My new playgroup drinks

[Anonymous]

I wonder what you all will tell your children when they decide to drive after one glass of wine.

Legal limit defines if you're having trouble with police.
it doesn't mean that you'll be ok to drive or watch a child.

so many mothers screaming at nannies who talk on the phone while the child is playing...
and when it's their turn to "watch" the child they drink.

Hypocrites!

[Anonymous]

Now I don't have the stats to back this up, but I think the vast majority of moms who have a drink in the afternoon do not end up having to take their children to the ER. What a leap of logic! Calm down, people. OP, if you don't feel comfortable in this playgroup, just find another, I'm sure they won't take offense. But it seems perfectly normal to me to have a drink when hanging out with other adults, with or without children. Drunk driving is bad obviously. But I don't see the harm in drinking responsibly in front of children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm having a playgroup today at 4:30 with wine and cheese, I must be a horrible mother.

hopefully you won't enter my ER at 5 30 smelling alcohol crying that your child suffered an accident while you're "watching" her/him in your playgroup.

I'm pretty sure I'll be okay. Should I worry that the cheese I bought isn't pasteurized? You really should stop being so sanctimonious, its an unpleasant characteristic that tends to repel people.

I don't smell alcohol when I have an appointment with a patient.
actually, if I drink while in charge I lose my license.

aren't YOU glad that when you enter my ER with your cranium fractured because you were driving drunk I won't be drunk to fix it?

yes, the world is made of people of all kinds.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Now I don't have the stats to back this up, but I think the vast majority of moms who have a drink in the afternoon do not end up having to take their children to the ER. What a leap of logic! Calm down, people. OP, if you don't feel comfortable in this playgroup, just find another, I'm sure they won't take offense. But it seems perfectly normal to me to have a drink when hanging out with other adults, with or without children. Drunk driving is bad obviously. But I don't see the harm in drinking responsibly in front of children.

you don't need all of them in the ER.

just one is bad enough.

this child will never forget that he/she got involved in an accident because his/her mother was drunk instead of being alertly watching for his/her safety.

[Anonymous]

Legal limit defines if you're having trouble with police.
it doesn't mean that you'll be ok to drive or watch a child.

Realistically, it's probably the other way around. It's more likely that you'd be over the limit legally before you'd be extremely impaired. That's why they set the limit. I suppose if you are very small and you pounded one shot and immediately got behind the wheel, you could be impaired before you got to .08 (or whatever the limit is), but that's not likely.

Obviously, I don't advocate drinking and driving, and I don't think afternoon martinis are a great idea when you're driving your children around, but neither do I agree with Mean Nanny. And of course there is a difference between what we expect from our nannies and what we do ourselves. Nannies are employees. I feel very comfortable having sex and having a glass of wine while my child is asleep, but I don't think a nanny needs to do that on the job. That's not hypocritical; it's just a difference in behavior while one is working and when one is in her own home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What's the difference between having a martini at a playdate and having one for dinner? I'd rather see moms drink responsibly at a playdate than get trashed at night, thinking it's OK because the kids are asleep.

if you drink when they're not there they might grow up thinking you're a responsible/honorable person.

if you don't hide they'll know for sure you don't respect, neither care for them.

the difference is that if they're asleep they have less chance to get in trouble if they were awake - and you drunk.

[Anonymous]

I think a glass of wine or beer once in a while ok but 2-3 martini's during a playdate during the day does not seem responsible to me - I am a lightweight and would be wasted and too relaxed to watch my kid - but I guess the host can handle it. Although I would not judge - I dont think it is the norm. I dont serve alcohol at any of my playdates unless they are in the evening with both parents there so there are 4 set of eyes on the kids instead of 2.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Legal limit defines if you're having trouble with police.
it doesn't mean that you'll be ok to drive or watch a child.

Realistically, it's probably the other way around. It's more likely that you'd be over the limit legally before you'd be extremely impaired. That's why they set the limit. I suppose if you are very small and you pounded one shot and immediately got behind the wheel, you could be impaired before you got to .08 (or whatever the limit is), but that's not likely.

Obviously, I don't advocate drinking and driving, and I don't think afternoon martinis are a great idea when you're driving your children around, but neither do I agree with Mean Nanny. And of course there is a difference between what we expect from our nannies and what we do ourselves. Nannies are employees. I feel very comfortable having sex and having a glass of wine while my child is asleep, but I don't think a nanny needs to do that on the job. That's not hypocritical; it's just a difference in behavior while one is working and when one is in her own home.

I understand mom...

what I meant was not the "status" of being in at work or not.
what matters is being IN CHARGE.

if the nanny has to watch them while they're playing why the mother does not have to watch the child?
they don't get hurt or get in trouble when mommy is around?

[Anonymous]

I'm deeply concerned that some of these children might be getting the idea that it's okay to drink box wine or lower-shelf liquor. I mean, today they're toddling around on the rug while mom and friends sing "I like New York in June," and nobody's getting hurt.

But before you know it, they're on their Sidwell play date, proudly announcing "Mommy drinks Franzia! Aunt Cindy is a So Co gal!"

Have you selfish wenches even stopped to think of the devastating impact that this could have on your child's future?

If you're going to drink during play dates, for god's sake, get a licensed sommelier to supervise. The very last thing you need is for the GDS admissions counselor to find out that you put ice in your zinfandel.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Now I don't have the stats to back this up, but I think the vast majority of moms who have a drink in the afternoon do not end up having to take their children to the ER. What a leap of logic! Calm down, people. OP, if you don't feel comfortable in this playgroup, just find another, I'm sure they won't take offense. But it seems perfectly normal to me to have a drink when hanging out with other adults, with or without children. Drunk driving is bad obviously. But I don't see the harm in drinking responsibly in front of children.

you don't need all of them in the ER.

just one is bad enough.

this child will never forget that he/she got involved in an accident because his/her mother was drunk instead of being alertly watching for his/her safety.

Quoted PP here, wow, there are a lot of cheap dates on this board. One drink does not make me drunk.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Now I don't have the stats to back this up, but I think the vast majority of moms who have a drink in the afternoon do not end up having to take their children to the ER. What a leap of logic! Calm down, people. OP, if you don't feel comfortable in this playgroup, just find another, I'm sure they won't take offense. But it seems perfectly normal to me to have a drink when hanging out with other adults, with or without children. Drunk driving is bad obviously. But I don't see the harm in drinking responsibly in front of children.

you don't need all of them in the ER.

just one is bad enough.

this child will never forget that he/she got involved in an accident because his/her mother was drunk instead of being alertly watching for his/her safety.

Quoted PP here, wow, there are a lot of cheap dates on this board. One drink does not make me drunk.

it doesn't need to make you drunk to create an image about you on your child's mind.

and a drunk person always starts with ONE drink.

have fun.

[Anonymous]

I wonder if the original post is real. Would someone really post this using their child's name, as in "I took Ava to playgroup"? I'd be surprised.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm deeply concerned that some of these children might be getting the idea that it's okay to drink box wine or lower-shelf liquor. I mean, today they're toddling around on the rug while mom and friends sing "I like New York in June," and nobody's getting hurt.

But before you know it, they're on their Sidwell play date, proudly announcing "Mommy drinks Franzia! Aunt Cindy is a So Co gal!"

Have you selfish wenches even stopped to think of the devastating impact that this could have on your child's future?

If you're going to drink during play dates, for god's sake, get a licensed sommelier to supervise. The very last thing you need is for the GDS admissions counselor to find out that you put ice in your zinfandel.

LOLOL. This mommy sticks strictly to Boones and Mad Dog 20/20. We are careful that our children seeing us drink pinkies out just to class things up even more. Sometimes we use paper cups, sometimes we swill straight from the bottle.

Seriously y'all, I just don't quite understand the need to be so sanctimonious. I get it: kids are safest when there's no real drinking going on (have to say a beer or glass of wine with food is just not something that upsets me). But kids also grow up happier when mom isn't completely high strung about everything, too. I'd say the chances of a kid at that playgroup being harmed by a tipsy mom's negligence are pretty low, but the chances of a kid belonging to one of the holier than thou posters on this thread being harmed on a daily basis by mom's rigid behavior is probably quite high. Just my opinion...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm deeply concerned that some of these children might be getting the idea that it's okay to drink box wine or lower-shelf liquor. I mean, today they're toddling around on the rug while mom and friends sing "I like New York in June," and nobody's getting hurt.

But before you know it, they're on their Sidwell play date, proudly announcing "Mommy drinks Franzia! Aunt Cindy is a So Co gal!"

Have you selfish wenches even stopped to think of the devastating impact that this could have on your child's future?

If you're going to drink during play dates, for god's sake, get a licensed sommelier to supervise. The very last thing you need is for the GDS admissions counselor to find out that you put ice in your zinfandel.

LOLOL. This mommy sticks strictly to Boones and Mad Dog 20/20. We are careful that our children seeing us drink pinkies out just to class things up even more. Sometimes we use paper cups, sometimes we swill straight from the bottle.

Seriously y'all, I just don't quite understand the need to be so sanctimonious. I get it: kids are safest when there's no real drinking going on (have to say a beer or glass of wine with food is just not something that upsets me). [b]But kids also grow up happier when mom isn't completely high strung about everything, too. I'd say the chances of a kid at that playgroup being harmed by a tipsy mom's negligence are pretty low, but the chances of a kid belonging to one of the holier than thou posters on this thread being harmed on a daily basis by mom's rigid behavior is probably quite high. Just my opinion...

So true.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Now I don't have the stats to back this up, but I think the vast majority of moms who have a drink in the afternoon do not end up having to take their children to the ER. What a leap of logic! Calm down, people. OP, if you don't feel comfortable in this playgroup, just find another, I'm sure they won't take offense. But it seems perfectly normal to me to have a drink when hanging out with other adults, with or without children. Drunk driving is bad obviously. But I don't see the harm in drinking responsibly in front of children.

you don't need all of them in the ER.

just one is bad enough.

this child will never forget that he/she got involved in an accident because his/her mother was drunk instead of being alertly watching for his/her safety.

Quoted PP here, wow, there are a lot of cheap dates on this board. One drink does not make me drunk.

it doesn't need to make you drunk to create an image about you on your child's mind.

and a drunk person always starts with ONE drink.

have fun.

I don't know about the rest of you, but when I was a kid we had family reunions and gatherings in place of playgroups and my dad (and sometimes my mom) would almost ALWAYS have a beer or two. Nobody got bombed, everyone ate enough and stayed long enough to metabolise the alcohol, and I didn't grow up to have any sort of drinking problem or with an image of my parents as drinkers! Chill please.