Single and buying a home. Tacky to register for a housewarming party?

[Anonymous]

I think you get the drift....so tacky.

[Anonymous]

I actually disagree with this.... I would create a list, but only share it with people who ask. Don't advertise it.

Inviting everyone you know and including on the invitation? Yes, horribly tacky.

However, I am married, have two kids, and have single friends who have given me gifts for engagement, wedding, honeymoon, child #1, child #2, and random things like the kids' birthdays and my wedding anniversary. I had a wedding registry, that's it. They have gone ahead with all of the rest. It is a sign of love.

If you were one of these friends of mine, you can be damn sure I am asking you if there is something special I can give you for a housewarming gift. Buying a house is damn near impossible today. I am so thrilled to celebrate a milestone in a friends' life.

Congrats OP!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I actually disagree with this.... I would create a list, but only share it with people who ask. Don't advertise it.

Inviting everyone you know and including on the invitation? Yes, horribly tacky.

However, I am married, have two kids, and have single friends who have given me gifts for engagement, wedding, honeymoon, child #1, child #2, and random things like the kids' birthdays and my wedding anniversary. I had a wedding registry, that's it. They have gone ahead with all of the rest. It is a sign of love.

If you were one of these friends of mine, you can be damn sure I am asking you if there is something special I can give you for a housewarming gift. Buying a house is damn near impossible today. I am so thrilled to celebrate a milestone in a friends' life.

Congrats OP!

OMG. PP poster here. I just read all of the other responses. Whew. Rough crowd. I hope your friends are more like me, OP!

[Anonymous]

I am the OP, and thankfully, not the one buying a home or registering for the party. A relative of mine did this recently, and I found it SO, SO, SO tacky. Was curious to see if others felt the same way, or if my generally not-so-nice opinion of her was clouding my judgment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I actually disagree with this.... I would create a list, but only share it with people who ask. Don't advertise it.

Inviting everyone you know and including on the invitation? Yes, horribly tacky.

However, I am married, have two kids, and have single friends who have given me gifts for engagement, wedding, honeymoon, child #1, child #2, and random things like the kids' birthdays and my wedding anniversary. I had a wedding registry, that's it. They have gone ahead with all of the rest. It is a sign of love.

If you were one of these friends of mine, you can be damn sure I am asking you if there is something special I can give you for a housewarming gift. Buying a house is damn near impossible today. I am so thrilled to celebrate a milestone in a friends' life.

Congrats OP!

it's one thing to ask the homebuyer what she could use/need/like for her new home. it's quite another to make a registry. very declasse' (insert ramona singer voice here).

[Anonymous]

Yes.

Your relationship status is irrelevant.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Tacky. It's even tacky for YOU to throw the housewarming party. Others throw it for you. If you're throwing it, it says something about you (like why doesn't anyone like you enough to say, "We should throw Jane a housewarming!"?)

What? This is a new one on me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Tacky. It's even tacky for YOU to throw the housewarming party. Others throw it for you. If you're throwing it, it says something about you (like why doesn't anyone like you enough to say, "We should throw Jane a housewarming!"?)

What? This is a new one on me.

it looks self-serving. like you are just trying to get gifts. i think it's fine to throw your own housewarming, as long as you make it clear that you ARE NOT looking for gifts, and just want to entertain people, rather than have them shower you.

[Anonymous]

Very tacky. And registering (which, like it or not, is typically for events celebrating family and partnership like marriage, birth of children) just draws more attention to the single status. OP, why didn't anyone in the family nudge this relative to take a different approach?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Tacky. It's even tacky for YOU to throw the housewarming party. Others throw it for you. If you're throwing it, it says something about you (like why doesn't anyone like you enough to say, "We should throw Jane a housewarming!"?)

What? This is a new one on me.

it looks self-serving. like you are just trying to get gifts. i think it's fine to throw your own housewarming, as long as you make it clear that you ARE NOT looking for gifts, and just want to entertain people, rather than have them shower you.

I've known a lot of people who have thrown themselves housewarming/come see our new house parties. They did not register. I highly doubt they threw the party simply to stock up on house plants and wine.

[Anonymous]

I've thrown housewarming parties for myself (as a renter) and attended housewarming parties for others (renters and buyers). When throwing my own party, I didn't expect people to bring anything. I provided all the food and drinks, and just wanted to gather friends in my new space. When attending someone else's housewarming, I always bring a bottle of wine or champagne. I've never thought to buy someone a vacuum or blender simply because they bought a home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've thrown housewarming parties for myself (as a renter) and attended housewarming parties for others (renters and buyers). When throwing my own party, I didn't expect people to bring anything. I provided all the food and drinks, and just wanted to gather friends in my new space. When attending someone else's housewarming, I always bring a bottle of wine or champagne. I've never thought to buy someone a vacuum or blender simply because they bought a home.

PP here: edited to add that I would find it insulting to receive a housewarming invitation with registry information. T-A-C-K-Y

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's even more tacky if you're married and you're registered for a housewarming party. Single, one income, that makes sense. But married? Go fuck yourself.

Whoa bitter Betty.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's even more tacky if you're married and you're registered for a housewarming party. Single, one income, that makes sense. But married? Go fuck yourself.

Whoa bitter Betty.

why does it make more sense to register if you are single and on one income? no one forced you to buy a home as a single person.

[Anonymous]

Yes, tacky.