Mother's Day: Am I the a@@hole?

[Anonymous]

WWP? (LOL. Every single Holiday turns toxic with y'all, right? )

Solution - Your MIL stays overnight. Your DH takes his mom out for breakfast, lunch, shopping, pedicure, tea, movie and dinner - while you stay at home.

Done.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He really can't win with you, can he?

It's his mother. I don't think his impulse to want to allow her to stay Saturday night and take her to brunch or whatever on Sunday is that bad. He already said you could do your own thing (nothing), so take him at his word.

You're an idiot.

[Anonymous]

Some people here just don't understand. I am also an introvert OP. Your husband can celebrate Mother's Day with his mom (and you) on Saturday. She absolutely should leave on Saturday. Take her out to a very nice brunch or dinner - it will be more relaxing and the food will be better on Saturday since Sunday/Mother's Day is very much an amateur dining day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sure, kick her out the night before Mother’s Day. What if she were your Mother?

[Anonymous]

Book yourself into a hotel. Bring books, order room service.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Book yourself into a hotel. Bring books, order room service.

Do people really want to do this? I spent a lot of nights alone in a hotel room ordering room service when I was a consultant. It's a pretty miserable life. I wouldn't choose to do that now to get away from my family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Or maybe your DH thinks the "nothing" is a trap and he's suppose to be able to read your mind to know that nothing really means breakfast in bed, your morning beverage just the way you like it, DH and kids cleaning the house from head to toe, and a surprise dinner.

This was my thought too. Instead of saying 'nothing' you should be specific. I'd like to spend the day with you and the kids at home. I'd like to take an afternoon walk, then have wine and popcorn and binge something together later. Or whatever it is you want to do. I agree that "Nothing" could be interpreted to - she's expecting me to figure it out.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Book yourself into a hotel. Bring books, order room service.

Do people really want to do this? I spent a lot of nights alone in a hotel room ordering room service when I was a consultant. It's a pretty miserable life. I wouldn't choose to do that now to get away from my family.

Well, sure, doing it "a lot of nights" isn't great, but if you never get to do it, and you have an opportunity to, it's heaven!

[Anonymous]

It is MD for your MIL, too.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Book yourself into a hotel. Bring books, order room service.

Do people really want to do this? I spent a lot of nights alone in a hotel room ordering room service when I was a consultant. It's a pretty miserable life. I wouldn't choose to do that now to get away from my family.

Yes. Most of us don't travel all the time. Of course I want a night away from cooking, laundry, whining, dog walking, etc. etc. etc. Just one night. Obviously it must get boring if you do it all the time but you realize it's a treat for most of us? I can't believe some of you can't see past your own experiences.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Or maybe your DH thinks the "nothing" is a trap and he's suppose to be able to read your mind to know that nothing really means breakfast in bed, your morning beverage just the way you like it, DH and kids cleaning the house from head to toe, and a surprise dinner.

I am the OP and can think of nothing worse than breakfast in bed!

You sound difficult and unpleasant.

And in response to your question in the header: Yes. Yes, you are, OP.

[Anonymous]

If this were your mother, would you feel the same way? Your not the only mother in his life and remember this could one day be you attempting to spend time with your children when you’re older.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Or maybe your DH thinks the "nothing" is a trap and he's suppose to be able to read your mind to know that nothing really means breakfast in bed, your morning beverage just the way you like it, DH and kids cleaning the house from head to toe, and a surprise dinner.

I am the OP and can think of nothing worse than breakfast in bed!

Oh it’s the best!!

Agreed. I'm obsessed with it too. And the kids come snuggle and hand me their cute little cards!!

You're all such cliches! Breakfast in bed sounds awful to me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:WWP? (LOL. Every single Holiday turns toxic with y'all, right? )

Solution - Your MIL stays overnight. Your DH takes his mom out for breakfast, lunch, shopping, pedicure, tea, movie and dinner - while you stay at home.

Done.

DP but OP wants a day alone with her family, just her immediate family. I don't now why that's so hard for most of you to understand?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:YTA. Listen to him for once, and let his mom come over on Mothers Day..

for once? huh?

Yes, I listen to my DH.

Doormat.