S/O - Ladies, would you rather have sex with another man than your husband?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The question is not would you cheat or do you want to leave your husband. It's simply a question of whether you would rather have sex with another man than your husband. Could be a guy at your office, could be an ex, whatever. I'm asking about the desire, not whether or not you would act on it. If so, why?

Because husbands get to be fat, lazy and turn into beta makes.

In fact studies show as women reach ovulation there more likely to cheat, and with men that are usually more muscular, defined jaw and display more asshole like qualities - of their current partner doesn't have those traits. It was just in the news on a whole bunch of sites last week.

It's evolution, can't stop it I suppose.

What?

Not the PP, and I didn't see news about it recently, but I imagine he's referring to these sorts of studies:
http://www.livescience.com/1409-fertile-women-prefer-manly-men.html

"[R]esearchers asked women who were at different points in their menstrual cycles (and who were not on the pill) to rate their own attractiveness. Then researchers presented them with image pairs representing "feminized" and "masculinized" versions of the same male body. The women were asked to choose the body they thought was most attractive for a short-term relationship and then again for a long-term relationship. Some of the women performed the experiment again at the opposite point in their cycle.

Fertile women chose the masculine version of each image 15 percent more often, on average, than women who were not fertile, said lead researcher Anthony Little, a psychologist at the University of Stirling in Scotland. The effect was strongest if they were looking for a short-term partner rather than a long-term one, and if they considered themselves attractive."

Also:
http://newsroom.ucla.edu/releases/Near-Ovulation-Your-Cheatin-Heart-6713?RelNum=6713
"New research from UCLA and the University of New Mexico suggests that members of "the gentler sex" may have evolved to cheat on their mates during the most fertile part of their cycle — but only when those mates are less sexually attractive than other men.
. . .
Regardless of where they stood on other measures, the co-eds felt more desirable, attractive and powerful in their relationships during the mid-point of their cycle. But women who rated their mates as more suitable for long-term involvement than a quick fling had different behavior and desires than women who considered their mates hot.

When women were mated to men with low sexual versus investment attractiveness, they were particularly likely to experience increased attraction to men other than their partners at mid?cycle,"Haselton said."

And there you have it. Science confirms - or at least suggests - women don't want to fuck fat beta slobs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The question is not would you cheat or do you want to leave your husband. It's simply a question of whether you would rather have sex with another man than your husband. Could be a guy at your office, could be an ex, whatever. I'm asking about the desire, not whether or not you would act on it. If so, why?

Because husbands get to be fat, lazy and turn into beta makes.

In fact studies show as women reach ovulation there more likely to cheat, and with men that are usually more muscular, defined jaw and display more asshole like qualities - of their current partner doesn't have those traits. It was just in the news on a whole bunch of sites last week.

It's evolution, can't stop it I suppose.

What?

Not the PP, and I didn't see news about it recently, but I imagine he's referring to these sorts of studies:
http://www.livescience.com/1409-fertile-women-prefer-manly-men.html

"[R]esearchers asked women who were at different points in their menstrual cycles (and who were not on the pill) to rate their own attractiveness. Then researchers presented them with image pairs representing "feminized" and "masculinized" versions of the same male body. The women were asked to choose the body they thought was most attractive for a short-term relationship and then again for a long-term relationship. Some of the women performed the experiment again at the opposite point in their cycle.

Fertile women chose the masculine version of each image 15 percent more often, on average, than women who were not fertile, said lead researcher Anthony Little, a psychologist at the University of Stirling in Scotland. The effect was strongest if they were looking for a short-term partner rather than a long-term one, and if they considered themselves attractive."

Also:
http://newsroom.ucla.edu/releases/Near-Ovulation-Your-Cheatin-Heart-6713?RelNum=6713
"New research from UCLA and the University of New Mexico suggests that members of "the gentler sex" may have evolved to cheat on their mates during the most fertile part of their cycle — but only when those mates are less sexually attractive than other men.
. . .
Regardless of where they stood on other measures, the co-eds felt more desirable, attractive and powerful in their relationships during the mid-point of their cycle. But women who rated their mates as more suitable for long-term involvement than a quick fling had different behavior and desires than women who considered their mates hot.

When women were mated to men with low sexual versus investment attractiveness, they were particularly likely to experience increased attraction to men other than their partners at mid?cycle,"Haselton said."

And there you have it. Science confirms - or at least suggests - women don't want to fuck fat beta slobs.

Or you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Can all you "yes" posters explain why?

for something different.

i'm sure my DH would feel the same way I do.

DH here: the question is framed in a way that is hard to deal with thoughtfully. I think it is pretty normal for people to have attraction to people other than their spouse that temporarily spikes well above their normal desire for their partner. This typically passes. Sex with a new partner would certainly be hotter, for a time, than sex with your spouse. While it is hard to be honest, I think this kind of attraction is relatively commonplace and natural, and nothing for anyone to feel bad about, whether they feel it or their spouse does. To compare it to the mundane normal thing is kind of an unfair comparison. I think that in theory agreed-upon, occasional deviations from monogamy would make many married people much more happy. It practice, it would be very destabilizing for most and thus not worth the risk.

[Anonymous]

Nope. I'll stick with my husband.

Married for 14 years.

He's amazing.

[Anonymous]

No. Maybe because I have only ever had sex with my DH. I do not think I would want to get naked in front of another man, IRL. Another thing is that while it is ok to have erotic thoughts about some nameless and faceless fictional hunk, the thought of seeing someone I know naked is very gross to me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Also, for all you "no" posters, how would you rate your level of desire for your husband?

Both DH and I were virgins and have only had sex with each other. We love sex and we love to be inventive and kinky. However, with my DH there is a level of love, lust, acceptance, comfort, trust and communication that I do not think can happen with another man. And so the sexual acts that is intensely pleasurable with DH, will be gross, awkward and unnatural with someone else for me.

[Anonymous]

Depends upon the other man, I guess

[Anonymous]

I've been married to my wife for around 23 years and was just looking through a box of old pictures. I wish I could have sex with that 23 years younger version again.

[Anonymous]

No. I like my husband and am comfortable with him.

[Anonymous]

No. Married 10 years. DH is skilled, well endowed (sorry: that's always been important to me), physically fit. I still have sex filled dreams about him when we're not actually having sex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes. If I could have uncomplicated, no strings attached sex with someone else with no repercussions, I would.

Lately our sex life has been all about my husband's needs. I'm not at all into what he is, but I'm willing to talk it up to make him happy. Problem is he doesn't reciprocate. In the beginning, my kinks got equal air time. Now though, even when we're doing things I like, he still frames out in a way where it's all about him. It's a huge turn off.

I've tried to explain this to him, and I went out of my way to do it in a way were he wouldn't feel attacked our blindsided by it and at a time when sex wasn't on the table. I'll think he gets it, but eventually it's right back to being all about him. I don't even bother anymore. If we have sex, that's fine. If he never asked me for sex again, that'd be fine too.

What are your kinks vs. his?

I'm a sub. I was looking for a more dominant partner and at first he fit the bill AND we had a lot of the same hobbies and interests. Turns out he was really a switch who prefers to bottom, but only with someone he really loves and trusts and knows is in the for the long haul. Which is great, but it would have been nice to know before we'd been married for years and had kids already. I don't mind topping occasionally, but he wants me to all the time. He loves being pegged but I'm not that in to the strap on. Meanwhile, he hasn't used restraints on me in years and if I'm not topping then it's just straight sex. I got sick of trying to bring up how my needs aren't being met and trying to get him to change so, we have straight sex and not as frequently as he likes and more often then I want because the idea of all the bullshit that goes along with it turns me off.


Outside of him being a selfish fuck in the bedroom, he's my best friend, a good husband, and an amazing dad. We make a great team every where except for when it comes to sex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The question is not would you cheat or do you want to leave your husband. It's simply a question of whether you would rather have sex with another man than your husband. Could be a guy at your office, could be an ex, whatever. I'm asking about the desire, not whether or not you would act on it. If so, why?

Because husbands get to be fat, lazy and turn into beta makes.

In fact studies show as women reach ovulation there more likely to cheat, and with men that are usually more muscular, defined jaw and display more asshole like qualities - of their current partner doesn't have those traits. It was just in the news on a whole bunch of sites last week.

It's evolution, can't stop it I suppose.

What?

Not the PP, and I didn't see news about it recently, but I imagine he's referring to these sorts of studies:
http://www.livescience.com/1409-fertile-women-prefer-manly-men.html

"[R]esearchers asked women who were at different points in their menstrual cycles (and who were not on the pill) to rate their own attractiveness. Then researchers presented them with image pairs representing "feminized" and "masculinized" versions of the same male body. The women were asked to choose the body they thought was most attractive for a short-term relationship and then again for a long-term relationship. Some of the women performed the experiment again at the opposite point in their cycle.

Fertile women chose the masculine version of each image 15 percent more often, on average, than women who were not fertile, said lead researcher Anthony Little, a psychologist at the University of Stirling in Scotland. The effect was strongest if they were looking for a short-term partner rather than a long-term one, and if they considered themselves attractive."

Also:
http://newsroom.ucla.edu/releases/Near-Ovulation-Your-Cheatin-Heart-6713?RelNum=6713
"New research from UCLA and the University of New Mexico suggests that members of "the gentler sex" may have evolved to cheat on their mates during the most fertile part of their cycle — but only when those mates are less sexually attractive than other men.
. . .
Regardless of where they stood on other measures, the co-eds felt more desirable, attractive and powerful in their relationships during the mid-point of their cycle. But women who rated their mates as more suitable for long-term involvement than a quick fling had different behavior and desires than women who considered their mates hot.

When women were mated to men with low sexual versus investment attractiveness, they were particularly likely to experience increased attraction to men other than their partners at mid?cycle,"Haselton said."

And there you have it. Science confirms - or at least suggests - women don't want to fuck fat beta slobs.

Or you.

PP here. I get fucked quite a bit. Of course I'm really in shape, not a slob, keep up with the house and chores and love my kids. Women don't want to fuck losers, just read the forums.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The question is not would you cheat or do you want to leave your husband. It's simply a question of whether you would rather have sex with another man than your husband. Could be a guy at your office, could be an ex, whatever. I'm asking about the desire, not whether or not you would act on it. If so, why?

Because husbands get to be fat, lazy and turn into beta makes.

In fact studies show as women reach ovulation there more likely to cheat, and with men that are usually more muscular, defined jaw and display more asshole like qualities - of their current partner doesn't have those traits. It was just in the news on a whole bunch of sites last week.

It's evolution, can't stop it I suppose.

What?

Not the PP, and I didn't see news about it recently, but I imagine he's referring to these sorts of studies:
http://www.livescience.com/1409-fertile-women-prefer-manly-men.html

"[R]esearchers asked women who were at different points in their menstrual cycles (and who were not on the pill) to rate their own attractiveness. Then researchers presented them with image pairs representing "feminized" and "masculinized" versions of the same male body. The women were asked to choose the body they thought was most attractive for a short-term relationship and then again for a long-term relationship. Some of the women performed the experiment again at the opposite point in their cycle.

Fertile women chose the masculine version of each image 15 percent more often, on average, than women who were not fertile, said lead researcher Anthony Little, a psychologist at the University of Stirling in Scotland. The effect was strongest if they were looking for a short-term partner rather than a long-term one, and if they considered themselves attractive."

Also:
http://newsroom.ucla.edu/releases/Near-Ovulation-Your-Cheatin-Heart-6713?RelNum=6713
"New research from UCLA and the University of New Mexico suggests that members of "the gentler sex" may have evolved to cheat on their mates during the most fertile part of their cycle — but only when those mates are less sexually attractive than other men.
. . .
Regardless of where they stood on other measures, the co-eds felt more desirable, attractive and powerful in their relationships during the mid-point of their cycle. But women who rated their mates as more suitable for long-term involvement than a quick fling had different behavior and desires than women who considered their mates hot.

When women were mated to men with low sexual versus investment attractiveness, they were particularly likely to experience increased attraction to men other than their partners at mid?cycle,"Haselton said."

And there you have it. Science confirms - or at least suggests - women don't want to fuck fat beta slobs.

Or you.

PP here. I get fucked quite a bit. Of course I'm really in shape, not a slob, keep up with the house and chores and love my kids. Women don't want to fuck losers, just read the forums.

I could not respect myself if I had sex with someone who uses terms like 'beta' and 'alpha', you sound like a giant d-bag. D-bags do get laid unfortunately though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Can all you "yes" posters explain why?

Why? Because my husband is lazy, oblivious, messy, fat, not romantic and can't get me off. Any more questions?

I have a follow-up question: do you have any plans for the holiday weekend?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No. Married 10 years. DH is skilled, well endowed (sorry: that's always been important to me), physically fit. I still have sex filled dreams about him when we're not actually having sex.

+1000

We've been together 15 years and our sex life is fairly routine. However, its a good routine. He's fit, very well endowed and is really good at what he does in the bedroom. Also, we have a great connection and comfort level. I think sleeping with someone else would be disappointing.