Is the redhead kid who calls me dad actually mine?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, it's possible for two non-redheaded people to produce a red haired child. However, I'd be suspicious, too, if the OM has red haired children. You can buy a paternity test kit and do a cheek swab on both you and the kid. Mail in the swabs and they will tell you if you're related. You could probably do it in secret without your wife finding out.

If your name is listed as the father on the birth certificate, you will always be the father in the court's eyes and your kid would not yanked away from you regardless of the results of any paternity test.

This is rapidly changing, and will depend a lot on where OP lives. Some states still don't let another man challenge the paternity of a child born to a married couple, but some absolutely will if the other man can provide evidence to suggest likelihood of paternity. If OM finds out about a paternity test saying you're not the father, and he had sex with your wife during the window of conception, a judge may allow a paternity action to proceed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Both parents need to carry the gene for red hair. They may not be redheads themselves, but they must both have the gene.

The mother obviously has the gene, even though she has black hair.

The father must also have the gene, whether or not they have red hair. Do you have any redhead relatives at all? If you have some, then there's a greater chance that you have the gene. In small families, that's hard to tell. I am one of several redhead children from parents with no red hair in their families at all. So, unfortunately you're going to have to do a paternity test to tell.

Are there other facial features that look like you (or him)? Eyes, shape of face, etc.?

This is correct.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wife cheated and now I wonder if our son is mine. I love him madly and would be devastated if he weren't but I have to ask the question.

I have dark brown hair and WW has black hair. OM has red headed children.

Our son was born with a full head of red hair which has darkened a little over time to light brown with red highlights.

Google not real helpful to me.

Any genetics experts out there?

Did you or your siblings freckle when you were young?

[Anonymous]

OP is Prince Charles!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wife cheated and now I wonder if our son is mine. I love him madly and would be devastated if he weren't but I have to ask the question.

I have dark brown hair and WW has black hair. OM has red headed children.

Our son was born with a full head of red hair which has darkened a little over time to light brown with red highlights.

Google not real helpful to me.

Any genetics experts out there?

I'm not sure I'd ask then.

He's yours. Whether or not he has your genes, he's yours.

Easy to say.

I can't blame him for not being content raising another man's son with an unfaithful wife.

[Anonymous]

Another vote for recessive genetics. DH and I are both brunette. DD is a fair skinned red head. There is no way she could not be his biological child. Gads-- looking at this, I'm glad DH isn't the suspicious type.

[Anonymous]

Why doesn't OP just swab the kid for a paternity test?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wife cheated and now I wonder if our son is mine. I love him madly and would be devastated if he weren't but I have to ask the question.

I have dark brown hair and WW has black hair. OM has red headed children.

Our son was born with a full head of red hair which has darkened a little over time to light brown with red highlights.

Google not real helpful to me.

Any genetics experts out there?

I'm not sure I'd ask then.

He's yours. Whether or not he has your genes, he's yours.

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Easy to say.

I can't blame him for not being content raising another man's son with an unfaithful wife.

I can't blame him for being discontented either, but I have trouble believing that he'll be contented with the results of a paternity test.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wife cheated and now I wonder if our son is mine. I love him madly and would be devastated if he weren't but I have to ask the question.

I have dark brown hair and WW has black hair. OM has red headed children.

Our son was born with a full head of red hair which has darkened a little over time to light brown with red highlights.

Google not real helpful to me.

Any genetics experts out there?

I'm not sure I'd ask then.

He's yours. Whether or not he has your genes, he's yours.

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Easy to say.

I can't blame him for not being content raising another man's son with an unfaithful wife.

I can't blame him for being discontented either, but I have trouble believing that he'll be contented with the results of a paternity test.

Time to move on, then. Less damage to the kid than a life of enuendos and resentment.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't care. My love for a kid makes me blind. If you raise him, care for him, love him, he's your kid.

[Anonymous]

I am fair with red hair, green eyes. My parents both had black/dark brown hair and skin that tans easily, as did both of my brothers. Red hair on both sides of the family a few generations back. It happens.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't care. My love for a kid makes me blind. If you raise him, care for him, love him, he's your kid.

Love for the kid is one thing. Love for the kid's mother is quite another. There's also the genetic father to consider -- he probably deserves to know if the faithless wife didn't tell him.

[Anonymous]

My grandparents are brunette, my parents are blonde (not strawberry, platinum) my brother is brunette and I'm a red head. I know I'm theirs, I look exactly like my parents minus the hair. Go figure. Go get the test.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wife cheated and now I wonder if our son is mine. I love him madly and would be devastated if he weren't but I have to ask the question.

I have dark brown hair and WW has black hair. OM has red headed children.

Our son was born with a full head of red hair which has darkened a little over time to light brown with red highlights.

Google not real helpful to me.

Any genetics experts out there?

I'm not sure I'd ask then.

He's yours. Whether or not he has your genes, he's yours.

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Easy to say.

I can't blame him for not being content raising another man's son with an unfaithful wife.

I can't blame him for being discontented either, but I have trouble believing that he'll be contented with the results of a paternity test.

Why do you say that? Do you think he's just trying to be difficult?

[Anonymous]

this is why mandatory paternity tests should be the law of the land. the moment a kid is popped out, there needs to be a paternity test administered before the father is put down on the birth certificate