Why don't people leave their spouse instead of having affairs?

[Anonymous]

Selfish, want to continue to have their life, family, be taken care of, status..

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Men love their wives and don't think cheating is bad.

Women are stuck and can't afford to leave.

most stupid generalization

Why is cheating bad? The sexless wife gets to enjoy her vision of a happy family with the kids and a devoted husband, while the husband gets his sexual needs (not to be confused with love for his wife) met elsewhere. She is also not affected by the risk of STIs, since they no longer have sex.

Guess cheating is only bad and blamed on the husband when the wife finds out and realises the outcome of her denial, but refuses to accept that she caused it.

Because most cheaters are still having sex with their spouse, not why they cheat. Therefore your reasoning is ridiculous. Just because that's your case doesn't make it everyone elses.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I like living with my children, and my wife enables that. She also enables me to come home to a nice, clean home and healthy meals prepared. I get to have the stable, married life as well as the excitement my AP provides. Why would I divorce? It would also be a big hit for me financially. Living in two separate homes would be far more expensive than the current arrangement. And like I said, there are benefits to living with my wife, even if I'm not interested in sleeping with her.

This just shows a lack of respect for your wife

And your point is??

There is no self respect or respect for his spouse or kids. Your marriage is not stable. Do you want to set the example it is ok and your kids cheat or get cheated on? My Dad is like that poster. When mom and we found out, all hell broke loose. Now, we barely have a relationship. He chose his girlfriends/AP over us. Now, he's lonely in an assisted living and thinks we should be so grateful to him as he is Dad when he never thought about us then, so why should we think about him now. (and he only wants to see us if he's bored between women friends).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Men love their wives and don't think cheating is bad.

Women are stuck and can't afford to leave.

most stupid generalization

Sadly most people follow a pattern.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I like living with my children, and my wife enables that. She also enables me to come home to a nice, clean home and healthy meals prepared. I get to have the stable, married life as well as the excitement my AP provides. Why would I divorce? It would also be a big hit for me financially. Living in two separate homes would be far more expensive than the current arrangement. And like I said, there are benefits to living with my wife, even if I'm not interested in sleeping with her.

And you'd end up having to actually take care of your own kids by yourself half the time. You suck as a human being (and your kids know it).

If he's working and spending time with his AP, he isn't taking care of his kids at all. His wife does everything.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Men love their wives and don't think cheating is bad.

Women are stuck and can't afford to leave.

most stupid generalization

Why is cheating bad? The sexless wife gets to enjoy her vision of a happy family with the kids and a devoted husband, while the husband gets his sexual needs (not to be confused with love for his wife) met elsewhere. She is also not affected by the risk of STIs, since they no longer have sex.

Guess cheating is only bad and blamed on the husband when the wife finds out and realises the outcome of her denial, but refuses to accept that she caused it.

Most men that cheat are also getting it at home. Sorry if you are not able to double dip like most.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Men love their wives and don't think cheating is bad.

Women are stuck and can't afford to leave.

most stupid generalization

Sadly most people follow a pattern.

Women cheat too. My husband's ex cheated and left to be with her AP. They can leave, they do leave and screw over the husband's by taking the kids and refusing access to the kid. They get a child support check, alimony and the AP income.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Men love their wives and don't think cheating is bad.

Women are stuck and can't afford to leave.

most stupid generalization

Why is cheating bad? The sexless wife gets to enjoy her vision of a happy family with the kids and a devoted husband, while the husband gets his sexual needs (not to be confused with love for his wife) met elsewhere. She is also not affected by the risk of STIs, since they no longer have sex.

Guess cheating is only bad and blamed on the husband when the wife finds out and realises the outcome of her denial, but refuses to accept that she caused it.

Because most cheaters are still having sex with their spouse, not why they cheat. Therefore your reasoning is ridiculous. Just because that's your case doesn't make it everyone elses.

It's the other way round. According to DCUM and real life where the 80/20 rule applies - 80% of cheaters are deprived of sex at home, while 20% of cheaters still have sex with their spouses.

[Anonymous]

Anyone who legitimately is confused by this question is either 14 years old or on the autism spectrum.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Men love their wives and don't think cheating is bad.

Women are stuck and can't afford to leave.

most stupid generalization

Sadly most people follow a pattern.

Women cheat too. My husband's ex cheated and left to be with her AP. They can leave, they do leave and screw over the husband's by taking the kids and refusing access to the kid. They get a child support check, alimony and the AP income.

Women cheat for different reasons. Most do it as an exit plan. Few APs take them though, so it's a badly hatched plan. Mental illness with women that cheat is very high... something like 95% of bipolar women cheat.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Men love their wives and don't think cheating is bad.

Women are stuck and can't afford to leave.

most stupid generalization

Why is cheating bad? The sexless wife gets to enjoy her vision of a happy family with the kids and a devoted husband, while the husband gets his sexual needs (not to be confused with love for his wife) met elsewhere. She is also not affected by the risk of STIs, since they no longer have sex.

Guess cheating is only bad and blamed on the husband when the wife finds out and realises the outcome of her denial, but refuses to accept that she caused it.

Because most cheaters are still having sex with their spouse, not why they cheat. Therefore your reasoning is ridiculous. Just because that's your case doesn't make it everyone elses.

It's the other way round. According to DCUM and real life where the 80/20 rule applies - 80% of cheaters are deprived of sex at home, while 20% of cheaters still have sex with their spouses.

It's actually 50/50 and don't ask me to post the research I've done it 100's of times on this forum, but a few incels don't want to know most dudes are getting it by multiple women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Men love their wives and don't think cheating is bad.

Women are stuck and can't afford to leave.

That's more often the case. However, once the husband cheats the woman is a free to do what she wants. He broke the vows, she is a free agent at that point.

Fixed it for you: Once the wife announces the end of sex (through numerous rejections), the man is a free to do what he wants, including cheating. She broke the marriage vow (to have and to hold) FIRST, and hence he is free to seek sex outside the marriage.

You seem strangely fixated on the presumed lack of sex. Tons of men who have abundant sex at home still cheat because they want variety, and because one simply cannot have the same level of interest in the same sexual partner after sleeping with them every night. The fact is that APs provide variety a wife cannot deliver no matter how much she tries to add "spice."

[Anonymous]

To have your cake and eat it too.

OP, if you can't understand this, then you don't know much about life.

[Anonymous]

Because they're cowards.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Men love their wives and don't think cheating is bad.

Women are stuck and can't afford to leave.

most stupid generalization

Why is cheating bad? The sexless wife gets to enjoy her vision of a happy family with the kids and a devoted husband, while the husband gets his sexual needs (not to be confused with love for his wife) met elsewhere. She is also not affected by the risk of STIs, since they no longer have sex.

Guess cheating is only bad and blamed on the husband when the wife finds out and realises the outcome of her denial, but refuses to accept that she caused it.

Most men that cheat are also getting it at home. Sorry if you are not able to double dip like most.

Agreed. Most cheaters are also having (or can have) sex with their spouse.