My new playgroup drinks

[Anonymous]

I met some new moms when I took Ava to Gymboree and they invited me to join their playgroup. They seem pretty cool and normal. They try to meet twice a week either at someone's house or the mall or a place like Gymboree. Anyways, when we went over to one mom's house yesterday they were boozing it up. None of them breastfeed (all of the kids are over 14 months) but I was a little shocked at what was being served. I'm all for a beer or a glass of wine here and there, but they were drinking martinis! (I really hope none of them are on this website) I didn't feel uncomfortable, but I did feel weird about it. This is my first real playgroup and I like the moms. I'm just curious if this is normal. Does your playgroup drink?

[Anonymous]

what time of day was this?

[Anonymous]

It's normal. DC is a hard-drinking town, and I am rarely in the company of two or more other adults when alcohol is not served. Kids or no kids.

You can always say no. No one will think less of you. If you don't like hard alcohol, next time the group meets, bring a bottle of wine to share. Maybe no one else will want any, but at you'll have a drink you're happier with. (I hate martinis, too.)

[Anonymous]

it was during the day - after 1 but before 5. definitely not happy hour. i will also say that at most three martinis were consumed over the three+ hours i was there and that was by the host. i think a couple other moms had 2. i am just getting over a cold so i had a diet coke.

[Anonymous]

Absolutely not normal or okay. Do you live in a walking or driving community? Either way it's not okay, but even worse if they are driving.

Also, kids are watching. They learn before you have any clue that they are able to understand.

Our playgroup has been meeting for over two years, and the hardest thing that's ever been served is iced tea, not caffeine free!

[Anonymous]

Can I join?

[Anonymous]

I'd say any of those mom's who had two martinis were legally drunk when they left and should not have been driving. It's likely anyone who even had one might have been legally impaired. And the host who had three in three hours, she's an alcoholic. No question. This wasn't a playgroup... this was a party with kids in tow. I'm no puritan, but this ain't kosher.

[Anonymous]

12:07 I would not want to be your friend. And what's wrong with kids seeing their parents have a drink or two? My parents always had a drink or two at night. It was part of the culture of our family and I think that seeing people drink responsibility (i.e., not getting wasted) showed me as a child that going out and getting wasted was not the point of alcohol. Alcohol (whatever its form) is meant to be enjoyed for the taste and drank in moderation.

[Anonymous]

I would def have a drink, maybe not a martini but perhaps a glass of wine. Drinking every day at noon might be weird but these are probably moms that had a nice social life before kids. Now they are moms. They are being social. A drink wont hurt.

[Anonymous]

One drink over 3 hours is hardly enough to make someone impaired. 3 yes, and maybe 2. Regardless, this is still a playgroup I'd like to join, it's rare nowadays to find moms who don't take themselves too seriously!

[Anonymous]

Seriously. Where do I sign up? I had to bag on a few playgroups because the moms were so insufferable. Maybe the liquor would have made it better.

[Anonymous]

I responded earlier that I thought it was normal. But maybe that's just in the city. My crowd all takes public transportation or taxis, so I hadn't even thought that the martini-moms would be driving their kids home. I guess it's different in the 'burbs where everyone is dependent on their cars.

[Anonymous]

It sounds like fun!!!

[Anonymous]

that's what babysitters are for.
if you need to drink hire one.

I feel sorry for the husbands and for the children.

and I bet these are the women who don't let the kids play with barbies, they don't allow the kids to watch tv and they're the ones saying nannies chat instead of watching their children in play areas.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:that's what babysitters are for.
if you need to drink hire one.

I feel sorry for the husbands and for the children.

and I bet these are the women who don't let the kids play with barbies, they don't allow the kids to watch tv and they're the ones saying nannies chat instead of watching their children in play areas.

Sounds like you've had a couple drinks already! Wow, that's an incoherent post.

But to the first point... Why should I hire a babysitter to live my life? Do I need a sitter when I want to have sex? How about when I'm doing laundry, two floors away from my sleeping kids and out of earshot? Please. Drinks with friends, and sex, and laundry are all part of life. Lots of parts of normal life take part of your attention away from the precious darlings.