As a 45 year old skinny woman, should I just give up on ever finding a man who isn't fat?

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Anonymous wrote:There are a lot of men out there who don't seem to realize that they have to keep themselves looking fit and trim. IMO, even more so than women- cause when women get larger, we get bigger breasts and butts. Men do too, but women are SUPPOSED to have them. LOL.

Our wallets get fatter too, and that's what you really care about.

Nope! You wish, though... right?!

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Anonymous wrote:45, woman, 115 pounds. I am not obsessed with food or my weight. However, I have always been thin. My doctor actually gave me a diet to gain weight when I was in my teens. I am healthy. I exercise regularly. I have a daily dozen exercises I do every other day, like 3 sets at 12 to 20 reps each of basic calisthenics, like squats, lunges, push ups, sit ups, biceps curls, etc. I walk my dog about 4X a day. I kayak. I swim. I enjoy being active. I also like to enjoy a nice meal or appetizers out once or twice a week.

After my mid 20s, it just seems like people are so heavy. The best sex and relationship I ever had was with a man who was in the Honor Guard at Arlington Cemetery. He was fit and trim. It is challenging to say the least to find a man who is naturally thin.

4 times a day to walk your dog? Do you work?

I walk my dog 4xs a day and work. Morning, noon, 5pm, and before bed.

I work primarily from home.

Maybe you come off as up tight and way to regimented...meaning by 45 you're stuck in your ways? That's what I'm getting from your posts

There must be more "work from home" jobs than I thought.....considering the traffic in DC sucks more often than not (presuming the OP is living here), it amazes me how many people claim to work from home all the time.

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Am I the only one who read through this and thought that OP is single because she's just a bitch?

Ok.

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She actually sounds like someone I might be acquainted with. The real reason she has no men in her life is because she's a rigid, narrow-minded, bitter, negative, complaining person.

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^how shocking

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There are lots of fit men around - I know plenty out in NoVa, in DC, and in MoCo - but your whole post seems like a putdown disguised as a lament anyway. You sound prideful about your weight and your choices (neurotic listing of workout, specifying that you order "appetizers").

I see lots of fit men at gyms, running the 10 miler and other events, cycling, doing yoga, and so on. Not sure how you aren't seeing them, or do you just mean they aren't dating you? Good for you on your weight, and obviously it's fine and normal to be attracted to a fit body type - aren't we all? - but unfortunately your manner of expressing this preference isn't that nice. Your longing for a "naturally thin" man to complement your wonderfulness sounds kind of shallow.

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OP wonder if you would look more attractive if you gained some weight My wife is naturally skinny and works out some but she's not sweating or anything when she does. She weighs 135 at 5'8 and is 44. Her body and face look like a 32 year old. sometimes working out and too low weight make you look older than your age. the supermodel IMAN said her best tip for better aging was to gain some.

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I think OP is single b/c she is a complete bore. Honey, you are 45. The cows have left the barn. The ship has sailed. You and men your age are on a long downward slide to the grave. You and men your age are no longer sexually attractive. What's the point of being so shallow about weight and looks at your age? When are you going to become an interesting human being with something to offer besides being naturally skinny (which is no credit to you personally)?

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Anonymous wrote:I think OP is single b/c she is a complete bore. Honey, you are 45. The cows have left the barn. The ship has sailed. You and men your age are on a long downward slide to the grave. You and men your age are no longer sexually attractive. What's the point of being so shallow about weight and looks at your age? When are you going to become an interesting human being with something to offer besides being naturally skinny (which is no credit to you personally)?

Stop projecting. Lots of 45 year old people still look pretty damned good.

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Anonymous wrote:OP wonder if you would look more attractive if you gained some weight My wife is naturally skinny and works out some but she's not sweating or anything when she does. She weighs 135 at 5'8 and is 44. Her body and face look like a 32 year old. sometimes working out and too low weight make you look older than your age. the supermodel IMAN said her best tip for better aging was to gain some.

This point was made much earlier in the thread but several posts have disappeared. Bizarre.

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Anonymous wrote:Real men have curves!

Just spit out my coffee! thanks, PP!

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Anonymous wrote:Real men have curves!

Lol this really did make me laugh out loud. Thanks!

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Anonymous wrote:45, woman, 115 pounds. I am not obsessed with food or my weight. However, I have always been thin. My doctor actually gave me a diet to gain weight when I was in my teens. I am healthy. I exercise regularly. I have a daily dozen exercises I do every other day, like 3 sets at 12 to 20 reps each of basic calisthenics, like squats, lunges, push ups, sit ups, biceps curls, etc. I walk my dog about 4X a day. I kayak. I swim. I enjoy being active. I also like to enjoy a nice meal or appetizers out once or twice a week.

After my mid 20s, it just seems like people are so heavy. The best sex and relationship I ever had was with a man who was in the Honor Guard at Arlington Cemetery. He was fit and trim. It is challenging to say the least to find a man who is naturally thin.

OP, the problem may be that you are a judgmental narcissist. If you were a man, this would not be a huge problem. But a family cannot survive with two narcissist parents, and most men prefer that if either parent is to be selfish, it be them. Sexist, yes, but that's the sexist world we live in. You may be able to find a narcissistic athletic man your age who doesn't want kids. But, being a narcissist, he may prefer sub-30 arm candy. Alternatively you could find a loving, giving man your age, who will tolerate your narcissism. But, he is unlikely to be obsessed with his fitness unless his job depends on it. So I guess that brings us back to men whose jobs depend on it, millitary, firefighter, personal trainer...

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Anonymous wrote:I think OP is single b/c she is a complete bore. Honey, you are 45. The cows have left the barn. The ship has sailed. You and men your age are on a long downward slide to the grave. You and men your age are no longer sexually attractive. What's the point of being so shallow about weight and looks at your age? When are you going to become an interesting human being with something to offer besides being naturally skinny (which is no credit to you personally)?

Stop projecting. Lots of 45 year old people still look pretty damned good.

Lots? Keep dreaming.

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Anonymous wrote:I think OP is single b/c she is a complete bore. Honey, you are 45. The cows have left the barn. The ship has sailed. You and men your age are on a long downward slide to the grave. You and men your age are no longer sexually attractive. What's the point of being so shallow about weight and looks at your age? When are you going to become an interesting human being with something to offer besides being naturally skinny (which is no credit to you personally)?

Someone hit the nail on the head.

I always found it incredibly ironic that as women age and their value on the sexual marketplace diminishes, their pickiness only increases.