Is It wrong to expect a high salary boyfriend?

[Anonymous]

When I was dating, I didn't make nearly what you do, but I still looked for someone who was financially stable and could "keep up" with my lifestyle - traveling internationally, occasional trips to nice restaurants, that sort of thing. So I don't think it's wrong.

[Anonymous]

I think it's normal and ok for you to look for someone who is in a similar place in life as you. i.e. educated, self-supporting, etc. People do it all the time. And $50k is not an especially high salary for this area, so you should definitely be able to find someone who makes more than that. (they might not make more than you, though.)

I don't really have expectations when it comes to salary, and I've dated guys who make less. Generally those guys who made less worked as teachers or at nonprofits, or they had some arcane educational specialty that was not well-compensated. But they were smart guys and interesting, which was enough for me. The guy I date doesn't need to be able to buy me dinner but I shouldn't have to buy him dinner all the time if I want to go out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

I love it that the OP does not live near DC, and is neither a mom or dad.

How do people find this forum?

the internet is your friend. google it dingbat

[Anonymous]

Op here. I found this forum by google but also have a cousin who is parent that lives in DC.

[Anonymous]

As a guy I don't care much about your income but I lie about mine, significantly. I need to see if there is a physical attraction first and compatible values.

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Anonymous wrote:Please also screen for chemistry.

It sounds like you want kids and the best thing that you can do for children is provide them with a stable, loving home. Divorce, lots of fighting, etc can really damage children even though no one likes to admit it.

If you don't marry someone that you'll still want to sleep with even after kids, then you're setting your marriage up for failure.

Op here. I agree. My parents are divorced, and I don't want that for my future children.

Sexual chemistry is also very important to me. I believe in putting marriage before kids for the sake of a long-lasting marriage. I don't ever want to lose that spark, or get lazy and not give my husband sex.

Starting to smell trollish.

Op here. I'm a troll because I believe sex is important. Most marriages end due to financial issues and lack of sex. I am sorry you don't view keeping your spouse satisfied as a non-negotiable. I wouldn't be surprised if you're in a sexless marriage.

[Anonymous]

Want? No.

Expect? Well maybe. You might miss out on a keeper that way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't think it's wrong for salary to be important, but at 26 consider the guys who are still climbing that ladder. If you can see the potential in one of them then it may be a great investment. My DH was making slightly more than me but seven years older. He's really exceeded my expectations over these last eight years. I'm really surprised / grateful I relaxed my standards enough to make a real decision and not some man who fit into all the "guidelines". Which had previously been the direction I was pursuing.

OP here. I am not sure where you are getting 26, but I am 32. I am looking for a guy 30-40. I am not interested in a 26 year old man. I need someone who is more on my timeline of marriage and kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As a guy I don't care much about your income but I lie about mine, significantly. I need to see if there is a physical attraction first and compatible values.

You want to see if she likes you before you slip in the info that you flip hamburgers? I would never date someone that lied to me about something significant like that (even if you were a millionaire).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As a guy I don't care much about your income but I lie about mine, significantly. I need to see if there is a physical attraction first and compatible values.

If I was physically attracted to you and had compatible values but I found out you make $50K instead of the $150K you told me, relationship is over before it begins.

[Anonymous]

Yes.

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Anonymous wrote:

I love it that the OP does not live near DC, and is neither a mom or dad.

How do people find this forum?

the internet is your friend. google it dingbat

Um, I think what this person means is, why do people who don't live in DC and are not parents post on a DC parents forum?

Certainly there are a few websites out there for people who are not DC parents. Or are the wisest people only to be found here?

[Anonymous]

If I make 45k from tax free treasury bonds in my trust fund, am I good enough?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

I love it that the OP does not live near DC, and is neither a mom or dad.

How do people find this forum?

the internet is your friend. google it dingbat

Um, I think what this person means is, why do people who don't live in DC and are not parents post on a DC parents forum?

Certainly there are a few websites out there for people who are not DC parents. Or are the wisest people only to be found here?

This is not just a parents forum. Jeff said everyone is welcome.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

I love it that the OP does not live near DC, and is neither a mom or dad.

How do people find this forum?

the internet is your friend. google it dingbat

Um, I think what this person means is, why do people who don't live in DC and are not parents post on a DC parents forum?

Certainly there are a few websites out there for people who are not DC parents. Or are the wisest people only to be found here?

This is not just a parents forum. Jeff said everyone is welcome.

Are you a friend of Jeff's?