Baby sitter’s daughter looks like DHs side of the family

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Anonymous wrote:Why do you keep referring to you child as adopted child? First time was informative, but the rest plain weird. Just say your child and move on.

oh, it's still not obvious to you that OP has issues? Bless your heart!

[Anonymous]

You are a troll.

On the off chance you are not, one of my children is strawberry blond (thus has light reddish hair) while there are no blonds on either side of our family and the closest you get to redheads was my late grandmother. I have a friend with auburn hair whose parents are very dark haired - her grandfather was a redhead and the hair skipped a generation. You really can't base anything on that.

[Anonymous]

Is she still your babysitter?

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Anonymous wrote:They adopted their own child and this was the babysitter from what I read. Maybe not a current one, but they are still in contact...maybe...My niece invited her old babysitter to her wedding.

OP can you clarify? And what do you mean you're not "paranoid"? I would dna that kid so fast it would make your head spin, lol...if the resemblance was that similar.

Our child is adopted. Years ago I would have done DNA right away, but honestly now, I am reluctant. My head is racing. Thinking about things like property being split and so in. Our own child’s inheritance. I simply don’t want to know. However I might not be totally in control of that. BTW it’s not just hair color, it’s complexion.

How would you do a dna test on someone else's child?

All you need is a strand of hair or saliva.

The easiest route is to offer the girl water. The girl is 4 so you could also play hair salon and get a strand of hair form the brush. This is not that hard.

[Anonymous]

Dang, so the kid whos not biologically his is gonna get all his inheritance, not his biological kid???

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are 60 and 55. Why exactly do you have a babysitter currently?

Yes. I'm stuck here, too.

BTW: my sister is a redhead. No other redheads in the family. I guess I should DNA test her.

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Anonymous wrote:We don't know where OP lives.

Adjudicating parentage is a lengthy process. A court will not automatically overturn a "legal" father who signed the birth certificate. If it's after two years not easy. Probably won't change the child's name either.

OP what state are you in?

Live in PA.
Do you mean that if she comes forward demanding support and so on, DH wouldn’t have to pay?
What about inheritance.

Not in PA, the legal father is the one on the birth certificate. The only way that child could get inheritance is if you husband chose to leave some.

So if no divorce then all money would go to adopted child?

OP if you never divorce it would depend on how you do your will or trust. If he dies first I would imagine it would go to you and vise versa. Homes are mostly titled right of survivorship meaning the title transfers right to the surviving spouse. If you have questions you should talk to an estate attorney. Otherwise, this child poses no threat. If that's your concern.

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Anonymous wrote:They adopted their own child and this was the babysitter from what I read. Maybe not a current one, but they are still in contact...maybe...My niece invited her old babysitter to her wedding.

OP can you clarify? And what do you mean you're not "paranoid"? I would dna that kid so fast it would make your head spin, lol...if the resemblance was that similar.

Our child is adopted. Years ago I would have done DNA right away, but honestly now, I am reluctant. My head is racing. Thinking about things like property being split and so in. Our own child’s inheritance. I simply don’t want to know. However I might not be totally in control of that. BTW it’s not just hair color, it’s complexion.

How would you do a dna test on someone else's child?

All you need is a strand of hair or saliva.

The easiest route is to offer the girl water. The girl is 4 so you could also play hair salon and get a strand of hair form the brush. This is not that hard.

Lots of ways. Knives or forks, cups, toothbrush, etc.

It's not hard, better than wasting all this oxygen wondering.

[Anonymous]

Joel, the house is surrounded. Do exactly as we say, and no one gets hurt. Get off the babysitter! Put on your pants, and come out with your hands up!

[Anonymous]

I’m blonde and DH has brown hair. We have one child with brown, one with blonde, and one with bright red. Neither of us knows where the red came from. Genetics are weird.

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TRUST YOUR GUT. YOU KNOW THE TRUTH.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is she still your babysitter?

No

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Dang, so the kid whos not biologically his is gonna get all his inheritance, not his biological kid???

Honestly, this is what makes me believe that he could have done it. Never accepting the child that we have.

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Anonymous wrote:They adopted their own child and this was the babysitter from what I read. Maybe not a current one, but they are still in contact...maybe...My niece invited her old babysitter to her wedding.

OP can you clarify? And what do you mean you're not "paranoid"? I would dna that kid so fast it would make your head spin, lol...if the resemblance was that similar.

Our child is adopted. Years ago I would have done DNA right away, but honestly now, I am reluctant. My head is racing. Thinking about things like property being split and so in. Our own child’s inheritance. I simply don’t want to know. However I might not be totally in control of that. BTW it’s not just hair color, it’s complexion.

Wait. So you think that possibly your infertile 51 year old husband slept with the 19 year old babysitter and knocked her up, and produced a genetic twin to his mom that nobody's told you about?
And y'all are wealthy enough that you're scared to lose your inheritance for your adopted kid, but not wealthy enough that this babysitter isn't going to sue for paternity testing / DNA / child support and 1/2 of everything?

What is so remarkable about her kid's complexion, unless he's a different race and the kid's alleged dad isn't?

Why would the babysitter not agree / admit if there's inheritance / $ / property / child support involved?

So you think that possibly your infertile 51 year old husband slept with the 19 year old babysitter and knocked her up, and produced a genetic twin to his mom that nobody's told you about?

NP idiot. The father may be fertile but the wife isn't. Infertility isn't always because both partners are infertile.

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Anonymous wrote:They adopted their own child and this was the babysitter from what I read. Maybe not a current one, but they are still in contact...maybe...My niece invited her old babysitter to her wedding.

OP can you clarify? And what do you mean you're not "paranoid"? I would dna that kid so fast it would make your head spin, lol...if the resemblance was that similar.

Our child is adopted. Years ago I would have done DNA right away, but honestly now, I am reluctant. My head is racing. Thinking about things like property being split and so in. Our own child’s inheritance. I simply don’t want to know. However I might not be totally in control of that. BTW it’s not just hair color, it’s complexion.

Wait. So you think that possibly your infertile 51 year old husband slept with the 19 year old babysitter and knocked her up, and produced a genetic twin to his mom that nobody's told you about?
And y'all are wealthy enough that you're scared to lose your inheritance for your adopted kid, but not wealthy enough that this babysitter isn't going to sue for paternity testing / DNA / child support and 1/2 of everything?

What is so remarkable about her kid's complexion, unless he's a different race and the kid's alleged dad isn't?

Why would the babysitter not agree / admit if there's inheritance / $ / property / child support involved?

So you think that possibly your infertile 51 year old husband slept with the 19 year old babysitter and knocked her up, and produced a genetic twin to his mom that nobody's told you about?

NP idiot. The father may be fertile but the wife isn't. Infertility isn't always because both partners are infertile.

Also she said her husband is 55 not 51. Can you even read?