What makes a man a catch?

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Anonymous wrote:The guy who is willing to do the middle of the night feedings with a newborn is a catch.

Yeah but you don't know that unless you are dating with a newborn, which is interesting.

You can tell which guys are inclined to do that. Duh.

Not really.

You totally can. If you can't, then you don't have your eyes open.

He's the guy who really helps to clean up after a party at your aunt's house. He's the guy who packs a lunch for you or surprises you after your class ends to give you an umbrella since it's raining. He's the guy who doesn't play tit for tat. He's the guy who feels comfortable in his own skin and couldn't care less about impressing others or keeping up with the Joneses. He's the guy that literally everybody loves because they have a dozen stories about him going out if his way to be helpful or just plain kind.

Of course, he might be shorter than the guys you typically date. Or he might not have a big six salary because he opted for a career in public service that doesn't pay as much as the guys you typically date. But you can easily sort the good guys from the asshats.

Um I know guys who did everything you described and still do shit to get up with the babies.

But it's clear you are short and make about 30 to 40 k and took offense to the women who want a guy who is tall and has a a well paying job.

Um, once again, you are wrong.

I'm a 40 something happily married woman with an amazing husband who did the middle of the night feedings so I could get some sleep and be fresh for the baby during the day. DH is 5'9" and makes just shy of $100k (so do I BTW). And literally everybody loves him...because he's a truly nice guy who is kind to everyone he meets.

It's really not hard to distinguish the good guys from the asshats. But there are lots of lazy and shallow women who ignore the red flags as they chase the golden ring...then they bitch about their asshat husbands who don't lift a finger around the house and don't help out with the kids. What they expect? If you aggressively pursue a 1950s style marriage with an alpha male, then don't be surprised when he expects you to handle the kids.

Um once again you are wrong. I know many women married to what you describe as alpha males who get up with the kids at night.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Intelligent,
Calm,
Tall,
Large Penis, and
Not afraid of picking up dead things like mice, snake, etc.

Oh my goodness! Yes! I had an ex who was afraid of spiders. I couldn't overlook that, and honestly that is one of many reasons he is an ex.

[Anonymous]

Yes, I'm sure there are some alpha males who are good guys. And my point is that you can in fact distinguish the good guys from the asshats. I have predicted a number of divorces after rather limited conversations or interactions with several couples. How? Because it's relatively easy to spot a self-centered asshole.

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Anonymous wrote:The guy who is willing to do the middle of the night feedings with a newborn is a catch.

Yeah but you don't know that unless you are dating with a newborn, which is interesting.

You can tell which guys are inclined to do that. Duh.

Not really.

You totally can. If you can't, then you don't have your eyes open.

He's the guy who really helps to clean up after a party at your aunt's house. He's the guy who packs a lunch for you or surprises you after your class ends to give you an umbrella since it's raining. He's the guy who doesn't play tit for tat. He's the guy who feels comfortable in his own skin and couldn't care less about impressing others or keeping up with the Joneses. He's the guy that literally everybody loves because they have a dozen stories about him going out if his way to be helpful or just plain kind.

Of course, he might be shorter than the guys you typically date. Or he might not have a big six salary because he opted for a career in public service that doesn't pay as much as the guys you typically date. But you can easily sort the good guys from the asshats.

Um I know guys who did everything you described and still do shit to get up with the babies.

But it's clear you are short and make about 30 to 40 k and took offense to the women who want a guy who is tall and has a a well paying job.

Um, once again, you are wrong.

I'm a 40 something happily married woman with an amazing husband who did the middle of the night feedings so I could get some sleep and be fresh for the baby during the day. DH is 5'9" and makes just shy of $100k (so do I BTW). And literally everybody loves him...because he's a truly nice guy who is kind to everyone he meets.

It's really not hard to distinguish the good guys from the asshats. But there are lots of lazy and shallow women who ignore the red flags as they chase the golden ring...then they bitch about their asshat husbands who don't lift a finger around the house and don't help out with the kids. What they expect? If you aggressively pursue a 1950s style marriage with an alpha male, then don't be surprised when he expects you to handle the kids.

Um once again you are wrong. I know many women married to what you describe as alpha males who get up with the kids at night.

Oh and I know a guy who matches your description to a fault and he regularly cheats on his wife who is constantly bragging about how smart she was with choosing a mate.
You husband's name doesn't happen to start with J, does it?

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Nope, my husband doesn't cheat, pp. And his name doesn't start with a J. We have sex almost every night, and he's always with me and the kids...there's literally no time for him to cheat.

Plus, you can tell which guys and gals cheat--I've predicted cheaters prior to divorces as well...it's really not hard.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nope, my husband doesn't cheat, pp. And his name doesn't start with a J. We have sex almost every night, and he's always with me and the kids...there's literally no time for him to cheat.

Plus, you can tell which guys and gals cheat--I've predicted cheaters prior to divorces as well...it's really not hard.

You remind me so much of one of my coworkers a women in her 40s as well she used to love to school everyone on relationships. She was so damn smug.
It was hard to feel sorry for her when her husband cheated on her , and it came out he had a kid on the side, and her perfect relationship of 20 years came crashing down.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Nope, my husband doesn't cheat, pp. And his name doesn't start with a J. We have sex almost every night, and he's always with me and the kids...there's literally no time for him to cheat.

Plus, you can tell which guys and gals cheat--I've predicted cheaters prior to divorces as well...it's really not hard.

You remind me so much of one of my coworkers a women in her 40s as well she used to love to school everyone on relationships. She was so damn smug.
It was hard to feel sorry for her when her husband cheated on her , and it came out he had a kid on the side, and her perfect relationship of 20 years came crashing down.

Sorry to burst your bubble, but I'm not smug IRL. And I never talk about my marriage or our sex life...people who talk about sex all the time typically aren't getting any at home (that's a red flag for divorce...so is the constant FB lovey dovey nonsense).

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Nope, my husband doesn't cheat, pp. And his name doesn't start with a J. We have sex almost every night, and he's always with me and the kids...there's literally no time for him to cheat.

Plus, you can tell which guys and gals cheat--I've predicted cheaters prior to divorces as well...it's really not hard.

You remind me so much of one of my coworkers a women in her 40s as well she used to love to school everyone on relationships. She was so damn smug.
It was hard to feel sorry for her when her husband cheated on her , and it came out he had a kid on the side, and her perfect relationship of 20 years came crashing down.

Sorry to burst your bubble, but I'm not smug IRL. And I never talk about my marriage or our sex life...people who talk about sex all the time typically aren't getting any at home (that's a red flag for divorce...so is the constant FB lovey dovey nonsense).

For the win. Again.

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Anonymous wrote:Nope, my husband doesn't cheat, pp. And his name doesn't start with a J. We have sex almost every night, and he's always with me and the kids...there's literally no time for him to cheat.

Plus, you can tell which guys and gals cheat--I've predicted cheaters prior to divorces as well...it's really not hard.

You remind me so much of one of my coworkers a women in her 40s as well she used to love to school everyone on relationships. She was so damn smug.
It was hard to feel sorry for her when her husband cheated on her , and it came out he had a kid on the side, and her perfect relationship of 20 years came crashing down.

Sorry to burst your bubble, but I'm not smug IRL. And I never talk about my marriage or our sex life...people who talk about sex all the time typically aren't getting any at home (that's a red flag for divorce...so is the constant FB lovey dovey nonsense).

For the win. Again.

Where did I say she talked about her sexlife?
Also you did just talk about your sex life and marriage, and I might be wrong, but I'm willing to wager you don't keep your marriage predictions entirely to yourself.
I really don't have more reason to engage with you I just hope you are possession of a mighty large fork.

[Anonymous]

Makes a lot of money. Doesn't expect sex.

[Anonymous]

In no particular order:

1. Intelligence
2. Confidence
3. Witty sense of humor
4. Passion
5. Positive attitude
6. Kind
7. Loves sex

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Anonymous wrote:Nope, my husband doesn't cheat, pp. And his name doesn't start with a J. We have sex almost every night, and he's always with me and the kids...there's literally no time for him to cheat.

Plus, you can tell which guys and gals cheat--I've predicted cheaters prior to divorces as well...it's really not hard.

You remind me so much of one of my coworkers a women in her 40s as well she used to love to school everyone on relationships. She was so damn smug.
It was hard to feel sorry for her when her husband cheated on her , and it came out he had a kid on the side, and her perfect relationship of 20 years came crashing down.

Sorry to burst your bubble, but I'm not smug IRL. And I never talk about my marriage or our sex life...people who talk about sex all the time typically aren't getting any at home (that's a red flag for divorce...so is the constant FB lovey dovey nonsense).

For the win. Again.

Where did I say she talked about her sexlife?
Also you did just talk about your sex life and marriage, and I might be wrong, but I'm willing to wager you don't keep your marriage predictions entirely to yourself.
I really don't have more reason to engage with you I just hope you are possession of a mighty large fork.

I.R.L.

I'm not smug IRL, nor do I talk about my marriage or sex life IRL. I also don't talk about my assessments of other people or my predictions of divorce IRL...well, except with my husband. And here's what's interesting: because he's so kind, he never seems to see the red flags in other people...unless the character flaws are glaring (he has predicted some cheaters before I did--but he also spends more time with dads from school than I do).

Here's the thing, pp: you seem to have energy on this...and you were the one to throw rocks at me. I'm merely posting generalizations that aren't aimed at any other poster in particular...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Makes a lot of money. Doesn't expect sex.

That's sad.

Who are these women who think sex is a chore? How unhappy are you? And what do you use as a release?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Makes a lot of money. Doesn't expect sex.

I'd rather have the reverse. I can make my own $$!
-- married DW

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Anonymous wrote:Makes a lot of money. Doesn't expect sex.

That's sad.

Who are these women who think sex is a chore? How unhappy are you? And what do you use as a release?

Obviously she uses shopping!