Single and buying a home. Tacky to register for a housewarming party?

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Anonymous wrote:OP,

Are you married? Did you register for your wedding?

How old is the relative? Maybe she's freaking out because she's single and the mother was trying to help. I really don't think it's that tacky, was going to post as much but decided to read the entire thread first.

I think there's lots of anti-single sentiment embedded in these posts. Why are registries okay for weddings and baby showers?

+1 - some people don't get the chance for a wedding or baby shower but deserve to have their lives celebrated too. Was the way she went about it a little tacky? Sure. But being "sickened" is quite overdramatic. No one made you go or bring a gift.

so much wrong with that statement.

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Anonymous wrote:I can't believe so many people think it's fine to have a wedding registry to set up their home, but not one for a single person who might never get married and does need help setting up her house. I'm not saying put the info on the invite or be pushy about it (which no one should do for any registry, obviously). I have single friends who've gotten me so many sweet gifts over the years for various reasons (as a PP said); I'd be so happy to celebrate their milestones. This immediate judgment of 'tacky'... It's just mean-spirited and closed-minded.

Even the example OP cites, maybe it made the woman's mom happy to see her kid celebrated in a big way for once. I don't know them, but hearing it in the abstract, I don't esmt to judge them so harshly.

I assume that if you were able to buy a house on a single income, then you do not need help setting up a home.

OP's relative was being gift grabby. She should have graciously accepted whatever people brought her...mattress, flowers, wine, or just their presence!!!

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I absolutely don't believe it's tacky. I have single friends that have come to my wedding, baby shower, and have given my second child gifts. They also continue to give my children gifts. If they need things for their house, absolutely they should register for it. And chances are, I'm going to get them something nice off there!

I've known plenty of people who have done that! All single, buying their first home, and needed things like mixers (that they would get for a wedding present, but they haven't gotten married so now they don't have one). Why shouldn't they register for it? Just because they are single doesn't mean that they don't need things!

I say register. Your true friends won't care. On DCUM-land, it's apparently tacky. But all of us don't make 900k a year and live in million dollar homes. Maybe in that circle, it's tacky.

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nowhere close to 900k here a year and this shit is tacky.

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Anonymous wrote:I absolutely don't believe it's tacky. I have single friends that have come to my wedding, baby shower, and have given my second child gifts. They also continue to give my children gifts. If they need things for their house, absolutely they should register for it. And chances are, I'm going to get them something nice off there!

I've known plenty of people who have done that! All single, buying their first home, and needed things like mixers (that they would get for a wedding present, but they haven't gotten married so now they don't have one). Why shouldn't they register for it? Just because they are single doesn't mean that they don't need things!

I say register. Your true friends won't care. On DCUM-land, it's apparently tacky. But all of us don't make 900k a year and live in million dollar homes. Maybe in that circle, it's tacky.

That's a good point. I don't think it's tacky to register for a house warming, but most of my friends are buying homes in the $200-500k range. Now, if they purchased a $750k+ home as their first home, a registry would probably seem odd to me.

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You know what? I feel like my friends have had to shell out enough gifts for me (I'm married and have a kid). If a single friend wanted to do this, I would totally buy gifts for her. You do you, OP

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You can register these days for "Housewarming" parties???

Wow...Times sure have changed.

While I think having friends come over and see your new place while you get the opportunity to entertain them is a wonderful idea, it shouldn't be a given that they have to buy you something for your house just because.

Now that IS tacky.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, tacky.

I had two homes when I was single - a condo and a TH. I never thought of having a house-warming b/c I was uncomfortable doing so. However, I don't see now - years later - why it WOULD be tacky.

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I can't get over the woman's mother basically telling her circle of friends to buy gifts for her daughter.

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It depends on some variables. 22, just finished college, single, bought first house? Let you mom throw you a housewarming party and invite the aunts and cousins.

Don't turn it into a pseudo bridal shower.

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It is tacky. However, you do not need to throw a housewarming party either, if all you want is presents.

Save the cost of the party and use that money towards furnishing the house.

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I've gone to lots of housewarming parties and never seen a registry. People usually bring small gifts, like a bottle of wine or a nice picture frame, but the point of a housewarming isn't to furnish your house, it's to "warm" the house with friends. It's not about whose accomplishments or life events "deserve" to be celebrated. It's about the fact that throwing yourself a party and telling your guests what to buy for you is tacky. I can kind of see creating a registry just to get the completion discount, but no one should be "spreading the word"--it should be mentioned only if guests inquire about i.

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WOW! People actually would think to do this?

Sorry OP you're supposed to throw a party yourself and invite people. It's not a gift occasion.

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Anonymous wrote:It depends on some variables. 22, just finished college, single, bought first house? Let you mom throw you a housewarming party and invite the aunts and cousins.

Don't turn it into a pseudo bridal shower.

OP said that her relative is 30. Sounds to me like mom and daughter wanted the feel of a bridal shower but minus the man = tacky

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Anonymous wrote:WOW! People actually would think to do this?

Sorry OP you're supposed to throw a party yourself and invite people. It's not a gift occasion.

OP explained somewhere in the thread that she isn't talking about herself; her husband's relative did this.