Is the redhead kid who calls me dad actually mine?
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Anonymous
BUT BUT BUT I thought women didn't need men? |
Anonymous
| Wow, this is a little heartbreaking for everyone involved. Tough situation, OP. |
Anonymous
No. Boys need men to lead the way. It is important. |
Anonymous
It already costs, what, $10k out of pocket for births? I'm sure you can find an extra $100 for a mandatory paternity test. Face facts: The paternity test isn't mandatory because it's in the government's interest to allow women to pin paternity on paying chumps. |
Anonymous
Not his problem. |
Anonymous
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My parents have dark brown, almost black, hair. Two of us kids have classic red hair, two have light brown hair. All had kids. None of the grandkids have red hair, but one of the brown haired (who married a blonde) has two strawberry blondes. The rest of the kids all have blonde or brown hair.
Red hair is genetically strange, hence all the age old jokes and suspicions about red haired children. |
Anonymous
A birth isn't $10k out-of-pocket unless you don't have insurance. Most insured women pay $2k or less total out-of-pocket for all birth and pre/post-partum care. As for making it mandatory, won't happen for a whole host of reasons, including constitutional grounds. The government doesn't have a sufficient interest here to subject people to medical testing against their will, and there's a right to privacy issue with how people decide to order their families. Any man who has concerns about the paternity of his partner's child can get testing done to determine it, the government doesn't need to be involved. |
Anonymous
Except that OP said he wants to be this boy's father either way. He's not looking to escape parental rights/responsibilities, he just wants proof his wife was cheating so he can leave her without feeling guilty. How much do you think *that* would mess a kid up, that he was used as a pawn for a divorce? |
Anonymous
Or because it's insulting, degrading and unnecessary. I know with 100% certainty that my children are DHs. He knows this too. I would find it incredibly insulting that I should have to prove this. Stay out of our bedroom, our marriage and our decisions as parents. Nothing prevents a man who suspects he is not the father of a child from getting a kit, shelling out $100 and having the test performed. But under no circumstances would I agree to one. And honestly, if my DH asked, I would seriously make me question our relationship. If he thinks I could ever cheat on him, then he does not know me at all. -- signed brown haired mom with brown haired DH but red headed DD. |
Anonymous
It wouldn't be insulting nor degrading if it was mandatory. |
Anonymous
Of course it would. The only reason to make it mandatory is because you believe women as a whole are unfaithful and untrustworthy, which is, in fact, insulting and degrading. |
Anonymous
No, the reason to make it mandatory is to prevent fraud from being committed. Our justice system is founded upon letting 99 guilty men go free to save one innocent person. Why shouldn't the same principle apply to births? |
Anonymous
Do you not speak English? PP said that the boy needs the father. Read with your eyes, not your issues. |
Anonymous
| SHE JUST SAID SHE NEEDED A MAN TO RAISE HER SON RIGHT. What about that are you failing to understand? |
Anonymous
That is one of the worst comparisons I've ever read on DCUM. Who would be the guilty people going free in the paternity context? If a man has cause to believe fraud has occurred, he has an easy remedy. No need for even bigger government trying to run people's lives. |