Husband Turned Catholic on Me

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like you need jesus and Sunday church day would do your family a whole lot of good. Would you prefer he goes out Sunday morning to get high and check out strippers?

Not OP, but I'd prefer the latter.
Signed,
a former catholic female

[Anonymous]

My H is Republican and I didn't divorce him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Catholics love families and children. There could be Sunday school options that the kids go to while you and your husband go to mass.

Just keep the kids out of the confessional.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd meet with a divorce lawyer, to be honest. There's no space for oppressive religions in our marriage.

This is sarcasm, right?

No, I'm not being sarcastic. I will not be married to, and/or raise children with, someone who practices a religion that believes in oppression.

Yeah, we talk about and strategize ways to oppress at Sunday Mass.

The confines of your small mind are oppressive.

[Anonymous]

You knew he was Catholic when you married him. This shouldn't be shocking to you. He just wasn't going to church, doesn't mean he wasn't Catholic. I find it hard to believe this is a problem for you now. Why not ask him to gontonthe 7 am Mass (you would have to get up before 9:30 many Sundays) or the Sat evening Mass? I can tell you that you sound completely unreasonable, after knowingly marrying a Catholic to now complain about his religion.

FTR, Sundy school tends to be early Sunday morning. Why not tell him to take the kids with him then you cancer them all for brunch after? You get your quiet morning to sleep in (important to you) and he gets his religion (important to him) then you both get family time.

Plus I hope you are less combative about the Catholic Church when you speak with him about it. The church was in his life before you and will be there for him after you. If forced to chose, you will lose that one.

[Anonymous]

Did your husband talk with you about the change to the schedule or did he just start going? If I unilaterally decided I needed to go on a two-hour run the middle of every Sunday morning without making sure the schedule worked for my DH, I feel like that would be a jerk move. But it should be something that can be worked out. I could work out a two-hour Sunday morning run with DH, I just don't think I could do it unilaterally.

Who watches the kids while you sleep until 9:30? If it's your DH, I don't think you have much of a leg to stand on here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd meet with a divorce lawyer, to be honest. There's no space for oppressive religions in our marriage.

This is sarcasm, right?

No, I'm not being sarcastic. I will not be married to, and/or raise children with, someone who practices a religion that believes in oppression.

Wow. You scare me.

[Anonymous]

You Catholic haters should move to Pakistan where they would slap the burka off your stupid head.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Mass is an hour. Seriously, you can't "deal" by yourself for an hour?
Why can't you have family time after DH comes home from Mass?

I find it troubling that you are in a tizzy that your DH wants to return to the Church. Just because you are against it (you are really misinformed about the teachings of the Church from the sound of the post).

Attend an RCIA class. No obligation and free. What's the worst that can happen? You educate yourself about where your DH is coming from???

NP here. I agree with you about 1 hour being no big deal, but what in what she typed indicates a lack of knowledge with the catholic church? I am Catholic and it sounds about right. (I no longer practice, for similar reasons.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd meet with a divorce lawyer, to be honest. There's no space for oppressive religions in our marriage.

This is sarcasm, right?

No, I'm not being sarcastic. I will not be married to, and/or raise children with, someone who practices a religion that believes in oppression.

This is why you didn't marry a Catholic I hope. OP willingly married a Catholic.

[Anonymous]

My husband is Catholic and I am an atheist. I grew up Protestant, but quit believing about 2 or 3 years ago. We could never find a church that we both enjoyed going to-- I do not like a highly liturgical mass, and my husband enjoys the liturgy. My husband goes and takes the kids to sunday school. It is my me time. I do attend church for picnics, first communions, etc.

I would just support your husband. I feel that many Roman Catholic tenets are destructive and devisive, and I go through phases where I truly don't want my kids to go, but, it is important to my husband, and I want to support him. My kids will make their own decisions about these things when they are adults.

[Anonymous]

Right. If being a wife and mother is so oppressive, then why is OP doing it?

[Anonymous]

Mass is only 45 minutes. You can't entertain your stupid needy self for 45 minutes ? I'd divorce your ass.

[Anonymous]

Op, why don't you and the kids go with dh to church, before you decide it's so horrible??? At least try it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You Catholic haters should move to Pakistan where they would slap the burka off your stupid head.

Seriously, they seem to be using the word 'oppression' wrong. Women's rights has its origins as a Christian movement for a reason, being that it is based on the philosophy that every being has value regardless of gender or status. And it is still the Western countries that are most advanced in this regard. And yet there is just a lot of ignorant bigotry on this topic.