S/O - Ladies, would you rather have sex with another man than your husband?

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Anonymous wrote:Can all you "yes" posters explain why?

Why? Because my husband is lazy, oblivious, messy, fat, not romantic and can't get me off. Any more questions?

Sounds like you have a pretty solid case.

"Thanks"

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Anonymous wrote:No. Maybe because I have only ever had sex with my DH. I do not think I would want to get naked in front of another man, IRL. Another thing is that while it is ok to have erotic thoughts about some nameless and faceless fictional hunk, the thought of seeing someone I know naked is very gross to me.

You are seriously repressed.

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Anonymous wrote:Can all you "yes" posters explain why?

Why? Because my husband is lazy, oblivious, messy, fat, not romantic and can't get me off. Any more questions?

I have a follow-up question: do you have any plans for the holiday weekend?

Maybe. Depends if you're in town

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Anonymous wrote:The question is not would you cheat or do you want to leave your husband. It's simply a question of whether you would rather have sex with another man than your husband. Could be a guy at your office, could be an ex, whatever. I'm asking about the desire, not whether or not you would act on it. If so, why?

Because husbands get to be fat, lazy and turn into beta makes.

In fact studies show as women reach ovulation there more likely to cheat, and with men that are usually more muscular, defined jaw and display more asshole like qualities - of their current partner doesn't have those traits. It was just in the news on a whole bunch of sites last week.

It's evolution, can't stop it I suppose.

What?

Not the PP, and I didn't see news about it recently, but I imagine he's referring to these sorts of studies:
http://www.livescience.com/1409-fertile-women-prefer-manly-men.html

"[R]esearchers asked women who were at different points in their menstrual cycles (and who were not on the pill) to rate their own attractiveness. Then researchers presented them with image pairs representing "feminized" and "masculinized" versions of the same male body. The women were asked to choose the body they thought was most attractive for a short-term relationship and then again for a long-term relationship. Some of the women performed the experiment again at the opposite point in their cycle.

Fertile women chose the masculine version of each image 15 percent more often, on average, than women who were not fertile, said lead researcher Anthony Little, a psychologist at the University of Stirling in Scotland. The effect was strongest if they were looking for a short-term partner rather than a long-term one, and if they considered themselves attractive."

Also:
http://newsroom.ucla.edu/releases/Near-Ovulation-Your-Cheatin-Heart-6713?RelNum=6713
"New research from UCLA and the University of New Mexico suggests that members of "the gentler sex" may have evolved to cheat on their mates during the most fertile part of their cycle — but only when those mates are less sexually attractive than other men.
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Regardless of where they stood on other measures, the co-eds felt more desirable, attractive and powerful in their relationships during the mid-point of their cycle. But women who rated their mates as more suitable for long-term involvement than a quick fling had different behavior and desires than women who considered their mates hot.

When women were mated to men with low sexual versus investment attractiveness, they were particularly likely to experience increased attraction to men other than their partners at mid?cycle,"Haselton said."

And there you have it. Science confirms - or at least suggests - women don't want to fuck fat beta slobs.

Or you.

PP here. I get fucked quite a bit. Of course I'm really in shape, not a slob, keep up with the house and chores and love my kids. Women don't want to fuck losers, just read the forums.

I could not respect myself if I had sex with someone who uses terms like 'beta' and 'alpha', you sound like a giant d-bag. D-bags do get laid unfortunately though.

I doubt you have any self respect anyways - so no loss here

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Can all you "yes" posters explain why?

Why? Because my husband is lazy, oblivious, messy, fat, not romantic and can't get me off. Any more questions?

I have a follow-up question: do you have any plans for the holiday weekend?

Maybe. Depends if you're in town

In in town, I am fit and very attentive.....

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You phrase it as "rather" as in would I prefer to only have sex with some one else? No, absolutely not.

If you had phrased it as an option to have both, ie - to live without consequence which is a total fallacy, then I would have acknowledged that yes, I do have desires and fantasies that are divorced from reality.

In the real world, I choose fidelity and I honestly believe this is a happier, more joyful, path than the alternative.

You took my words and turned a question about degree of preference and turned it into an absolute. The question is, who would you prefer to have sex with? Your husband or another guy? You are free to choose one way or another and not limited by that choice.

Which she answered in her second paragraph. If she could have sex with her husband and someone else without consequence she would but that she would never give up her husband. Which means the answer is no, she would not rather have sex with someone else, but would if she could do so guilt free.

That's an answer to a question which was never asked.

Np here. Methinks you don't know the meaning of "rather".

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Can all you "yes" posters explain why?

Why? Because my husband is lazy, oblivious, messy, fat, not romantic and can't get me off. Any more questions?

I have a follow-up question: do you have any plans for the holiday weekend?

Maybe. Depends if you're in town

In in town, I am fit and very attentive.....

Create a login name and I will PM you.

[Anonymous]

If you mean is there someone other than my husband who I'd like to have sex with (again lol), then yes. But if I had to choose one or the other, I'd rather have sex with my husband. He's hot and great in bed.

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What were you trying to find out, OP? The obvious? I see nothing surprising in the answers.

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Anonymous wrote:No. Married 10 years. DH is skilled, well endowed (sorry: that's always been important to me), physically fit. I still have sex filled dreams about him when we're not actually having sex.

+1000

We've been together 15 years and our sex life is fairly routine. However, its a good routine. He's fit, very well endowed and is really good at what he does in the bedroom. Also, we have a great connection and comfort level. I think sleeping with someone else would be disappointing.

Agree.

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Anonymous wrote:Also, for all you "no" posters, how would you rate your level of desire for your husband?

zero

[Anonymous]

Yep, AP...most amazing sex ever in addition to being fit and attractive. Lost all attraction to husband since this started over a year ago.

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Anonymous wrote:No. Maybe because I have only ever had sex with my DH. I do not think I would want to get naked in front of another man, IRL. Another thing is that while it is ok to have erotic thoughts about some nameless and faceless fictional hunk, the thought of seeing someone I know naked is very gross to me.

You are seriously repressed.