A theory about having kids

[Anonymous]

I think most people blindly have second children. I think if people thought about it the majority of people would stop at one. Most people have two kids because “that’s what you do”. Not bc they REALLY want one or have thought about the emotional and logistical implications.

[Anonymous]

We planned on 3 but stopped at 2 for health reasons. Logistically, one might have been easier, but also might have been harder. However, I strongly believe that having siblings, whether they're friends as children or adults or not, teaches children invaluable and irreplicable lessons.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We planned on 3 but stopped at 2 for health reasons. Logistically, one might have been easier, but also might have been harder. However, I strongly believe that having siblings, whether they're friends as children or adults or not, teaches children invaluable and irreplicable lessons.

This is the reason I have 2.

[Anonymous]

Totally disagree. Many people have a vision for their family, and for the majority of people, that vision includes multiple kids. The early years are heard, and we certainly struggled through infertility, but when my second child was born, our family felt complete in a way it hadn't after I had my first.

[Anonymous]

I disagree. I think many people have two or three children because one child doesn’t feel like a family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I disagree. I think many people have two or three children because one child doesn’t feel like a family.

Oh wow that’s so harsh

[Anonymous]

Nah, we wanted a second because we both value our siblings and want our kids to have a sibling as well. We recognize that 2 is our max emotionally and logistically, so now we’re done.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I disagree. I think many people have two or three children because one child doesn’t feel like a family.

Oh wow that’s so harsh

+1
Awful

[Anonymous]

Not true, at all, for me. I wanted my child to have a sibling; I wanted to experience the baby stages all over again; and planning and hoping for the future, I always saw another child.

You can think whatever you like.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think most people blindly have second children. I think if people thought about it the majority of people would stop at one. Most people have two kids because “that’s what you do”. Not bc they REALLY want one or have thought about the emotional and logistical implications.

I think this is true of having children at all, and also of having 2 instead of 1.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I disagree. I think many people have two or three children because one child doesn’t feel like a family.

Wow. Didn’t realize I don’t have a family. And here I am thinking my husband, daughter, and I are a family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nah, we wanted a second because we both value our siblings and want our kids to have a sibling as well. We recognize that 2 is our max emotionally and logistically, so now we’re done.

+1. I am trying for 2 right now even though I know our lives are much easier with one for this reason. As our parents get older siblings get important again in a way they weren't in our 20s.

[Anonymous]

I agree, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I disagree. I think many people have two or three children because one child doesn’t feel like a family to them.

I'm the parent of an only, and I'm fine with your statement as edited. My BIL has 3 kids and his house doesn't feel like a family to me, it feels like a circus. My family of 3 feels cozy and complete, to me.
Everybody's different and that's okay so long as we don't get rude about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I disagree. I think many people have two or three children because one child doesn’t feel like a family.

Wow. Didn’t realize I don’t have a family. And here I am thinking my husband, daughter, and I are a family.

I mean you do, but barely.