S/O - Ladies, would you rather have sex with another man than your husband?

[Anonymous]

Hell no. I have the pick of the litter over here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Also, for all you "no" posters, how would you rate your level of desire for your husband?

10. Married 14 years

[Anonymous]

Yes. If I could have uncomplicated, no strings attached sex with someone else with no repercussions, I would.

Lately our sex life has been all about my husband's needs. I'm not at all into what he is, but I'm willing to talk it up to make him happy. Problem is he doesn't reciprocate. In the beginning, my kinks got equal air time. Now though, even when we're doing things I like, he still frames out in a way where it's all about him. It's a huge turn off.

I've tried to explain this to him, and I went out of my way to do it in a way were he wouldn't feel attacked our blindsided by it and at a time when sex wasn't on the table. I'll think he gets it, but eventually it's right back to being all about him. I don't even bother anymore. If we have sex, that's fine. If he never asked me for sex again, that'd be fine too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes. If I could have uncomplicated, no strings attached sex with someone else with no repercussions, I would.

Lately our sex life has been all about my husband's needs. I'm not at all into what he is, but I'm willing to talk it up to make him happy. Problem is he doesn't reciprocate. In the beginning, my kinks got equal air time. Now though, even when we're doing things I like, he still frames out in a way where it's all about him. It's a huge turn off.

I've tried to explain this to him, and I went out of my way to do it in a way were he wouldn't feel attacked our blindsided by it and at a time when sex wasn't on the table. I'll think he gets it, but eventually it's right back to being all about him. I don't even bother anymore. If we have sex, that's fine. If he never asked me for sex again, that'd be fine too.

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes. If I could have uncomplicated, no strings attached sex with someone else with no repercussions, I would.

Lately our sex life has been all about my husband's needs. I'm not at all into what he is, but I'm willing to talk it up to make him happy. Problem is he doesn't reciprocate. In the beginning, my kinks got equal air time. Now though, even when we're doing things I like, he still frames out in a way where it's all about him. It's a huge turn off.

I've tried to explain this to him, and I went out of my way to do it in a way were he wouldn't feel attacked our blindsided by it and at a time when sex wasn't on the table. I'll think he gets it, but eventually it's right back to being all about him. I don't even bother anymore. If we have sex, that's fine. If he never asked me for sex again, that'd be fine too.

What are your kinks vs. his?

[Anonymous]

You phrase it as "rather" as in would I prefer to only have sex with some one else? No, absolutely not.

If you had phrased it as an option to have both, ie - to live without consequence which is a total fallacy, then I would have acknowledged that yes, I do have desires and fantasies that are divorced from reality.

In the real world, I choose fidelity and I honestly believe this is a happier, more joyful, path than the alternative.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You phrase it as "rather" as in would I prefer to only have sex with some one else? No, absolutely not.

If you had phrased it as an option to have both, ie - to live without consequence which is a total fallacy, then I would have acknowledged that yes, I do have desires and fantasies that are divorced from reality.

In the real world, I choose fidelity and I honestly believe this is a happier, more joyful, path than the alternative.

Agree on all counts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You phrase it as "rather" as in would I prefer to only have sex with some one else? No, absolutely not.

If you had phrased it as an option to have both, ie - to live without consequence which is a total fallacy, then I would have acknowledged that yes, I do have desires and fantasies that are divorced from reality.

In the real world, I choose fidelity and I honestly believe this is a happier, more joyful, path than the alternative.

You took my words and turned a question about degree of preference and turned it into an absolute. The question is, who would you prefer to have sex with? Your husband or another guy? You are free to choose one way or another and not limited by that choice.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You phrase it as "rather" as in would I prefer to only have sex with some one else? No, absolutely not.

If you had phrased it as an option to have both, ie - to live without consequence which is a total fallacy, then I would have acknowledged that yes, I do have desires and fantasies that are divorced from reality.

In the real world, I choose fidelity and I honestly believe this is a happier, more joyful, path than the alternative.

You took my words and turned a question about degree of preference and turned it into an absolute. The question is, who would you prefer to have sex with? Your husband or another guy? You are free to choose one way or another and not limited by that choice.

Which she answered in her second paragraph. If she could have sex with her husband and someone else without consequence she would but that she would never give up her husband. Which means the answer is no, she would not rather have sex with someone else, but would if she could do so guilt free.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Also, for all you "no" posters, how would you rate your level of desire for your husband?

10. Married 3 years with a baby.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You phrase it as "rather" as in would I prefer to only have sex with some one else? No, absolutely not.

If you had phrased it as an option to have both, ie - to live without consequence which is a total fallacy, then I would have acknowledged that yes, I do have desires and fantasies that are divorced from reality.

In the real world, I choose fidelity and I honestly believe this is a happier, more joyful, path than the alternative.

You took my words and turned a question about degree of preference and turned it into an absolute. The question is, who would you prefer to have sex with? Your husband or another guy? You are free to choose one way or another and not limited by that choice.

Which she answered in her second paragraph. If she could have sex with her husband and someone else without consequence she would but that she would never give up her husband. Which means the answer is no, she would not rather have sex with someone else, but would if she could do so guilt free.

That's an answer to a question which was never asked.

[Anonymous]

Nope, hub is still a hottie 28 years later. Plus he's good at what he does. Zero desire for some new dude. Ever.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You phrase it as "rather" as in would I prefer to only have sex with some one else? No, absolutely not.

If you had phrased it as an option to have both, ie - to live without consequence which is a total fallacy, then I would have acknowledged that yes, I do have desires and fantasies that are divorced from reality.

In the real world, I choose fidelity and I honestly believe this is a happier, more joyful, path than the alternative.

You took my words and turned a question about degree of preference and turned it into an absolute. The question is, who would you prefer to have sex with? Your husband or another guy? You are free to choose one way or another and not limited by that choice.

Which she answered in her second paragraph. If she could have sex with her husband and someone else without consequence she would but that she would never give up her husband. Which means the answer is no, she would not rather have sex with someone else, but would if she could do so guilt free.

That's an answer to a question which was never asked.

And that is the answer to the question that you asked, easily inferred by her post.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You phrase it as "rather" as in would I prefer to only have sex with some one else? No, absolutely not.

If you had phrased it as an option to have both, ie - to live without consequence which is a total fallacy, then I would have acknowledged that yes, I do have desires and fantasies that are divorced from reality.

In the real world, I choose fidelity and I honestly believe this is a happier, more joyful, path than the alternative.

You took my words and turned a question about degree of preference and turned it into an absolute. The question is, who would you prefer to have sex with? Your husband or another guy? You are free to choose one way or another and not limited by that choice.

Which she answered in her second paragraph. If she could have sex with her husband and someone else without consequence she would but that she would never give up her husband. Which means the answer is no, she would not rather have sex with someone else, but would if she could do so guilt free.

That's an answer to a question which was never asked.

And that is the answer to the question that you asked, easily inferred by her post.

Must be a lawyer or a politician. It's a yes or no question. She danced around it and answered with a disclaimer. But will take the answer as a "Yes."

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You phrase it as "rather" as in would I prefer to only have sex with some one else? No, absolutely not.

If you had phrased it as an option to have both, ie - to live without consequence which is a total fallacy, then I would have acknowledged that yes, I do have desires and fantasies that are divorced from reality.

In the real world, I choose fidelity and I honestly believe this is a happier, more joyful, path than the alternative.

You took my words and turned a question about degree of preference and turned it into an absolute. The question is, who would you prefer to have sex with? Your husband or another guy? You are free to choose one way or another and not limited by that choice.

Which she answered in her second paragraph. If she could have sex with her husband and someone else without consequence she would but that she would never give up her husband. Which means the answer is no, she would not rather have sex with someone else, but would if she could do so guilt free.

That's an answer to a question which was never asked.

And that is the answer to the question that you asked, easily inferred by her post.

Must be a lawyer or a politician. It's a yes or no question. She danced around it and answered with a disclaimer. But will take the answer as a "Yes."

Because that is what you want it to be, clearly it was a no. And I am neither a lawyer or a politician.