Single and buying a home. Tacky to register for a housewarming party?

[Anonymous]

Don't do an official registry.

But I do think it would be ok, if you are on pinterest, to create a board and "pin" things/ideas you like for your home. Don't call it "registry" or anything--just something more simple like "home decorating ideas."

If your friends were going to buy you a housewarming gift, they might notice your pins and get inspired on what to buy you.

[Anonymous]

Tell your friend you'd be happy to go to her housewarming, and let her know about a registry you have for "plain old life". You just decided to create a registry for the things you needed going through life.

[Anonymous]

You can have one, but don’t do a registry. It's 2014 and most people give gift cards anyway.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Tacky. I didn't even realize this was something anyone would consider doing

X100 signed, a single woman who purchased a house.

[Anonymous]

OP here:

I attended the housewarming party last weekend. What a farce. The homebuyer had her mother "spread the word" about the registry to her friends. We actually sat in a circle and watched her open each present, shrieking with fake surprise and delight at each blender, vacuum, dish set, etc. Since she registered herself and the gifts were SENT TO HER HOUSE, it was absolutely ridiculous to see her sit there opening gifts, as if she neither expected them nor knew from whom the gifts came.

I was sickened.

[Anonymous]

OP,

Are you married? Did you register for your wedding?

How old is the relative? Maybe she's freaking out because she's single and the mother was trying to help. I really don't think it's that tacky, was going to post as much but decided to read the entire thread first.

I think there's lots of anti-single sentiment embedded in these posts. Why are registries okay for weddings and baby showers?

[Anonymous]

A young woman moved in next door to my dad and invited him to her housewarming party and told him where she was registered! A stranger!

[Anonymous]

My mom hosted a housewarming party for me when I bought a house and I registered. My friends were actually the ones who suggested it. I was hesitant to do it because I thought it was tacky. My friends talked me into it and reminded me of all the wedding shower, baby shower, kids' birthday presents, etc I have bought for them over the years. I'm 35 and have never been married or had kids so it's not like I've ever had a gift getting party. When they put it that way it didn't seem tacky. They said they were buying me gifts whether or not I registered so I might as well get what I liked.

Brides register for gifts for a bridal shower so the couple can have what they need for a new house. I'm not sure why it's different for me to do it as an adult purchasing her first home. Having said that, I won't have a shower when I get married because by the time I get married I will have everything I need for a house and I'm assuming the person I marry will as well.

[Anonymous]

Tacky - don't do it. We just bought a house and will be having a housewarming party once we fix it up a little, but aren't expecting any gifts. We just want to show off the house and feed our friends! That's the way you should do it.

[Anonymous]

Because purchasing a home isn't a wedding.

It is tacky and you know that, hence your hesitation in registering. Plenty of people have house warming parties. I have attended at least 20. I always bring a gift-- kitchen towels, bar glasses with bottle of liquor, salad tongs, etc.

If someone registered? I would laugh and toss their invite.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here:

I attended the housewarming party last weekend. What a farce. The homebuyer had her mother "spread the word" about the registry to her friends. We actually sat in a circle and watched her open each present, shrieking with fake surprise and delight at each blender, vacuum, dish set, etc. Since she registered herself and the gifts were SENT TO HER HOUSE, it was absolutely ridiculous to see her sit there opening gifts, as if she neither expected them nor knew from whom the gifts came.

I was sickened.

How is that any different from a wedding or baby shower?

[Anonymous]

Omg yes it's tacky. Doesn't matter if you are single or married.

[Anonymous]

I would say it is a "no gifts" party. Make sure people know you are not fishing.

[Anonymous]

Very tacky.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP,

Are you married? Did you register for your wedding?

How old is the relative? Maybe she's freaking out because she's single and the mother was trying to help. I really don't think it's that tacky, was going to post as much but decided to read the entire thread first.

I think there's lots of anti-single sentiment embedded in these posts. Why are registries okay for weddings and baby showers?

+1 - some people don't get the chance for a wedding or baby shower but deserve to have their lives celebrated too. Was the way she went about it a little tacky? Sure. But being "sickened" is quite overdramatic. No one made you go or bring a gift.