Would you be a sugar baby?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I did this recently and have been regretting it. I don't suggest this.

x2.

NOT worth the money, that's all I can say.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am very much a prude. But this is nothing more than a friend with benefit with more benefits.

You know him, you care for him. You don't love him or want to spend the rest of your life with him.

I think you need an exit plan but otherwise go for it.

No, Friends with Benefits is not one person paying another person for sex. That's called something else.

The question is, would she have a sexual relationship with this man absent the cash? If the answer is no, then...

Better to have uncommitted sex and no payout than uncommitted sex and a payout?

You're weird.

Sex for money is prostitution. The prostitute is only doing it for the money. Sex between 2 consenting adults is either dating, having a fling or a number of possibilities but it doesn't include money for sex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. He is 37 and 24 years younger than my dad. I've had sex with him twice before during drunk hookups. I tend it like older men ( 30-40) so the age difference is no issue.

This changed my answer. If you have already had sex with him, this essentially becomes a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship. It doesn't say much for his character that he'd rather offer you money than a relationship, but okay. It's a pretty good deal to pass on. Tuition and free room and board. And it's only for 1-2 years?

Just make sure this is something you can live with. Something you can explain to your husband later without shame. If you can do this and hold your head up high, then it's no one's business.

Before you agree though, make sure everything is absolutely spelled out. Tuition and books, all food and utilities, plus some monthly spending money. Skip the gifts...that's too undefined. He could mean chocolates and flowers, not jewelry you could pawn. Also determine what happens if you meet someone. Does he want exclusivity? What if he meets someone? Under what circumstances could he ask you to leave the house? If he terminates early, does he still pay tuition?

Why would she need to explain this arrangment to her future husband? He's likely running around sowing his wild oats and banging random girls on the weekend while he's single as well.

Sowing wild oats and selling sex for cash are two different things.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. He is 37 and 24 years younger than my dad. I've had sex with him twice before during drunk hookups. I tend it like older men ( 30-40) so the age difference is no issue.

This changed my answer. If you have already had sex with him, this essentially becomes a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship. It doesn't say much for his character that he'd rather offer you money than a relationship, but okay. It's a pretty good deal to pass on. Tuition and free room and board. And it's only for 1-2 years?

Just make sure this is something you can live with. Something you can explain to your husband later without shame. If you can do this and hold your head up high, then it's no one's business.

Before you agree though, make sure everything is absolutely spelled out. Tuition and books, all food and utilities, plus some monthly spending money. Skip the gifts...that's too undefined. He could mean chocolates and flowers, not jewelry you could pawn. Also determine what happens if you meet someone. Does he want exclusivity? What if he meets someone? Under what circumstances could he ask you to leave the house? If he terminates early, does he still pay tuition?

Why would she need to explain this arrangment to her future husband? He's likely running around sowing his wild oats and banging random girls on the weekend while he's single as well.

Sowing wild oats and selling sex for cash are two different things.

Women have been selling sex for money forever. And I'm not just talking about the official prostitutes, I'm also talking about married women. It's ingrained in our evolution.

Men bring money into a relationship.

Women bring money and youth. Most women won't even date a man seriously unless he earned a certain amount of money or some sort of professional achievement. How is that any different?

[Anonymous]

Do it!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. He is 37 and 24 years younger than my dad. I've had sex with him twice before during drunk hookups. I tend it like older men ( 30-40) so the age difference is no issue.

This changed my answer. If you have already had sex with him, this essentially becomes a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship. It doesn't say much for his character that he'd rather offer you money than a relationship, but okay. It's a pretty good deal to pass on. Tuition and free room and board. And it's only for 1-2 years?

Just make sure this is something you can live with. Something you can explain to your husband later without shame. If you can do this and hold your head up high, then it's no one's business.

Before you agree though, make sure everything is absolutely spelled out. Tuition and books, all food and utilities, plus some monthly spending money. Skip the gifts...that's too undefined. He could mean chocolates and flowers, not jewelry you could pawn. Also determine what happens if you meet someone. Does he want exclusivity? What if he meets someone? Under what circumstances could he ask you to leave the house? If he terminates early, does he still pay tuition?

Why would she need to explain this arrangment to her future husband? He's likely running around sowing his wild oats and banging random girls on the weekend while he's single as well.

Sowing wild oats and selling sex for cash are two different things.

Women have been selling sex for money forever. And I'm not just talking about the official prostitutes, I'm also talking about married women. It's ingrained in our evolution.

Men bring money into a relationship.

Women bring money and youth. Most women won't even date a man seriously unless he earned a certain amount of money or some sort of professional achievement. How is that any different?

I mean... look at yourself and your friends. Most women who date men for their looks are young and just having fun. When it's time to settle down, it's all about money and stability.

[Anonymous]

Don't do this! Use your youth and fertility to attract someone you'd actually want to marry. Don't spend your prime years on this BS.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Women have been selling sex for money forever. And I'm not just talking about the official prostitutes, I'm also talking about married women. It's ingrained in our evolution.

Men bring money into a relationship.

Women bring money and youth. Most women won't even date a man seriously unless he earned a certain amount of money or some sort of professional achievement. How is that any different?

I don't know what kind of marriage or relationship you have, but if that's how you view yours then I genuinely feel sorry for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don't do this! Use your youth and fertility to attract someone you'd actually want to marry. Don't spend your prime years on this BS.

Good point. What if she meets a nice guy her own age, on campus or somewhere else? What's she supposed to say, "Sorry, I'm under contract for 18 more months?"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. He is 37 and 24 years younger than my dad. I've had sex with him twice before during drunk hookups. I tend it like older men ( 30-40) so the age difference is no issue.

This changed my answer. If you have already had sex with him, this essentially becomes a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship. It doesn't say much for his character that he'd rather offer you money than a relationship, but okay. It's a pretty good deal to pass on. Tuition and free room and board. And it's only for 1-2 years?

Just make sure this is something you can live with. Something you can explain to your husband later without shame. If you can do this and hold your head up high, then it's no one's business.

Before you agree though, make sure everything is absolutely spelled out. Tuition and books, all food and utilities, plus some monthly spending money. Skip the gifts...that's too undefined. He could mean chocolates and flowers, not jewelry you could pawn. Also determine what happens if you meet someone. Does he want exclusivity? What if he meets someone? Under what circumstances could he ask you to leave the house? If he terminates early, does he still pay tuition?

This is a lot of great questions. To be fair he did offer to help pay for things without sex. I always declined as it felt awkward just taking money. Then he decided to propose this, I'm assuming. He's really a nice guy. He had a rough upbringing and struggled before his wealth, and I think he seems a little of himself in me ( no pun intended).

I'm not exactly what you mean by full room and board. I will still be paying my own rent, utilities, and daily expenses. He will be covering tuition ( first year upfront), dinners, and gifts.

We have not discussed exclusivity but he did say I can end it whenever w.o him taking back tuition payments. I trust him and his word. I feel it's kind of no different than my real relationships. For the most part I've dated men who paid for almost every outing and offered to help pay tuition, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don't sell your body, OP. It sounds like you've had a lot of challenges and I know it sucks to be poor, but keep brainstorming for other options (other/better jobs, loans, different school, cheaper city to live in.) Some colleges are willing to give lots of grant money for good students. There has to be a better way and I'm sure you can figure something out. Be confident, respect your ability to master your current challenges without doing something you may regret and/or you won't feel proud of and may want to lie about. Good luck! You'll figure this out!

Thanks but with my degree program I can't switch schools, especially with only a year left. I just need to get through this year and get a job in my field. I will be making decent money then ( $120-130k).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don't sell your body, OP. It sounds like you've had a lot of challenges and I know it sucks to be poor, but keep brainstorming for other options (other/better jobs, loans, different school, cheaper city to live in.) Some colleges are willing to give lots of grant money for good students. There has to be a better way and I'm sure you can figure something out. Be confident, respect your ability to master your current challenges without doing something you may regret and/or you won't feel proud of and may want to lie about. Good luck! You'll figure this out!

Thanks but with my degree program I can't switch schools, especially with only a year left. I just need to get through this year and get a job in my field. I will be making decent money then ( $120-130k).

OK, so if he's willing to front the money for your tuition (even without sex, so you claim) why not have him just provide you a no interest loan that you can pay back legitimately? Doesn't cost him any more, and you don't have to pay for it with your body and self respect.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. He is 37 and 24 years younger than my dad. I've had sex with him twice before during drunk hookups. I tend it like older men ( 30-40) so the age difference is no issue.

This changed my answer. If you have already had sex with him, this essentially becomes a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship. It doesn't say much for his character that he'd rather offer you money than a relationship, but okay. It's a pretty good deal to pass on. Tuition and free room and board. And it's only for 1-2 years?

Just make sure this is something you can live with. Something you can explain to your husband later without shame. If you can do this and hold your head up high, then it's no one's business.

Before you agree though, make sure everything is absolutely spelled out. Tuition and books, all food and utilities, plus some monthly spending money. Skip the gifts...that's too undefined. He could mean chocolates and flowers, not jewelry you could pawn. Also determine what happens if you meet someone. Does he want exclusivity? What if he meets someone? Under what circumstances could he ask you to leave the house? If he terminates early, does he still pay tuition?

This is a lot of great questions. To be fair he did offer to help pay for things without sex. I always declined as it felt awkward just taking money. Then he decided to propose this, I'm assuming. He's really a nice guy. He had a rough upbringing and struggled before his wealth, and I think he seems a little of himself in me ( no pun intended).

I'm not exactly what you mean by full room and board. I will still be paying my own rent, utilities, and daily expenses. He will be covering tuition ( first year upfront), dinners, and gifts.

We have not discussed exclusivity but he did say I can end it whenever w.o him taking back tuition payments. I trust him and his word. I feel it's kind of no different than my real relationships. For the most part I've dated men who paid for almost every outing and offered to help pay tuition, etc.

Well then why are you asking for advice here? And if you will apparently be making 120 k after graduation then why are you considering being a hooker for a year? Have some respect for yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well then why are you asking for advice here? And if you will apparently be making 120 k after graduation then why are you considering being a hooker for a year? Have some respect for yourself.

I don't think OP is asking for advice so much as she's seeking affirmation for a choice she's already made. She just needs enough people to tell her that what she knows she's doing isn't really what she's doing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. He is 37 and 24 years younger than my dad. I've had sex with him twice before during drunk hookups. I tend it like older men ( 30-40) so the age difference is no issue.

This changed my answer. If you have already had sex with him, this essentially becomes a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship. It doesn't say much for his character that he'd rather offer you money than a relationship, but okay. It's a pretty good deal to pass on. Tuition and free room and board. And it's only for 1-2 years?

Just make sure this is something you can live with. Something you can explain to your husband later without shame. If you can do this and hold your head up high, then it's no one's business.

Before you agree though, make sure everything is absolutely spelled out. Tuition and books, all food and utilities, plus some monthly spending money. Skip the gifts...that's too undefined. He could mean chocolates and flowers, not jewelry you could pawn. Also determine what happens if you meet someone. Does he want exclusivity? What if he meets someone? Under what circumstances could he ask you to leave the house? If he terminates early, does he still pay tuition?

This is a lot of great questions. To be fair he did offer to help pay for things without sex. I always declined as it felt awkward just taking money. Then he decided to propose this, I'm assuming. He's really a nice guy. He had a rough upbringing and struggled before his wealth, and I think he seems a little of himself in me ( no pun intended).

I'm not exactly what you mean by full room and board. I will still be paying my own rent, utilities, and daily expenses. He will be covering tuition ( first year upfront), dinners, and gifts.

We have not discussed exclusivity but he did say I can end it whenever w.o him taking back tuition payments. I trust him and his word. I feel it's kind of no different than my real relationships. For the most part I've dated men who paid for almost every outing and offered to help pay tuition, etc.

NP. With all this context I'd say go for it. And don't think about your future husband, whatever, I think people who want to rehash all their old relationships are just asking for problems. You had a boyfriend that helped you with tuition once upon a time, done.