Is it cheating to have a conference husband?

[Anonymous]

What happens in Vegas stays in Vegas.

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Anonymous wrote:It’s been 7 years since this was first posted. I wish people would pop by with yearly or every 5 year updates.

The update is that OP slept with the guy nd she's now divorced from her husband. The guy is still married to his wife.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The "boozy, flirty" out of town dinner is a hugely slippery slope.

flirty --why would you?

This is a very uptight crowd, let OP live a little. Can you imagine a European thinking this way? We are all stuck in the daily grind, and OP found a once a year escape.

[Anonymous]

I don't think that's cheating. Just a little risky if they don't have self control.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:And she keeps talking about this week like it's some kind of free pass, fantasy world that doesn't exist because it's removed from the day-to-day. It is real. Actions on this trip have consequences. It's not a game.

So funny that the hook up just happens to be in Vegas of all places.

[Anonymous]

These week long conferences can get you in a lot of trouble. I attended one where I was part of small team for the entire time so you spend a lot of day and evening time together working and socializing until late evening. The last night a guy who I had gotten friendly with said we’d be perfect together and he’d “like to give me pleasure.” My marriage was fine but with two toddlers and being in mommy mode I hadn’t felt highly desired for a few years. If I hadn’t been perfectly sober I may have well ended up in bed with him. I told my husband about the guy and what he had said and that I said no but I didn’t tell him how tempted I was.

[Anonymous]

Is OP the same troll with the modern monogamy thread? Same premise, same stretching of the marital boundary and seeking endorsement. OP, are you playing us?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:These week long conferences can get you in a lot of trouble. I attended one where I was part of small team for the entire time so you spend a lot of day and evening time together working and socializing until late evening. The last night a guy who I had gotten friendly with said we’d be perfect together and he’d “like to give me pleasure.” My marriage was fine but with two toddlers and being in mommy mode I hadn’t felt highly desired for a few years. If I hadn’t been perfectly sober I may have well ended up in bed with him. I told my husband about the guy and what he had said and that I said no but I didn’t tell him how tempted I was.

We’re you intimate with him in any way that led him to what he said?

[Anonymous]

Y'all realize this thread is from 2017, right?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There is a work conference I attend every year, and it is usually in a resort location. A few years ago in New Orleans, I went out to lunch with a friend, who brought along a guy she worked with, and we hit it off. Had a lot in common, knew a lot of the same people. My friend had to catch a flight, and it turned out this guy and I were both on a later flight, so the two of us spent a few hours walking through the French Quarter. If this afternoon had happened when I was in my twenties and single, it would have been one of the best first dates I ever had. Alas, we are both married and middle aged. My marriage is fine. It's not great, but it's fine. I don't really know how his is.

We have minimal contact outside of this conference - a few how ya doing emails during the year. But every annual conference since then, the two of us meet up again and spend our workdays together at the meetings, and have carved some time out from our work obligations so the two of us can go out for boozy, flirty dinner at a nice restaurant, after which each of us goes back to our separate hotel rooms. My husband has no knowledge that this other guy exists. I don't feel like I'm being dishonest, it's just that I don't think I've crossed any lines, it would be more awkward to bring it up, and I kind of like having this little secret.

I'm not cheating on my husband, am I? And if I am, why am I going back to my hotel room alone - if I'm already cheating, how much worse would it be to spend a discreet night together? I think we've established our ability to keep this thing we have to one week a year and apart from our real lives.

Next conference is in Vegas next month.

I know this is an old thread, but this girl's rationale for cheating is so brilliant that I had to give her a pat on the ass, I mean back, for being so clever: "I'm already cheating anyway by being so intimate, so what's the difference if we throw in a little discreet sex?"

I love it!

Did she report back on whether the hook up actually happened?

[Anonymous]

Two options here. Pick one:

1. Either this is a troll, or
2. OP has banged the guy.