm. Same with the other 2 cousins and all women are SAHMs.

The guys in my circle absolutely do care about degrees. Even if the eventual goal is to "put your wife out of work" they want the hyper educated, successful wife initially. It's another status symbol to be a power couple, at least for a time, and bringing a waitress around all your fellow successful buddies (and their successful wives!) is not impressive.

No.
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I wasn’t going to dignify PP with a response, but I highly doubt brother who owns his own law firm is in a major city. Almost all the SAHMs I know (very wealthy, inside the beltway neighborhood) had a solid career at some point. A few of them had better careers than many of the women who continue to work FT, which is how they met their husbands in the first place.

[Anonymous]

The guys in my circle absolutely do care about degrees. Even if the eventual goal is to "put your wife out of work" they want the hyper educated, successful wife initially. It's another status symbol to be a power couple, at least for a time, and bringing a waitress around all your fellow successful buddies (and their successful wives!) is not impressive.

You must hang out with bizarre people. No guy I know cares about “power couples”, nor do any care about his wife being “hyper educated” or not.

[Anonymous]

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The guys in my circle absolutely do care about degrees. Even if the eventual goal is to "put your wife out of work" they want the hyper educated, successful wife initially. It's another status symbol to be a power couple, at least for a time, and bringing a waitress around all your fellow successful buddies (and their successful wives!) is not impressive.

You must hang out with bizarre people. No guy I know cares about “power couples”, nor do any care about his wife being “hyper educated” or not.

Not really, assortative dating/mating has become the norm in the past few decades. The law firm partner marrying the grocery checkout girl is by far the exception to the rule. More commonly, people are marrying others with similar profiles to themselves, who you commonly meet while you are pursuing your own goals or through your own social circle. I don't think that's bizarre.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Yes,

My sister was a Major in the Marines.
Husband was a Command Sgt Major in the Army.

Husband was the best man you could ever find.
He was the best person in my family. Sadly he
passed away from brain cancer two years ago.

Whoa, yeah that's totally not ok. Bet they didn't mention that? Enlisted-officer relationships can get you kicked out.

Across services?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Don’t do this unless you want to live the blue collar life.

Working in coal mines? What sort of blue collar life do you envision for residents of the DC metro area?

I know it's laughable isn't it. My BIL is an electrician. Started a small local business. Did really well, hired a couple of apprentices and now has quite the business. Makes a ton of money. He enjoys what he does.

They live in a nice area, kids go to private schools, overseas vacations. If that's the blue collar life then meh I suppose it's ok. Lol.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes,

My sister was a Major in the Marines.
Husband was a Command Sgt Major in the Army.

Husband was the best man you could ever find.
He was the best person in my family. Sadly he
passed away from brain cancer two years ago.

Whoa, yeah that's totally not ok. Bet they didn't mention that? Enlisted-officer relationships can get you kicked out.

Across services?

Yes, across services. My sister the Major was on her way out. They met in Germany and were stationed on two different bases several hours apart.

[Anonymous]

The fact that you make zero effort in valuing how happy this person makes you feel but are deeply concerned about the blue collar Status shows that, the blue collar person may be lowering a standard with you.

Unbelievable.

Who cares if you are happy?

[Anonymous]

Ignore the people who act like any mention of class is bigotry and/or inciting the communist revolution, OP. This is a smart and sensitive question.


The NYTimes looked at this. V. thought provoking. It made me think this would be more challenge than I would want in a relationship, but YMMV.
https://www.nytimes.com/2005/05/19/us/class/when-richer-weds-poorer-money-isnt-the-only-difference.html

[Anonymous]

I'm in a blue collar profession where get dirty most days. I also make 100 different decisions and have to think on my feet while doing work that is really important to my clients. No college degree but I make more than most people I know who have a degree.

As for your question? No, you should NOT date a guy like me. Your question reveals a level of snootiness that no real man wants anything to do with. Spare the real working men from your ignorance and date that tie wearing office boy. None of us need your attentions.

[Anonymous]

I love this post. I have no degree and I'm blue collar all the way and proud of it. I've fired more guys who hold degrees and can't do the job than guys who never went to college and now make 6 figures.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’ve recently started seeing a guy who’s wonderful. However, I have an advanced degree and he’s thoroughly blue-collar. (We’re both in our thirties.) Can it work?

Tell me more about your "advanced degree" while I get all excited. I've got time. I just put a load in the wash of my dirty work clothes.

[Anonymous]

Our close friends don't care about each others' careers. No one cares that I'm a SAHM without a previous career. I don't care what my best friend's husband does for a living. That's not why I'm friends with her...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Our close friends don't care about each others' careers. No one cares that I'm a SAHM without a previous career. I don't care what my best friend's husband does for a living. That's not why I'm friends with her...

Really? As in you never had a career of any kind?? What did you did before you got married?