Is it cheating to have a conference husband?

[Anonymous]

Please provide details on cool places to visit in the French Quarters of New Orleans. I have a conference there next spring. TIA

[Anonymous]

Some of you people seem pretty uptight. If this were my wife I would be fine with it. It's not out of the question the OP is my wife but probably not given the timing of the post. If she wants to be flirty and have a fun time and feel some excitement for a week without sleeping around, what's the harm? She'll probably come back home and have some extra sexy time with her husband. Seems like a win for everyone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Calling someone who is not your husband your "husband" is certainly a sign of a big problem.

Exactly. You sleep with your husband and it is pretty clear OP wants to have sex with this guy. Who organizes trips and boozy dinners while happily married? People who want to cheat. Who calls another man a "conference husband?"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Some of you people seem pretty uptight. If this were my wife I would be fine with it. It's not out of the question the OP is my wife but probably not given the timing of the post. If she wants to be flirty and have a fun time and feel some excitement for a week without sleeping around, what's the harm? She'll probably come back home and have some extra sexy time with her husband. Seems like a win for everyone.

You probably think it is ok for you to do the same? But, you are not OP's husband. It is clear she is feeling guilty and is posting here so people can tell her she is wrong and talk her out of it. She wants get drunk dinner with this guy and is calling him a husband. That is even worse than saying, I slept with someone while attending a conference. She is organizing meeting him ahead, she is thinking about him in physical way, even though she claims she isn't she sure is, which is just backtracking baloney.

[Anonymous]

I am glad I am finally single in these scenarios. Bring on confererences.

[Anonymous]

We're not swingers by any means, but I wouldn't care if my wife did this. I do some vaguely similar things.

Life's too short. Do what makes you happy.

[Anonymous]

And she keeps talking about this week like it's some kind of free pass, fantasy world that doesn't exist because it's removed from the day-to-day. It is real. Actions on this trip have consequences. It's not a game.

[Anonymous]

I think this is fine. It's a safety valve from the pressure of monogamy. No one gets hurt, no one catches a disease, you can feel a sense of the butterflies.

Live a little. Go for it OP.

And I would be totally fine if my spouse did this. In a strange way, I would be happy for them to get a break from the routine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think this is fine. It's a safety valve from the pressure of monogamy. No one gets hurt, no one catches a disease, you can feel a sense of the butterflies.

Live a little. Go for it OP.

And I would be totally fine if my spouse did this. In a strange way, I would be happy for them to get a break from the routine.

This is me too. But I doubt my DH would ever get carried away. I would be more worried about myself and a slippery slope in this situation.

[Anonymous]

He sounds like your soulmate, OP.

Get hotel rooms right next to each other in Vegas, and give it a try.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Some of you people seem pretty uptight. If this were my wife I would be fine with it. It's not out of the question the OP is my wife but probably not given the timing of the post. If she wants to be flirty and have a fun time and feel some excitement for a week without sleeping around, what's the harm? She'll probably come back home and have some extra sexy time with her husband. Seems like a win for everyone.

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[Anonymous]

If you can keep your wits about you, I do not necessarily have an issue. The main think is to make sure your brain is in control.

After a few drinks, inhibitions are lessened on both. I am assuming you are turned on by him. Another drink or two, and impulse control goes out the window. But, what the hell, you are in vegas.....

then, the next day, you realize what you did....but it felt so goooood. If you are a good person, you will be guilt ridden. Hopefully, you were smart, and there are no physical repercussions (disease or biological). You get home, your hubby has no idea. But you are snippy at him, or possibly very nice (to compensate).

Then, a week later, it burns when he pees. So, he goes to his doctor. Antibiotics clear it up, but you are so busted.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Some of you people seem pretty uptight. If this were my wife I would be fine with it. It's not out of the question the OP is my wife but probably not given the timing of the post. If she wants to be flirty and have a fun time and feel some excitement for a week without sleeping around, what's the harm? She'll probably come back home and have some extra sexy time with her husband. Seems like a win for everyone.

You probably think it is ok for you to do the same? But, you are not OP's husband. It is clear she is feeling guilty and is posting here so people can tell her she is wrong and talk her out of it. She wants get drunk dinner with this guy and is calling him a husband. That is even worse than saying, I slept with someone while attending a conference. She is organizing meeting him ahead, she is thinking about him in physical way, even though she claims she isn't she sure is, which is just backtracking baloney.

I don't agree. I think she has cheated already, or has made up her mind to do so, and wants approval from the DCUM crowd who will say the usual idiocies: "go for it, you only live once, you deserve great sex, he could be your soul mate".

[Anonymous]

No of course not. All of the Debbie Downers in here are being ridiculous. Men and women are capable of being friends even when there is some attraction involved. And like you said, you don't know what his marriage us like. It may be fantastic and something he'd never risk in a million years by sleeping with you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Calling someone who is not your husband your "husband" is certainly a sign of a big problem.

Exactly. You sleep with your husband and it is pretty clear OP wants to have sex with this guy. Who organizes trips and boozy dinners while happily married? People who want to cheat. Who calls another man a "conference husband?"

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