Single and buying a home. Tacky to register for a housewarming party?

[Anonymous]

Very tacky, period.

[Anonymous]

People without kids get gypped too.

[Anonymous]

So what if a housewarming isn't a wedding? Why is a registry okay for a wedding but not for a housewarming? Put on your critical thinking caps, folks!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So what if a housewarming isn't a wedding? Why is a registry okay for a wedding but not for a housewarming? Put on your critical thinking caps, folks!

I have no problem with registries for weddings, showers, housewarming parties, birthdays, or any other potential gift giving occasion. But you don't tell people about the registry UNLESS THEY ASK for gift ideas. Registries are supposed to be for the benefit of guests who want to know that they are getting something useful for the recipient. Please, please, please don't send out invitations that include registry information or tell a close friend to "discretely get the word out" about the registry before people even ask. It's crass.

[Anonymous]

I also recently went to a housewarming thrown by a single, childless woman in her 30s. She had a registry. I didn't think too much of it because I was happy for her accomplishment.
However, once she started opening gifts and taking a picture with every single one, I thought it was way too much. I also started to feel sad because she may think this will be her only opportunity to be the center of attention.
But my major pet peeve is housewarming registries for rentals. I think that's the biggest insult. I knew someone who did this every time she moved to a new apartment. So tacky.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP,

Are you married? Did you register for your wedding?

How old is the relative? Maybe she's freaking out because she's single and the mother was trying to help. I really don't think it's that tacky, was going to post as much but decided to read the entire thread first.

I think there's lots of anti-single sentiment embedded in these posts. Why are registries okay for weddings and baby showers?

Op here: I am married and I did register for my wedding. Homebuyer relative is 30.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP,

Are you married? Did you register for your wedding?

How old is the relative? Maybe she's freaking out because she's single and the mother was trying to help. I really don't think it's that tacky, was going to post as much but decided to read the entire thread first.

I think there's lots of anti-single sentiment embedded in these posts. Why are registries okay for weddings and baby showers?

+1 - some people don't get the chance for a wedding or baby shower but deserve to have their lives celebrated too. Was the way she went about it a little tacky? Sure. But being "sickened" is quite overdramatic. No one made you go or bring a gift.

Had to go because it's my husband's family.

And I don't have anti single sentiment...I find it equally obnoxious to attend bridal showers where everyone watches the bride and groom open presents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So what if a housewarming isn't a wedding? Why is a registry okay for a wedding but not for a housewarming? Put on your critical thinking caps, folks!

Bc getting married and having a child are life altering commitments and major milestones.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So what if a housewarming isn't a wedding? Why is a registry okay for a wedding but not for a housewarming? Put on your critical thinking caps, folks!

Bc getting married and having a child are life altering commitments and major milestones.

+1
I agree. It's just tacky for a housewarming---Sorry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I also recently went to a housewarming thrown by a single, childless woman in her 30s. She had a registry. I didn't think too much of it because I was happy for her accomplishment.
However, once she started opening gifts and taking a picture with every single one, I thought it was way too much. I also started to feel sad because she may think this will be her only opportunity to be the center of attention.
But my major pet peeve is housewarming registries for rentals. I think that's the biggest insult. I knew someone who did this every time she moved to a new apartment. So tacky.

Registering for a rental??? Please tell me this is made up!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I also recently went to a housewarming thrown by a single, childless woman in her 30s. She had a registry. I didn't think too much of it because I was happy for her accomplishment.
However, once she started opening gifts and taking a picture with every single one, I thought it was way too much. I also started to feel sad because she may think this will be her only opportunity to be the center of attention.
But my major pet peeve is housewarming registries for rentals. I think that's the biggest insult. I knew someone who did this every time she moved to a new apartment. So tacky.

Registering for a rental??? Please tell me this is made up!

I wish it was! I know three separate people that have done this, but one was habitual and did it every time she moved. 3 separate housewarmings within 6 or 7 years. Initially I would begrudgingly get a gift from the registry, but by the time the third person did this I just showed up with a bottle of wine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So what if a housewarming isn't a wedding? Why is a registry okay for a wedding but not for a housewarming? Put on your critical thinking caps, folks!

Bc getting married and having a child are life altering commitments and major milestones.

+1
I agree. It's just tacky for a housewarming---Sorry.

Registering for gifts is tacky under all circumstances - weddings, baby showers, housewarming parties. It doesn't matter. It's tacky. Period.

[Anonymous]

Yeah, I am with a lot of the PPs here. I was invited to a housewarming party with a registry for someone moving into her own apartment. I declined and did not buy anything off the registry.

[Anonymous]

PP here. I have only seen the registry for rentals with young folks. Look, I wished that I had had matching dishes and glasses when I first set up house coming out of college, but that was not my budget. Yeah, it sucks to have student loans, etc, but it's life and one has got to deal. We can't all be born into money.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've thrown housewarming parties for myself (as a renter) and attended housewarming parties for others (renters and buyers). When throwing my own party, I didn't expect people to bring anything. I provided all the food and drinks, and just wanted to gather friends in my new space. When attending someone else's housewarming, I always bring a bottle of wine or champagne. I've never thought to buy someone a vacuum or blender simply because they bought a home.

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