Why don't people leave their spouse instead of having affairs?

[Anonymous]

I never understood this. If you're able to find other people that you prefer than who you're with, then what's the point of wasting everyone's time? I read these threads of how people miss their ex-APs so much and it's honestly hurtful to even read and I can't imagine what their spouses would think.

I just need this explained to me.

[Anonymous]

How would a sahm support herself genius?

[Anonymous]

Sometimes the AP doesn't feel the same way and doesn't want to leave their spouse.

Sometimes people stay married "for the kids".

[Anonymous]

You don't break up your kids home for an affair. Do you not have kids OP?

[Anonymous]

health insurance from spouse

[Anonymous]

I thought most APs are for sex and excitement, not for long term.

[Anonymous]

Money

Kids

[Anonymous]

Cheater does not want to give spouse half of assets.
Cheater has no moral compass. Cheater is ok with
risking STD's.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sometimes the AP doesn't feel the same way and doesn't want to leave their spouse.

In my mind, if someone is having an affair, then it seems like that person would be better off spending their time finding someone else. It's line they are wasting everyone's life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I never understood this. If you're able to find other people that you prefer than who you're with, then what's the point of wasting everyone's time? I read these threads of how people miss their ex-APs so much and it's honestly hurtful to even read and I can't imagine what their spouses would think.

I just need this explained to me.

Aversion to conflict.
Don't want to lose daily interaction with children.
Inertia.
Finances.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How would a sahm support herself genius?

She gets a job, duh.

[Anonymous]

What? Are you dumb? Because divorce costs A LOT OF MONEY and blows up your children’s life! Christ, if I found out my spouse was banging someone from work, divorce would be the absolute last resort FOR ME, the cheated-on spouse. It has nothing to do with “honoring marriage vows” or whatever the f** people on this forum whinge about, and everything to do with keeping a stable family unit for the kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What? Are you dumb? Because divorce costs A LOT OF MONEY and blows up your children’s life! Christ, if I found out my spouse was banging someone from work, divorce would be the absolute last resort FOR ME, the cheated-on spouse. It has nothing to do with “honoring marriage vows” or whatever the f** people on this forum whinge about, and everything to do with keeping a stable family unit for the kids.

If your husband is balls deep in someone other than you, your family unit is not stable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I never understood this. If you're able to find other people that you prefer than who you're with, then what's the point of wasting everyone's time? I read these threads of how people miss their ex-APs so much and it's honestly hurtful to even read and I can't imagine what their spouses would think.

I just need this explained to me.

Because they don’t want to leave their spouse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How would a sahm support herself genius?

She gets a job, duh.

Why would she do that when she has someone bringing home the money already? It's much easier to get a side piece than a $200k job for a sahm