Why don't people leave their spouse instead of having affairs?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Men like to chase women.

Not really. Men would prefer equity in this pursuit. Men chase women (sexually) because women just are not motivated to do any of the work.

Anonymous wrote:The high drive ones have sex because they want to.

true

Anonymous wrote:Men marry the low drive ones thinking it is a prize, only to find themselves in sexless marriages years later.

The low drive women pretend to be high drive (without even realizing this) but then after a few years of marriage, their low drive is revealed.

Anonymous wrote:Men still live the fruitless chase.

true

[Anonymous]

I also, as a woman have always loved sex with my husband. At 51 I still do and am still very attracted to him after 25 years. What is different though is the physical craving....when we were younger we both would feel a stronger physical desire for sex. I don't feel that as strongly before, now I feel it once we start. We enjoy it and value it so we do it. But no, the physical craving and desire if we go 10 days without sex is not the same. But it is still awesome, and still intense sometimes too but its mellower

[Anonymous]

At 49, i still physically crave sex. I masturbate twice a night even while sexually active. Due to my partners age, he can't go more than 2 or 3 times a night, once a week, and i still masturbate after the 3rd time. Sex softens me. I would love it every night.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe asking this question on DCUM is just opening Pandora' Box, but are there really that many wives out there who just have no interest in sex anymore after a certain period of time? I've had two long-term relationships in my life, a girlfriend (10 years) and then my wife (6 years), and neither of them ever went more than a week at most without initiating sex (outside of circumstances like illness).

I had a friend whose wife stopped being interested in sex, claiming childcare, household chores, stress, and being married for 10+ years killed her sex drive. Turns out that just meant her sex drive with him. She didn't have any trouble having sex with her boss several times a week. Are women who stop having sex with their husbands/boyfriends stopping altogether, or just stopping with their spouse?

Either one is legit. I could easily stop having sex with my spouse and not replace him with somebody else. But if somebody else were to come along .... I could easily make it happen a few times a week!!!

Why could you "easily" stop having sex with your spouse but could also "easily" make it happen a few times a week with someone else? If the sex drive is there, how could you just stop?

Fair point. If I stopped having sex with my husband I'd have to replace him with somebody else, because I do like sex. But my drive for sex with him is low low lower than it would be with somebody new. I am not hot for him. I am hot for others.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe asking this question on DCUM is just opening Pandora' Box, but are there really that many wives out there who just have no interest in sex anymore after a certain period of time? I've had two long-term relationships in my life, a girlfriend (10 years) and then my wife (6 years), and neither of them ever went more than a week at most without initiating sex (outside of circumstances like illness).

I had a friend whose wife stopped being interested in sex, claiming childcare, household chores, stress, and being married for 10+ years killed her sex drive. Turns out that just meant her sex drive with him. She didn't have any trouble having sex with her boss several times a week. Are women who stop having sex with their husbands/boyfriends stopping altogether, or just stopping with their spouse?

Either one is legit. I could easily stop having sex with my spouse and not replace him with somebody else. But if somebody else were to come along .... I could easily make it happen a few times a week!!!

Why could you "easily" stop having sex with your spouse but could also "easily" make it happen a few times a week with someone else? If the sex drive is there, how could you just stop?

Fair point. If I stopped having sex with my husband I'd have to replace him with somebody else, because I do like sex. But my drive for sex with him is low low lower than it would be with somebody new. I am not hot for him. I am hot for others.

So basically, it's the desire for someone new, sexually. Your desire to have sex with your husband has dropped off because it's too familiar.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe asking this question on DCUM is just opening Pandora' Box, but are there really that many wives out there who just have no interest in sex anymore after a certain period of time? I've had two long-term relationships in my life, a girlfriend (10 years) and then my wife (6 years), and neither of them ever went more than a week at most without initiating sex (outside of circumstances like illness).

I had a friend whose wife stopped being interested in sex, claiming childcare, household chores, stress, and being married for 10+ years killed her sex drive. Turns out that just meant her sex drive with him. She didn't have any trouble having sex with her boss several times a week. Are women who stop having sex with their husbands/boyfriends stopping altogether, or just stopping with their spouse?

Either one is legit. I could easily stop having sex with my spouse and not replace him with somebody else. But if somebody else were to come along .... I could easily make it happen a few times a week!!!

Why could you "easily" stop having sex with your spouse but could also "easily" make it happen a few times a week with someone else? If the sex drive is there, how could you just stop?

Fair point. If I stopped having sex with my husband I'd have to replace him with somebody else, because I do like sex. But my drive for sex with him is low low lower than it would be with somebody new. I am not hot for him. I am hot for others.

So basically, it's the desire for someone new, sexually. Your desire to have sex with your husband has dropped off because it's too familiar.

Did it really take 20 pages of DCUM commentary to reveal this shocking truth, which basically everyone who has a brain in their head and an ounce of experience with relationships knows?

grow up everyone - sex with a spouse of 20 years is not going to be the same as sex with a new partner. for better or for worse! if you are not up for the evolution of bodies and minds (including sex drives) over decades, then you should not get married.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe asking this question on DCUM is just opening Pandora' Box, but are there really that many wives out there who just have no interest in sex anymore after a certain period of time? I've had two long-term relationships in my life, a girlfriend (10 years) and then my wife (6 years), and neither of them ever went more than a week at most without initiating sex (outside of circumstances like illness).

I had a friend whose wife stopped being interested in sex, claiming childcare, household chores, stress, and being married for 10+ years killed her sex drive. Turns out that just meant her sex drive with him. She didn't have any trouble having sex with her boss several times a week. Are women who stop having sex with their husbands/boyfriends stopping altogether, or just stopping with their spouse?

Either one is legit. I could easily stop having sex with my spouse and not replace him with somebody else. But if somebody else were to come along .... I could easily make it happen a few times a week!!!

Why could you "easily" stop having sex with your spouse but could also "easily" make it happen a few times a week with someone else? If the sex drive is there, how could you just stop?

Fair point. If I stopped having sex with my husband I'd have to replace him with somebody else, because I do like sex. But my drive for sex with him is low low lower than it would be with somebody new. I am not hot for him. I am hot for others.

This is clearly not written by a woman but by an MRA troll.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe asking this question on DCUM is just opening Pandora' Box, but are there really that many wives out there who just have no interest in sex anymore after a certain period of time? I've had two long-term relationships in my life, a girlfriend (10 years) and then my wife (6 years), and neither of them ever went more than a week at most without initiating sex (outside of circumstances like illness).

I had a friend whose wife stopped being interested in sex, claiming childcare, household chores, stress, and being married for 10+ years killed her sex drive. Turns out that just meant her sex drive with him. She didn't have any trouble having sex with her boss several times a week. Are women who stop having sex with their husbands/boyfriends stopping altogether, or just stopping with their spouse?

Either one is legit. I could easily stop having sex with my spouse and not replace him with somebody else. But if somebody else were to come along .... I could easily make it happen a few times a week!!!

Why could you "easily" stop having sex with your spouse but could also "easily" make it happen a few times a week with someone else? If the sex drive is there, how could you just stop?

Fair point. If I stopped having sex with my husband I'd have to replace him with somebody else, because I do like sex. But my drive for sex with him is low low lower than it would be with somebody new. I am not hot for him. I am hot for others.

This is clearly not written by a woman but by an MRA troll.

Not at all.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe asking this question on DCUM is just opening Pandora' Box, but are there really that many wives out there who just have no interest in sex anymore after a certain period of time? I've had two long-term relationships in my life, a girlfriend (10 years) and then my wife (6 years), and neither of them ever went more than a week at most without initiating sex (outside of circumstances like illness).

I had a friend whose wife stopped being interested in sex, claiming childcare, household chores, stress, and being married for 10+ years killed her sex drive. Turns out that just meant her sex drive with him. She didn't have any trouble having sex with her boss several times a week. Are women who stop having sex with their husbands/boyfriends stopping altogether, or just stopping with their spouse?

Either one is legit. I could easily stop having sex with my spouse and not replace him with somebody else. But if somebody else were to come along .... I could easily make it happen a few times a week!!!

Why could you "easily" stop having sex with your spouse but could also "easily" make it happen a few times a week with someone else? If the sex drive is there, how could you just stop?

Fair point. If I stopped having sex with my husband I'd have to replace him with somebody else, because I do like sex. But my drive for sex with him is low low lower than it would be with somebody new. I am not hot for him. I am hot for others.

So basically, it's the desire for someone new, sexually. Your desire to have sex with your husband has dropped off because it's too familiar.

Not exactly. I mean ... 1) I'm still having sex with my husband 2) a drop in desire for him is due to other issues we have and 3) of course newness is exciting!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe asking this question on DCUM is just opening Pandora' Box, but are there really that many wives out there who just have no interest in sex anymore after a certain period of time? I've had two long-term relationships in my life, a girlfriend (10 years) and then my wife (6 years), and neither of them ever went more than a week at most without initiating sex (outside of circumstances like illness).

I had a friend whose wife stopped being interested in sex, claiming childcare, household chores, stress, and being married for 10+ years killed her sex drive. Turns out that just meant her sex drive with him. She didn't have any trouble having sex with her boss several times a week. Are women who stop having sex with their husbands/boyfriends stopping altogether, or just stopping with their spouse?

Either one is legit. I could easily stop having sex with my spouse and not replace him with somebody else. But if somebody else were to come along .... I could easily make it happen a few times a week!!!

Why could you "easily" stop having sex with your spouse but could also "easily" make it happen a few times a week with someone else? If the sex drive is there, how could you just stop?

Fair point. If I stopped having sex with my husband I'd have to replace him with somebody else, because I do like sex. But my drive for sex with him is low low lower than it would be with somebody new. I am not hot for him. I am hot for others.

This is clearly not written by a woman but by an MRA troll.

why is this your go-to response? is simply unfathomable to you that women really enjoy sex - just as much as men do? if you're not one of those women, then just move on to the next thread and stop with the hating already.

[Anonymous]

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Fair point. If I stopped having sex with my husband I'd have to replace him with somebody else, because I do like sex. But my drive for sex with him is low low lower than it would be with somebody new. I am not hot for him. I am hot for others.

So basically, it's the desire for someone new, sexually. Your desire to have sex with your husband has dropped off because it's too familiar.

Not exactly. I mean ... 1) I'm still having sex with my husband 2) a drop in desire for him is due to other issues we have and 3) of course newness is exciting!

And the "other issues" that have lowered your desire for sex with your husband are....?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:^ Not true. I am still attracted to my husband after 20+ years.

Perhaps you are one of the few I mentioned? But let's just see about that. Being "attracted to" your husband is different from wanting sex with him. Well? And how often do YOU initiate? How often do you reject?

Now take a poll amongst your long time married lady friends. You will see that I am right, that you are (by far!) the exception on this matter.

AND....their husbands are getting sex somewhere other than home. If you are okay with that, then that's your business and fine by me...but don't think your husband and your friends husbands aren't getting laid. PLEASE.

I want my husband every day....and I mean crave him. We have been doing it for 20 years.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe asking this question on DCUM is just opening Pandora' Box, but are there really that many wives out there who just have no interest in sex anymore after a certain period of time? I've had two long-term relationships in my life, a girlfriend (10 years) and then my wife (6 years), and neither of them ever went more than a week at most without initiating sex (outside of circumstances like illness).

I had a friend whose wife stopped being interested in sex, claiming childcare, household chores, stress, and being married for 10+ years killed her sex drive. Turns out that just meant her sex drive with him. She didn't have any trouble having sex with her boss several times a week. Are women who stop having sex with their husbands/boyfriends stopping altogether, or just stopping with their spouse?

Either one is legit. I could easily stop having sex with my spouse and not replace him with somebody else. But if somebody else were to come along .... I could easily make it happen a few times a week!!!

Why could you "easily" stop having sex with your spouse but could also "easily" make it happen a few times a week with someone else? If the sex drive is there, how could you just stop?

Fair point. If I stopped having sex with my husband I'd have to replace him with somebody else, because I do like sex. But my drive for sex with him is low low lower than it would be with somebody new. I am not hot for him. I am hot for others.

This is clearly not written by a woman but by an MRA troll.

why is this your go-to response? is simply unfathomable to you that women really enjoy sex - just as much as men do? if you're not one of those women, then just move on to the next thread and stop with the hating already.

That's not my point. Misogynistic jerks always say that wives will not desire their husbands but will cheat on them with a new guy. I love my husband and love having sex with him after 15 years.

[Anonymous]

Bottom line...women who have a high sex drive have marriages that are more likely grounded in true love and wanting to be in the marriage, affection, etc. Not having sex means you lose intimacy and affection, which you can't sustain and also be happy. Otherwise, you have a roommate folks.

Women who give it up for the first two years, but then just cut it off, or never initiate, end up with miserable men who are banging every young girl that will let him. My husband tells me all the time how great it feels that I initiate. He says it makes him feel wanted and loved.

I work with a lot of men, the ones that have no sex life at home, cheat - ALL THE TIME. And it is shocking to me how easy it is for them. One guy, 55, bald and not skinny, but he has a 26 year old AP that is HOT. She likes that he spoils her, she gets sex, lots of free dinners, etc., without the commitment. Watch out ladies, these women love that you don't have sex with your husbands.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:^ Not true. I am still attracted to my husband after 20+ years.

Perhaps you are one of the few I mentioned? But let's just see about that. Being "attracted to" your husband is different from wanting sex with him. Well? And how often do YOU initiate? How often do you reject?

Now take a poll amongst your long time married lady friends. You will see that I am right, that you are (by far!) the exception on this matter.

AND....their husbands are getting sex somewhere other than home. If you are okay with that, then that's your business and fine by me...but don't think your husband and your friends husbands aren't getting laid. PLEASE.

I want my husband every day....and I mean crave him. We have been doing it for 20 years.

Don't be sexists, not only the husbands. Many wives are also getting laid somewhere. New is definitely exciting.