Women: do you care how much your engagement ring costs?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:take the median HHI and divide by 10, that's the starting point of a ring. You can also take your current hhi and divide by ten as well. for the dc area the ring should be at least 9000+

http://www.breitbart.com/big-government/2014/09/19/boomtown-dc-region-has-highest-median-household-income/

Are you a troll, too? Who commanded this little "rule"?

If he is serious he will make it happen. I guess a car is more important than your love.

A fairly skillful troll it appears.

[Anonymous]

If he can't afford it, he can't afford it. If you really and truly loved him, you would not care.

Please don't marry this person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:take the median HHI and divide by 10, that's the starting point of a ring. You can also take your current hhi and divide by ten as well. for the dc area the ring should be at least 9000+

http://www.breitbart.com/big-government/2014/09/19/boomtown-dc-region-has-highest-median-household-income/

Are you a troll, too? Who commanded this little "rule"?

If he is serious he will make it happen. I guess a car is more important than your love.

A fairly skillful troll it appears.

sad that you married down

[Anonymous]

You have champagne taste, and he has a beer budget. Either you compromise with a less expensive but still tasteful ring that can be upgraded when finances permit, or you make him go into debt to buy the ring of your dreams and then deal with the financial fallout. The choice is yours. Choose wisely.

[Anonymous]

No. I cared that it was real, but other than that, no.

[Anonymous]

I suggest you let this poor fella go. You'll both be happier.

[Anonymous]

You do realize that you're joining your finances, right?

Why put him into debt or deplete his savings? Soon it will be YOUR DEBT. YOUR DEPLETED SAVINGS. Find something he can comfortably afford. Or skip it altogether. Seriously, it is just a hunk of metal and rock.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I suggest you let this poor fella go. You'll both be happier.

+1

OP need to date a man as shallow as she is. Plenty of those types of guys in DC - just go to any bottle service club on K Street.

But OP, don't come complaining to us when you whine that hubby is too busy working and you never get to spend time with him. Champagne tastes require an insane work ethic. You can't buy time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:take the median HHI and divide by 10, that's the starting point of a ring. You can also take your current hhi and divide by ten as well. for the dc area the ring should be at least 9000+

http://www.breitbart.com/big-government/2014/09/19/boomtown-dc-region-has-highest-median-household-income/

Are you a troll, too? Who commanded this little "rule"?

Probably the same person that created the diamond monopoly and makes us pay so much for what is essentially a worthless stone.

[Anonymous]

You can contribute to the cost OP.

[Anonymous]

Sentimentally your wedding band should be more important.

[Anonymous]

Is this really a sign that he doesn't care or just that it's not his strength? Is your Love Language Gifts? (If so, this guy may not be the guy for you. Not because of the cost of the ring, but because you see effort=love).

DH was never going to spend days and days finding the perfect e-ring for me. It's just not his thing. So he gave me his budget. I spent weeks going from store to store trying on EVERY ring until I found the perfect one. I told him the store and ring. He went and bought it. Not romantic, but I now wear a ring I love. And DH shows me how much he loves and cares for me in other ways--does the laundry even when he's sick, drives in the rain to get me food I'm craving, etc.

[Anonymous]

Yes. As little as possible for something that's symbolic and still pretty. Check out vintage rings. About 1/2 price off the top from new stuff. If my husband spent more than he did he wouldn't have been him and it would have elicited a budget talk.

[Anonymous]

Regardless of what he ends up getting OP, if he does marry you make sure he is in charge of all financial decisions. You sound like you would run your household into the ground.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is this really a sign that he doesn't care or just that it's not his strength? Is your Love Language Gifts? (If so, this guy may not be the guy for you. Not because of the cost of the ring, but because you see effort=love).

DH was never going to spend days and days finding the perfect e-ring for me. It's just not his thing. So he gave me his budget. I spent weeks going from store to store trying on EVERY ring until I found the perfect one. I told him the store and ring. He went and bought it. Not romantic, but I now wear a ring I love. And DH shows me how much he loves and cares for me in other ways--does the laundry even when he's sick, drives in the rain to get me food I'm craving, etc.

Op's problem has nothing to do with effort...it's that he can't afford the ring she does want.