Women: do you care how much your engagement ring costs?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you?

My bf told me he wants to propose to me but he cannot afford to get me an expensive one so he'll get me a cheap one for now. I'm kinda upset since I have told him how I want to always be wearing it and so I want it to be nice. Also it is annoying me that he thinks I'm not worth a more expensive ring.

Am I being superficial?

What do you define as "cheap"? A ring costing $500-$1000?

If your entry price is $10k, then I suggest you and he break up.

OP here. "cheap" to me would be $1K-3K.

I was ideally looking in the 5k-8k range.

But after reading some of the posts and giving it some thought, I just don't care anymore. I want the guy more than the ring. So if I get a 1K ring, oh well.

[Anonymous]

I'm glad to hear you want the guy more than the ring.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you?

My bf told me he wants to propose to me but he cannot afford to get me an expensive one so he'll get me a cheap one for now. I'm kinda upset since I have told him how I want to always be wearing it and so I want it to be nice. Also it is annoying me that he thinks I'm not worth a more expensive ring.

Am I being superficial?

What do you define as "cheap"? A ring costing $500-$1000?

If your entry price is $10k, then I suggest you and he break up.

OP here. "cheap" to me would be $1K-3K.

I was ideally looking in the 5k-8k range.

But after reading some of the posts and giving it some thought, I just don't care anymore. I want the guy more than the ring. So if I get a 1K ring, oh well.

OP would you be open to other stones? I have a 2.5 carat sapphire ring that is insanely stunning and it was about 5k. We got it from dominion jewelers which is cheaper because they make the rings there. My ring is really big and beautiful, you could totally get something gorgeous there in the 1-3 range if you forego the diamond, that's the real money suck.

[Anonymous]

I care that he didn't overspend for what it was. He did a great job, getting something I loved for an insanely great deal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you?

My bf told me he wants to propose to me but he cannot afford to get me an expensive one so he'll get me a cheap one for now. I'm kinda upset since I have told him how I want to always be wearing it and so I want it to be nice. Also it is annoying me that he thinks I'm not worth a more expensive ring.

Am I being superficial?

What do you define as "cheap"? A ring costing $500-$1000?

If your entry price is $10k, then I suggest you and he break up.

OP here. "cheap" to me would be $1K-3K.

I was ideally looking in the 5k-8k range.

But after reading some of the posts and giving it some thought, I just don't care anymore. I want the guy more than the ring. So if I get a 1K ring, oh well.

So pony up the extra cash. I mean, seriously, I don't get this. What's a PRICE TAG??!! You'll go blissfully along your merry way because your guy spent $5,000 on a ring (sorry, $5,000 to $8,000), but "oh well" if it's $1,000? Man, if I were your guy I'd run for the hills. Your attitude sucks.

[Anonymous]

Rings are not a part of our relationship, before or after getting married. Our love is pure like the nectar of a flower. A tchotchke would add nothing too it.

[Anonymous]

A woman at my church wears no metal wedding band. Instead, she has a tattoo of a wedding band on her wedding finger, and where the stone would be is her husband's first initial.

THAT'S commitment.

[Anonymous]

I promise you, you will not wear your engagement ring forever. Especially not when the children are little as rings tend to scratch them. Eight years in and I only wear my wedding band everyday. My engagement ring sees the light of day maybe twice a year. If I were you, I would get an infinity diamond wedding band, only.

[Anonymous]

Get a nice setting with a CZ and upgrade later. Seriously, no one will know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

A woman at my church wears no metal wedding band. Instead, she has a tattoo of a wedding band on her wedding finger, and where the stone would be is her husband's first initial.

THAT'S commitment.

Sounds trailer park and tattoos can be covered with a revision tattoo

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What a bitch you are. Buy your own ring and then shove it up your ass

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

A woman at my church wears no metal wedding band. Instead, she has a tattoo of a wedding band on her wedding finger, and where the stone would be is her husband's first initial.

THAT'S commitment.

Ooooh, I don't know. My neighbor did this & they got divorced within 2 yrs. I always wondered what happened with the tattoo. (It was the husband & I couldn't ask )

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you?

My bf told me he wants to propose to me but he cannot afford to get me an expensive one so he'll get me a cheap one for now. I'm kinda upset since I have told him how I want to always be wearing it and so I want it to be nice. Also it is annoying me that he thinks I'm not worth a more expensive ring.

Am I being superficial?

What do you define as "cheap"? A ring costing $500-$1000?

If your entry price is $10k, then I suggest you and he break up.

OP here. "cheap" to me would be $1K-3K.

I was ideally looking in the 5k-8k range.

But after reading some of the posts and giving it some thought, I just don't care anymore. I want the guy more than the ring. So if I get a 1K ring, oh well.

Good for you OP!!!

[Anonymous]

Perhaps.

I personally would be happy w/any type of ring that I received from a man who wanted to spend the rest of his life w/me. Even a piece of string tied around my ring finger would make me happy.

But it would all depend on the circumstances involved. If he had the money, but just didn't want to invest it in a ring for me I would be hurt & disappointed for sure.

However, if he simply couldn't afford one at the moment, but still wanted me to be his fiance, then any ring would suffice since it is more about thought vs. value.

The ring is just the tangible part, the love + hope for your beautiful future together goes far above and beyond a diamond. Or a cubic zirconia.

(However, I may put my foot down in the event that a man proposed w/a lollipop ring.)

Even a cheap ring from the Walmart jewelry counter will work.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Expensive engagement rings have been linked to higher divorce rates.

Spending two months' salary (or some other ridiculous sum) on an engagement ring is not only the norm, it's expected. But unless your monthly earnings are less than $1,000, that might not be the best decision, at least according to a study out of Emory University last September.

The study, from Andrew M. Francis and Hugo M. Mialon, surveyed 3,000 heterosexual couples and found that "marriage duration is inversely associated with spending on the engagement ring and wedding ceremony." Specifically, those who had spent $2,000-$4,000 were 30% more likely to get divorced.

That is BS, and Carolyn Hax has debunked this hundreds of times through the years (advice columnist for those that do not know).

There are nice rings out there for 2K or less, one just needs to do research. Besides, you can upgrade 10 or 20 years down the line, which is what I have seen some people do through the years.