Women: do you care how much your engagement ring costs?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Any woman who is worried about the cost of a ring is not the woman for me. That money is obviously better spent on honeymoon or actual married life.

That is why you should get to know these things about the woman you are dating. I find it hard to believe the the OP's boyfriend doesn't know that she is the kind of girl who cares about her ring. That probably comes with a lot of other things that he likes about her (cares about/spends her time and money on her appearance). And now he is trying to get away with less than he already knows she expects. I get why she is pissed. He knows what he should do, and he wants to see if she will accept less. And she can't really say anything because he will think she is materialistic. Even though she is AND he already knows it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Any woman who is worried about the cost of a ring is not the woman for me. That money is obviously better spent on honeymoon or actual married life.

That is why you should get to know these things about the woman you are dating. I find it hard to believe the the OP's boyfriend doesn't know that she is the kind of girl who cares about her ring. That probably comes with a lot of other things that he likes about her (cares about/spends her time and money on her appearance). And now he is trying to get away with less than he already knows she expects. I get why she is pissed. He knows what he should do, and he wants to see if she will accept less. And she can't really say anything because he will think she is materialistic. Even though she is AND he already knows it.

It's not about getting away with less than she expects...he can't afford what she expects, plain and simple. If that is a deal-breaker she needs to let him know, and not pretend that she isn't materialistic. A responsible adult does not go into debt for an engagement ring.

[Anonymous]

OP you get a

[Anonymous]

When I see posts like this, I wish I could start an ad campaign: "Get Engaged Like the Penguins Do."

When a male penguin wants a mate (or just some action), he brings the female a nicely shaped rock for a nest. If it's a pleasing shape, she accepts his offer.

She does not stop to whine about the cost, the cut, flaws, the 4 Cs, or what her best friend Brandy's ex-husband spent on her ring.

Humans are so stupid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:take the median HHI and divide by 10, that's the starting point of a ring. You can also take your current hhi and divide by ten as well. for the dc area the ring should be at least 9000+

http://www.breitbart.com/big-government/2014/09/19/boomtown-dc-region-has-highest-median-household-income/

BWAAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA SUCKER!

[Anonymous]

http://thestir.cafemom.com/love_sex/121275/dont_accept_an_engagement_ring

[Anonymous]

Not every girl wants a diamond. I wanted (and received a ruby) for my branding ring.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you?

My bf told me he wants to propose to me but he cannot afford to get me an expensive one so he'll get me a cheap one for now. I'm kinda upset since I have told him how I want to always be wearing it and so I want it to be nice. Also it is annoying me that he thinks I'm not worth a more expensive ring.

Am I being superficial?

He's right. You're not worth it. If you want a more expensive ring, put some of your money on it. You're obviously not attracting the type of man that can afford the ring you want. I guess you're just not they type of woman that's worth an expensive ring. Sorry...look in the mirror and do an accurate assessment of your worth.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Any woman who is worried about the cost of a ring is not the woman for me. That money is obviously better spent on honeymoon or actual married life.

That is why you should get to know these things about the woman you are dating. I find it hard to believe the the OP's boyfriend doesn't know that she is the kind of girl who cares about her ring. That probably comes with a lot of other things that he likes about her (cares about/spends her time and money on her appearance). And now he is trying to get away with less than he already knows she expects. I get why she is pissed. He knows what he should do, and he wants to see if she will accept less. And she can't really say anything because he will think she is materialistic. Even though she is AND he already knows it.

It's not about getting away with less than she expects...he can't afford what she expects, plain and simple. If that is a deal-breaker she needs to let him know, and not pretend that she isn't materialistic. A responsible adult does not go into debt for an engagement ring.

She shouldn't have to say it. He should just know it. And he does. That's why he brought this up BEFORE he even bought a ring. And how do you know what he can afford? I am sure that the OP knows his finances better than you do. I am not picturing a guy who buys his clothes at goodwill and drives a beater car and OP hit him with this out of the blue.

[Anonymous]

Who's paying for the wedding?

[Anonymous]

The cheaper the better.

[Anonymous]

Expensive rings are for winners. OP is not a winner.

[Anonymous]

Hooray! A chance to post my very favorite Carolyn Hax response ever. A woman had written in about becoming engaged to her boyfriend, but when she got the ring appraised, the bottom fell out of her greedy little world. The ring wasn't worth 2 months salary. The horror! She avoided him for the weekend, and her best friend advised her to dump him. Carolyn thought it was a joke, and said she should complain to the guy so he could dump her.

Then the woman wrote back:

http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-srv/liveonline/00/hax/hax1011.htm

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hooray! A chance to post my very favorite Carolyn Hax response ever. A woman had written in about becoming engaged to her boyfriend, but when she got the ring appraised, the bottom fell out of her greedy little world. The ring wasn't worth 2 months salary. The horror! She avoided him for the weekend, and her best friend advised her to dump him. Carolyn thought it was a joke, and said she should complain to the guy so he could dump her.

Then the woman wrote back:

http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-srv/liveonline/00/hax/hax1011.htm

Love Carolyn Hax she gives great "down to earth" appraisals of situations and advice about them.
I think the OP would be very well served to read this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you?

My bf told me he wants to propose to me but he cannot afford to get me an expensive one so he'll get me a cheap one for now. I'm kinda upset since I have told him how I want to always be wearing it and so I want it to be nice. Also it is annoying me that he thinks I'm not worth a more expensive ring.

Am I being superficial?

Nope. You ARE worth 5 cows and 3 pigs, at the very least.