Baby sitter’s daughter looks like DHs side of the family

[Anonymous]

OP you wanted a child so bad that you adopted. Yet the thought of your DH actually fathering one only leads you to be concerned about your own kids inheritance.

Not one concern about the other kid in this mess expressed. Sad all around.

[Anonymous]

I noticed they now sell DNA test kits at cvs near the diabetes test strips. So apparently there’s a lot of folks in the same boat as OP.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Assumed troll, but I’ll bite as a redhead. All of my 4 siblings are redheads. My parents are both more Auburn. They obviously both carried the redhead gene. None of my 4 children are redheads. I’ve even got a toe head blondie.

Genetics isn’t that simple.

+1

In order to produce a redhead, you need red hair on both sides of the family.

Even then, it's a roll of the dice - both of my parents were redheads, and I'm the only one of their six kids with red hair. Both DH and I are redheads, as are both of our children.

My sister was bleach blonde growing up (like my mom and brother). She darkened with age to a dark blonde. She married an auburn brunette. They have two little carrot top kids. My sisters MIL is the only redhead anyone can trace back. There are zero on our side.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Dang, so the kid whos not biologically his is gonna get all his inheritance, not his biological kid???

Honestly, this is what makes me believe that he could have done it. Never accepting the child that we have.

Do your DH doesn't accept his adopted child? He sucks OP. Secretly do the DNA test so you can figure out how to protect your child.

Yes how horrible. For sure she needs to do it, and yes protect her child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The girl is 4. She does not look like DH, but like DHs mother, exactly.
The supposed father is a redhead. The child is not a redhead, not a hint of red.
I’m 60, DH is 55. Our child is adopted because of infertility.
I’m not being paranoid. Just wondering about fallout....

First of all red hair is recessive you nitwit.

Second, what irresponsible a$$hole agency allowed a 51 & 56yr old to adopt a child? You two are as old as dirt. Super irresponsible. She is an only child and has parents with one foot in the grave. Must be awesome having a mom in menopause.

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Anonymous wrote:The girl is 4. She does not look like DH, but like DHs mother, exactly.
The supposed father is a redhead. The child is not a redhead, not a hint of red.
I’m 60, DH is 55. Our child is adopted because of infertility.
I’m not being paranoid. Just wondering about fallout....

First of all red hair is recessive you nitwit.

Second, what irresponsible a$$hole agency allowed a 51 & 56yr old to adopt a child? You two are as old as dirt. Super irresponsible. She is an only child and has parents with one foot in the grave. Must be awesome having a mom in menopause.

Np: assuming one’s mother is still alive, won’t we all have a “mom in menopause?”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Assumed troll, but I’ll bite as a redhead. All of my 4 siblings are redheads. My parents are both more Auburn. They obviously both carried the redhead gene. None of my 4 children are redheads. I’ve even got a toe head blondie.

Genetics isn’t that simple.

+1

In order to produce a redhead, you need red hair on both sides of the family.

Even then, it's a roll of the dice - both of my parents were redheads, and I'm the only one of their six kids with red hair. Both DH and I are redheads, as are both of our children.

I know a family where the kid has *flaming* red hair, and neither of the parents are redheads. My grandmother had raven-black hair and my grandfather had red hair. Half their kids have red hair, the other half don't. None of their grandchildren have red hair. Recessive genes are weird.

My very blond childhood best friend married a guy with black hair and they had two red head kids. When DC1 was born, many questions were asked (not by the husband). Flaming red. And then out came number 2, same hair. It’s possible.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP can you please provide more info about the babysitter? Is she still your sitter? Did you keep in touch? How did you meet her child and come up with your unhinged conspiracy theory? Does your husband know you are Facebook stalking old babysitters? What other drama and dirt are you digging up or fabricating from snippets of gossip or online stalking?

She’s not working for us now. She quit full time 6 years ago but came back to do occasional house sitting and so on. Our child is in HS. I saw the child once when she was 4 months or so, once at age 2 or so, twice last year at around three, and several times in the last 6 months.
Our marriage is not in great shape, but not the worst. Nothing so far worth divorcing over. Funny, when we married, DH didn’t want kids. I had to beg to try then beg to adopt. DH likes our child. All I am going on is that look, like his mother’s twin. It’s nauseating. I don’t want to know the truth.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP you wanted a child so bad that you adopted. Yet the thought of your DH actually fathering one only leads you to be concerned about your own kids inheritance.

Not one concern about the other kid in this mess expressed. Sad all around.

+1

[Anonymous]

As you can see, OP, the red hair issue is a ... red herring. Red hair is genetically complicated (governed by many genes, not just one) and not perfectly predictable (hence the unfortunate 'red-headed stepchild' meme). So, cross the putative father's hair color off the list of things that make you suspicious.

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Anonymous wrote:OP can you please provide more info about the babysitter? Is she still your sitter? Did you keep in touch? How did you meet her child and come up with your unhinged conspiracy theory? Does your husband know you are Facebook stalking old babysitters? What other drama and dirt are you digging up or fabricating from snippets of gossip or online stalking?

She’s not working for us now. She quit full time 6 years ago but came back to do occasional house sitting and so on. Our child is in HS. I saw the child once when she was 4 months or so, once at age 2 or so, twice last year at around three, and several times in the last 6 months.
Our marriage is not in great shape, but not the worst. Nothing so far worth divorcing over. Funny, when we married, DH didn’t want kids. I had to beg to try then beg to adopt. DH likes our child. All I am going on is that look, like his mother’s twin. It’s nauseating. I don’t want to know the truth.

I would want to know if my husband cheated with the babysitter. If you don't plan to do anything why time on this issue.

[Anonymous]

The girl is 4. She does not look like DH, but like DHs mother, exactly.
The supposed father is a redhead. The child is not a redhead, not a hint of red.
I’m 60, DH is 55. Our child is adopted because of infertility.
I’m not being paranoid. Just wondering about fallout....



First of all red hair is recessive you nitwit.

Second, what irresponsible a$$hole agency allowed a 51 & 56yr old to adopt a child? You two are as old as dirt. Super irresponsible. She is an only child and has parents with one foot in the grave. Must be awesome having a mom in menopause.

The 4 year old is the babysitter's daughter. OP's adopted child is older, as OP clarified. Plenty of people use sitters for tweens. So, OP could have adopted at 44, had a babysitter for her 11 year old 5 years ago...and the babysitter could have gotten knocked up with the 51 year old husband.

[Anonymous]

Is baby sitter married ? Also does your DH try to keep up with her?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is baby sitter married ? Also does your DH try to keep up with her?

She says that she’s married and I’ve met the husband. I always found their marriage and wedding to be odd. That’s another story. DH shows little interest in the kid.

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Anonymous wrote:Is baby sitter married ? Also does your DH try to keep up with her?

She says that she’s married and I’ve met the husband. I always found their marriage and wedding to be odd. That’s another story. DH shows little interest in the kid.

Also DH doesn’t talk to the ex sitter