Mother's Day: Am I the a@@hole?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:YTA. Listen to him for once, and let his mom come over on Mothers Day..

This. YATA. It's about all mothers, not just you, and making him mom leave the night before mothers day is way more hurtful an lasting and damaging to both relationships than going with the flow on your "nothing" day. You sound like a real pill, OP.

-a mom with a mil and a deceased mom of my own

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op it’s a MOTHER’S DAY NOT A WIFE’S DAY.
Your husband has a mother to Celebrate your kids could do something to celebrate for you you are their mother but, NOT your husband. Your husband has to celebrate HIS MOTHER. No the mother of his children.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op it’s a MOTHER’S DAY NOT A WIFE’S DAY.
Your husband has a mother to Celebrate your kids could do something to celebrate for you you are their mother but, NOT your husband. Your husband has to celebrate HIS MOTHER. No the mother of his children.

This has to be the dumbest thing I've read in a long time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, yes you are the a@@hole. You aren't your husband's mom, so he doesn't owe you anything on Mother's Day. But he does owe his mom something for that day. He has every right to spend Sunday with his mom on Mother's Day. That's what Mother's Day is really for. Let's not mix up Mother's Day with Wife's Day.

Hey bright spot, he asked her what she wanted.

Shrew elsewhere

And she said nothing. He shouldn’t even have asked because he owes her nothing for Mother’s Day, but he was very kind and asked. This shows how much he loves her.
She wants nothing. Now he doesn’t have to do anything for her and can focus on honoring his Mother.
OP is a drama queen.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op it’s a MOTHER’S DAY NOT A WIFE’S DAY.
Your husband has a mother to Celebrate your kids could do something to celebrate for you you are their mother but, NOT your husband. Your husband has to celebrate HIS MOTHER. No the mother of his children.

Thank you for clarifying. Well said.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op it’s a MOTHER’S DAY NOT A WIFE’S DAY.
Your husband has a mother to Celebrate your kids could do something to celebrate for you you are their mother but, NOT your husband. Your husband has to celebrate HIS MOTHER. No the mother of his children.

Great. So she’ll lift not one finger to do anything for him on Fathers Day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op it’s a MOTHER’S DAY NOT A WIFE’S DAY.
Your husband has a mother to Celebrate your kids could do something to celebrate for you you are their mother but, NOT your husband. Your husband has to celebrate HIS MOTHER. No the mother of his children.

Great. So she’ll lift not one finger to do anything for him on Fathers Day.

100% DH will not care either way!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op it’s a MOTHER’S DAY NOT A WIFE’S DAY.
Your husband has a mother to Celebrate your kids could do something to celebrate for you you are their mother but, NOT your husband. Your husband has to celebrate HIS MOTHER. No the mother of his children.

Great. So she’ll lift not one finger to do anything for him on Fathers Day.

He'll probably be relieved, as it frees him up to go golfing or drink beer in the garage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op it’s a MOTHER’S DAY NOT A WIFE’S DAY.
Your husband has a mother to Celebrate your kids could do something to celebrate for you you are their mother but, NOT your husband. Your husband has to celebrate HIS MOTHER. No the mother of his children.

Great. So she’ll lift not one finger to do anything for him on Fathers Day.

He'll probably be relieved, as it frees him up to go golfing or drink beer in the garage.

Nope. He’ll be watching the kids. No reason for her to make his life any easier on Fathers Day. She’ll probably have plans with friends, since she doesn’t need to plan anything with him.

[Anonymous]

You are the a-hole, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand why you can’t just stay at home and he can take his mom to brunch. Why is that not an option?

Why are you making such a big deal that he might take his mom to do something on Mother’s Day?

Yes, why can’t the OP just agree that her husband’s plans are more important than her plans? It is Mother’s Day after all. What she wants should come last, right?

DP Nobody is forcing OP to do anything. If DH wants his mom over, they can avoid OP Saturday night and go to brunch, or whatever.

Sure, and put OP in the position of being rude to her MIL. Totally reasonable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op it’s a MOTHER’S DAY NOT A WIFE’S DAY.
Your husband has a mother to Celebrate your kids could do something to celebrate for you you are their mother but, NOT your husband. Your husband has to celebrate HIS MOTHER. No the mother of his children.

Great. So she’ll lift not one finger to do anything for him on Fathers Day.

Of course, she shouldn't.
He doesn't expect anything from her. His children will wish him a Happy Father's Day, just like they ought to.
If she chooses to have her dad over for Father's Day, he will be super excited. They might go out for a beer or hit the golf course and enjoy themselves, just like the awesome dads they both are.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op it’s a MOTHER’S DAY NOT A WIFE’S DAY.
Your husband has a mother to Celebrate your kids could do something to celebrate for you you are their mother but, NOT your husband. Your husband has to celebrate HIS MOTHER. No the mother of his children.

Great. So she’ll lift not one finger to do anything for him on Fathers Day.

He'll probably be relieved, as it frees him up to go golfing or drink beer in the garage.

Nope. He’ll be watching the kids. No reason for her to make his life any easier on Fathers Day. She’ll probably have plans with friends, since she doesn’t need to plan anything with him.

What husband wouldn't be ok with that? Men aren't crying about how nobody celebrated them and threw a parade on Father's Day.

[Anonymous]

I can’t believe all the people trying to argue that “doing nothing” and “having MIL over” are the same thing. LMFAO.

Sounds like a bunch of MILs to me!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op it’s a MOTHER’S DAY NOT A WIFE’S DAY.
Your husband has a mother to Celebrate your kids could do something to celebrate for you you are their mother but, NOT your husband. Your husband has to celebrate HIS MOTHER. No the mother of his children.

Great. So she’ll lift not one finger to do anything for him on Fathers Day.

He'll probably be relieved, as it frees him up to go golfing or drink beer in the garage.

Nope. He’ll be watching the kids. No reason for her to make his life any easier on Fathers Day. She’ll probably have plans with friends, since she doesn’t need to plan anything with him.

That's okay as well. He believed she never wanted to do anything. If she decides to hang out with her friends on Father's Day, he'll be happy too since she won't be around to make the family stay home and do nothing. He's a wonderful dad, and his kids really love him. He can take them to an amusement park for some fun.