What makes a man a catch?

[Anonymous]

To describe my man:
Kind and compassionate but not a pushover
Witty/funny
Happy
Smart
Physically strong because he takes good care of his body as he ages.
Brave without being foolhardy or a bully.
Competent with household repairs, car maintenance, yard work
Very good in Bed
Clean/well groomed and neat with his belongings without being fussy
Even tempered
Confident without being cocky
Enjoys indulging me and my girls without being patronizing
Kills really big insects without complaining or bragging
Flexible when we need to change plans
A good steward of household finances
Loves children and animals
Keeps his word
Loyal
And perhaps the biggest: Traveled to a renowned medical clinic in another state and waited 3 hours in the parking lot to hand deliver my medical records to a doctor we'd had trouble getting access to through the dragon lady office manager. The doctor didn't take my case anyway, but it was a huge sweet gesture. We weren't even engaged yet.

[Anonymous]

A guy who tells me all about the time he lost his virginity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, I'm sure there are some alpha males who are good guys. And my point is that you can in fact distinguish the good guys from the asshats. I have predicted a number of divorces after rather limited conversations or interactions with several couples. How? Because it's relatively easy to spot a self-centered asshole.

OMG I am so glad you are here. You can help me choose between these guys.

I'm a female age 31 have a career, but am looking to settle down and marry within the next few years. Would ideally like to be a SAHM.
I turned to dating sites to help me out and some matchmaking via networking. I have been on many dates the last 2.5 years, but within the last 8 months I have dated 3 men that I am most interested. I'm fairly casual with all of them. I say fairly because I have slept with all of them even though I'm not committed to any of them at the moment. They are all nice guys in the sense that they are well liked, friendly, care about others, good relationship with family etc. Differences are:

Guy 1

Age 29
Career that takes him on the road for likely the next 5 years, after that career is ambiguous, but will unlikely be unemployed, but career involves health risks and he does have some recent health concerns.
Very low key guy. Volunteers within the community is good with kids and would like to have them. Lives locally now, but family is out of the area is open to living away from family. Family is very closeknit. Like his family. His parents are still married after 30 + years and from what I have seen get on well and respectfully His parents remind me of my parents, and his upbringing reminds me of my upbringing. Religion is Catholic turned Born Again.

Guy 2

Age 51
Pretty close to retired, but works when he wants to just to keep from being bored, Does some volunteering is in to motorbikes for fun. Never married. Had one serious relationship in his 30s that ended with him losing his fiance and child. Is willing to have more children, but doesn't have to. Isn't local but is willing to relocate. No relationship with father, very close to his mother who is mentally ill and has taken care of his sister when she had a life threatening illness. I like his family. He is very low key guy. I like spending time with him. He's very calming. We enjoy Religion Interested in Buddhism, but mostly Agnostic.

Guy 3

Age 32
Works long hours doesn't have much career flexibility because he hasn't pursued it. Does volunteering likes to watch sports , fish, go to the gym, and drink for fun. Has been engaged before. Not low key at all has an opinion on everything. Wants to be married and have kids. Close to his family. His bio parents are divorced when he was a kid, each parent went on to have more kids. His bio father has passed away. His mother has been remarried for the last 25 years and he is gets along very well with his mom and stepdad. I like his parents. They remind me of my parents in some ways. I like spending time with him. He's fun and exciting and also frustrating at times. I find it easy to share things with him.


Who would you pick to get more serious with in the new year?

Maybe I should start a different thread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A guy who tells me all about the time he lost his virginity.

LOL

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Makes a lot of money. Doesn't expect sex.

That's sad.

Who are these women who think sex is a chore? How unhappy are you? And what do you use as a release?

Not everyone has a high libido. Some people --both male and female-- have low sex drives or are asexual. Others have only had bad experiences with sex and really are out of tune with their bodies. I'm not, but know people like that.
--not PP

[Anonymous]

Someone I can fart with.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, I'm sure there are some alpha males who are good guys. And my point is that you can in fact distinguish the good guys from the asshats. I have predicted a number of divorces after rather limited conversations or interactions with several couples. How? Because it's relatively easy to spot a self-centered asshole.

OMG I am so glad you are here. You can help me choose between these guys.

I'm a female age 31 have a career, but am looking to settle down and marry within the next few years. Would ideally like to be a SAHM.
I turned to dating sites to help me out and some matchmaking via networking. I have been on many dates the last 2.5 years, but within the last 8 months I have dated 3 men that I am most interested. I'm fairly casual with all of them. I say fairly because I have slept with all of them even though I'm not committed to any of them at the moment. They are all nice guys in the sense that they are well liked, friendly, care about others, good relationship with family etc. Differences are:

Guy 1

Age 29
Career that takes him on the road for likely the next 5 years, after that career is ambiguous, but will unlikely be unemployed, but career involves health risks and he does have some recent health concerns.
Very low key guy. Volunteers within the community is good with kids and would like to have them. Lives locally now, but family is out of the area is open to living away from family. Family is very closeknit. Like his family. His parents are still married after 30 + years and from what I have seen get on well and respectfully His parents remind me of my parents, and his upbringing reminds me of my upbringing. Religion is Catholic turned Born Again.

Guy 2

Age 51
Pretty close to retired, but works when he wants to just to keep from being bored, Does some volunteering is in to motorbikes for fun. Never married. Had one serious relationship in his 30s that ended with him losing his fiance and child. Is willing to have more children, but doesn't have to. Isn't local but is willing to relocate. No relationship with father, very close to his mother who is mentally ill and has taken care of his sister when she had a life threatening illness. I like his family. He is very low key guy. I like spending time with him. He's very calming. We enjoy Religion Interested in Buddhism, but mostly Agnostic.

Guy 3

Age 32
Works long hours doesn't have much career flexibility because he hasn't pursued it. Does volunteering likes to watch sports , fish, go to the gym, and drink for fun. Has been engaged before. Not low key at all has an opinion on everything. Wants to be married and have kids. Close to his family. His bio parents are divorced when he was a kid, each parent went on to have more kids. His bio father has passed away. His mother has been remarried for the last 25 years and he is gets along very well with his mom and stepdad. I like his parents. They remind me of my parents in some ways. I like spending time with him. He's fun and exciting and also frustrating at times. I find it easy to share things with him.


Who would you pick to get more serious with in the new year?

Maybe I should start a different thread.

NP. I'd pick #3.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous



A guy who tells me all about the time he lost his virginity.

If he does not show you the video, it never happened.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To describe my man:
Kind and compassionate but not a pushover
Witty/funny
Happy
Smart
Physically strong because he takes good care of his body as he ages.
Brave without being foolhardy or a bully.
Competent with household repairs, car maintenance, yard work
Very good in Bed
Clean/well groomed and neat with his belongings without being fussy
Even tempered
Confident without being cocky
Enjoys indulging me and my girls without being patronizing
Kills really big insects without complaining or bragging
Flexible when we need to change plans
A good steward of household finances
Loves children and animals
Keeps his word
Loyal
And perhaps the biggest: Traveled to a renowned medical clinic in another state and waited 3 hours in the parking lot to hand deliver my medical records to a doctor we'd had trouble getting access to through the dragon lady office manager. The doctor didn't take my case anyway, but it was a huge sweet gesture. We weren't even engaged yet.

Look at this, you have 19 fucking boxes to check. What a disgrace.

I have three:

look good
put out
shut up

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:1. "Good" respectable job; lawyer, Doctor, academic, engineer etc
2. Comes from a good well to do upper/upper middle class family
3. Good education
4. Good manners/ upbringing
5. Good head on his shoulders
6. Responsible/nice

Academic? I laffed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
OMG I am so glad you are here. You can help me choose between these guys.

I'm a female age 31 have a career, but am looking to settle down and marry within the next few years. Would ideally like to be a SAHM.
I turned to dating sites to help me out and some matchmaking via networking. I have been on many dates the last 2.5 years, but within the last 8 months I have dated 3 men that I am most interested. I'm fairly casual with all of them. I say fairly because I have slept with all of them even though I'm not committed to any of them at the moment. They are all nice guys in the sense that they are well liked, friendly, care about others, good relationship with family etc. Differences are:

Guy 1

Age 29
Career that takes him on the road for likely the next 5 years, after that career is ambiguous, but will unlikely be unemployed, but career involves health risks and he does have some recent health concerns.
Very low key guy. Volunteers within the community is good with kids and would like to have them. Lives locally now, but family is out of the area is open to living away from family. Family is very closeknit. Like his family. His parents are still married after 30 + years and from what I have seen get on well and respectfully His parents remind me of my parents, and his upbringing reminds me of my upbringing. Religion is Catholic turned Born Again.

Guy 2

Age 51
Pretty close to retired, but works when he wants to just to keep from being bored, Does some volunteering is in to motorbikes for fun. Never married. Had one serious relationship in his 30s that ended with him losing his fiance and child. Is willing to have more children, but doesn't have to. Isn't local but is willing to relocate. No relationship with father, very close to his mother who is mentally ill and has taken care of his sister when she had a life threatening illness. I like his family. He is very low key guy. I like spending time with him. He's very calming. We enjoy Religion Interested in Buddhism, but mostly Agnostic.

Guy 3

Age 32
Works long hours doesn't have much career flexibility because he hasn't pursued it. Does volunteering likes to watch sports , fish, go to the gym, and drink for fun. Has been engaged before. Not low key at all has an opinion on everything. Wants to be married and have kids. Close to his family. His bio parents are divorced when he was a kid, each parent went on to have more kids. His bio father has passed away. His mother has been remarried for the last 25 years and he is gets along very well with his mom and stepdad. I like his parents. They remind me of my parents in some ways. I like spending time with him. He's fun and exciting and also frustrating at times. I find it easy to share things with him.


Who would you pick to get more serious with in the new year?

Maybe I should start a different thread.

You're seriously considering procreating with a 50 y/o man? You are a moron.

Drop the SAHM dreams and get a god damn job.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To describe my man:
Kind and compassionate but not a pushover
Witty/funny
Happy
Smart
Physically strong because he takes good care of his body as he ages.
Brave without being foolhardy or a bully.
Competent with household repairs, car maintenance, yard work
Very good in Bed
Clean/well groomed and neat with his belongings without being fussy
Even tempered
Confident without being cocky
Enjoys indulging me and my girls without being patronizing
Kills really big insects without complaining or bragging
Flexible when we need to change plans
A good steward of household finances
Loves children and animals
Keeps his word
Loyal
And perhaps the biggest: Traveled to a renowned medical clinic in another state and waited 3 hours in the parking lot to hand deliver my medical records to a doctor we'd had trouble getting access to through the dragon lady office manager. The doctor didn't take my case anyway, but it was a huge sweet gesture. We weren't even engaged yet.

Look at this, you have 19 fucking boxes to check. What a disgrace.

I have three:

look good
put out
shut up

I never saw them as boxes to check when looking for a mate, but rather all the awesome things about my guy that make me feel so blessed to have him. He's a great catch! And who doesn't want a partner who is happy, loyal, and keeps their word?

[Anonymous]

I'm married. To an alpha male who does well professionally. We do have a lot in common. However, if I had to do it all over again I would prioritize:

1. Conversationalist. A man who can carry on a conversation over a long dinner and listens when the other person is speaking
2. Decent sex drive.
3. Respectful of women and not just me
4. Family that at least pretends to get along


I am dumbfounded as to how I ended up with a man not meeting this criteria. I try to focus on the positive but find it challenging. He's just such an ass and so into himself. Also low drive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm married. To an alpha male who does well professionally. We do have a lot in common. However, if I had to do it all over again I would prioritize:

1. Conversationalist. A man who can carry on a conversation over a long dinner and listens when the other person is speaking
2. Decent sex drive.
3. Respectful of women and not just me
4. Family that at least pretends to get along


I am dumbfounded as to how I ended up with a man not meeting this criteria. I try to focus on the positive but find it challenging. He's just such an ass and so into himself. Also low drive.

uhh you can't be alpha and have low drive. alpha/beta stems from a very sexualized classification. he has low drive, he's turned beta.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm married. To an alpha male who does well professionally. We do have a lot in common. However, if I had to do it all over again I would prioritize:

1. Conversationalist. A man who can carry on a conversation over a long dinner and listens when the other person is speaking
2. Decent sex drive.
3. Respectful of women and not just me
4. Family that at least pretends to get along


I am dumbfounded as to how I ended up with a man not meeting this criteria. I try to focus on the positive but find it challenging. He's just such an ass and so into himself. Also low drive.

uhh you can't be alpha and have low drive. alpha/beta stems from a very sexualized classification. he has low drive, he's turned beta.

Well then he's alpha in every other aspect of his life except for the frequency of sex. He is dominant in bed but doesn't like to have sex as often as I do.