A theory about having kids

[Anonymous]

I'm waiting for a thread on a theory about not having kids.

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Anonymous wrote:We planned on 3 but stopped at 2 for health reasons. Logistically, one might have been easier, but also might have been harder. However, I strongly believe that having siblings, whether they're friends as children or adults or not, teaches children invaluable and irreplicable lessons.

This is the reason I have 2.

Same.

How about having a second because you truly want the second child just for him or herself? Not so that he or she can serve to teach your first child some "invaluable and irreplicable lessons"? I can't get behind that at all.

I didn't know my second before he was born. How could I have wanted him just for himself? After he was born, I love him for himself. I chose to have him for DH and myself and for DS.

You basically said the same thing as pp but with your own obnoxious spin.

[Anonymous]

Nope, actually just wanted three kids. Love the family dynamics.

[Anonymous]

Most people love their siblings and have sweet memories of sharing their life, particularly early life, with their siblings. This is a joy they'd like to provide, as parents.

OP, you sound bitter and shallow.

[Anonymous]

Completely disagree!

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Anonymous wrote:I disagree. I think many people have two or three children because one child doesn’t feel like a family.

Oh wow that’s so harsh

+1
Awful

..but true

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Most people love their siblings and have sweet memories of sharing their life, particularly early life, with their siblings. This is a joy they'd like to provide, as parents.

OP, you sound bitter and shallow.

Had just one, and later a miscarriage. My one was a complicated, challenging child and it might have been difficult raising a second with the challenges he had those years. But what I sometimes brood about (not to him) is the fact that when I am gone (his father has already passed) there won't be anyone for him to remember being a kid in our family with (like I do with my siblings). We have known a very large family (8 kids) since he was around 10. Sometimes when I feel maudlin I imagine going to some of those kids (now adults) and begging them to remain his siblings when I'm gone or demented. We've had Thanksgiving with that family the past several years so maybe this year I will drink a lot of wine and let myself really be completely maudlin.

My memories of siblings are not necessarily sweet--our family had a lot of its own challenges and conflicts--and yet they are part of my identity. We fought a lot but we also created a lot of adventures for ourselves, and that was cool.

I just think it is a great blessing to know people who knew you when you were a kid.

[Anonymous]

As an only child, I'm laughing at this thread. My mom and aunt drive each other crazy and it's convinced me that I'm lucky not to have siblings. It's a lifelong battle if siblings don't like each other.

[Anonymous]

Op just have your one kid and stop coming up with nonsense reasons why. It's whatever you want. Have your preferred amount of kids and let other people have theirs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think most people blindly have second children. I think if people thought about it the majority of people would stop at one. Most people have two kids because “that’s what you do”. Not bc they REALLY want one or have thought about the emotional and logistical implications.

Oh yes, OP, you’re just so smart and wise. No one but you has ever thought deeply about what their family will be like with X number of children. We’re all like rabbits just mindlessly breeding away.

You’re a good example of how low IQ people don’t have awareness of their lack of intelligence.

[Anonymous]

But don't we already know that "doing what's expected" is a thing for many, if not most, people? That applies to getting married, having kids at all, having more than one kid, etc.

[Anonymous]

Not me, I would have had more but I stopped at 2 because it was expensive.

My kids are going to college and I will probably foster 2 older kids because I could do this for the rest of my life. I love being a mom. I love helping them with school and driving around to activities. I love helping them find a passion and their path.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I disagree. I think many people have two or three children because one child doesn’t feel like a family.

Oh wow that’s so harsh

+1
Awful

..but true

You have a very strange idea of what a family is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm waiting for a thread on a theory about not having kids.

Yes that too. Generally people just “do what’s next”. In fact I think the people who by choice have one child or three or more children are the ones who have really considered all angles. Of course lots (most) people w two kids have also thought it through but many are just checking a box bc it’s a cultural norm.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I disagree. I think many people have two or three children because one child doesn’t feel like a family.

Oh wow that’s so harsh

+1
Awful

..but true

Cruel, troll c-word.