A theory about having kids

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t think there is a stigma for having one child. And not all parents who choose to have one and done are insufferable. I do think there are one and done families that think themselves superior for only having one. I suspect the OP is one. They ARE THE WORST!

Oh, there's plenty of stigma still going around, believe me. See all the lovely people on this thread who think that a family of three isn't a "real" family.

Luckily, I love my fake family very much.

Yup! I love my fake family too

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think most people blindly have second children. I think if people thought about it the majority of people would stop at one. Most people have two kids because “that’s what you do”. Not bc they REALLY want one or have thought about the emotional and logistical implications.

No, we had three because we didn't want our son to be alone in the world with no family when we pass. I would have had another one if age allowed.

Again I said "most." Also the notion of "being alone in the world" if you don't have siblings is based on only-child stigma.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Life would be sad with an only. I cannot imagine growing up without siblings.

You haven't met my brothers-in-law

[Anonymous]

This has got to be one of the dumbest threads I've seen on DCUM.

[Anonymous]

We didn't blindly have a second child. We thought very hard about it, we recalculated our budget and our savings for 5-10 years out, we thought about pros and cons given the space we currently have, we thought about pros and cons for our older child and for our quality of life. And we decided we REALLY wanted #2. I don't regret it for a second, she is a joy, and my children get along with each other very well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think most people blindly have second children. I think if people thought about it the majority of people would stop at one. Most people have two kids because “that’s what you do”. Not bc they REALLY want one or have thought about the emotional and logistical implications.

No, we had three because we didn't want our son to be alone in the world with no family when we pass. I would have had another one if age allowed.

WTF are talking about "alone in the world"? I doubt humans are in danger of extinction.. hopefully you live in a community with other people and your kid(s) will form their own relationships and friendships as they grow. Siblings/relatives are nice but don't worry they are not going to be "alone" in any case unless they choose to.

[Anonymous]

DH and I thought about the need, desire, commitment, money, health implications, and what it would mean to our older child all before our second child was conceived.