Mother's Day: Am I the a@@hole?

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Anonymous wrote:He really can't win with you, can he?

It's his mother. I don't think his impulse to want to allow her to stay Saturday night and take her to brunch or whatever on Sunday is that bad. He already said you could do your own thing (nothing), so take him at his word.

I don't understand this comment.

OP's MIL is her husband's mother. Her husband wants HIS MOTHER to stay for mother's day. He's a keeper, OP. You're lucky to have him.

No he’s not. He’s an ass.

You're going to get what you deserve, PP. Time flies. Before you know it your kids will be grown and, having taken their cues from you, won't bother with you on mother's day anymore.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:He really can't win with you, can he?

It's his mother. I don't think his impulse to want to allow her to stay Saturday night and take her to brunch or whatever on Sunday is that bad. He already said you could do your own thing (nothing), so take him at his word.

I don't understand this comment.

OP's MIL is her husband's mother. Her husband wants HIS MOTHER to stay for mother's day. He's a keeper, OP. You're lucky to have him.

No he’s not. He’s an ass.

You're going to get what you deserve, PP. Time flies. Before you know it your kids will be grown and, having taken their cues from you, won't bother with you on mother's day anymore.

LOL. This is how you keep your kids in line, by guilt-tripping them? No wonder they don’t want to spend time with you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He really can't win with you, can he?

It's his mother. I don't think his impulse to want to allow her to stay Saturday night and take her to brunch or whatever on Sunday is that bad. He already said you could do your own thing (nothing), so take him at his word.

I don't understand this comment.

OP's MIL is her husband's mother. Her husband wants HIS MOTHER to stay for mother's day. He's a keeper, OP. You're lucky to have him.

No he’s not. He’s an ass.

You're going to get what you deserve, PP. Time flies. Before you know it your kids will be grown and, having taken their cues from you, won't bother with you on mother's day anymore.

This. Her kids will ignore her on Mother's Day like a POS.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Op it’s a MOTHER’S DAY NOT A WIFE’S DAY.
Your husband has a mother to Celebrate your kids could do something to celebrate for you you are their mother but, NOT your husband. Your husband has to celebrate HIS MOTHER. No the mother of his children.

Great. So she’ll lift not one finger to do anything for him on Fathers Day.

Of course, she shouldn't.
He doesn't expect anything from her. His children will wish him a Happy Father's Day, just like they ought to.
If she chooses to have her dad over for Father's Day, he will be super excited. They might go out for a beer or hit the golf course and enjoy themselves, just like the awesome dads they both are.

You make it sound like going out for beer and hitting the golf course is a special occasion. If it was, I'm not sure I'd want to do that with my FIL.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:YTA. Listen to him for once, and let his mom come over on Mothers Day..

His mom can come over any other day except OP's mother's day. It is her day in her house. The DH is a douche for not understanding that.

It's also her DH's mother's day -- for his mother. How is that so hard to comprehend? He loves his mother. Isn't that what you want for your own kids when they grow up?

So DH can go over to his mother's for MIL. Why is he insistent on having this houseguest his wife didn't ask for?
Is it ok for wife to invite her whole family for the holidays without notifying the other occupants of the house? Most people would consider such moves rude beyond measure.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:YTA. Listen to him for once, and let his mom come over on Mothers Day..

His mom can come over any other day except OP's mother's day. It is her day in her house. The DH is a douche for not understanding that.

OP is such a toxic person. Feel sorry for the DH and her children.

She wanted nothing on mother's day.
Instead of nothing, he gave her something -a houseguest to deal with.
It is not nothing. It is a task.

No. It’s not a task. He isn’t asking her to host his mom. He can take care of his mom himself. She can do nothing as she wanted.

You sound like a bad roommate. Did you used to bring overnight guests into your shared dorm room without telling your roommate? Some things are common courtesy, like communication and respecting other people's space.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:He really can't win with you, can he?

It's his mother. I don't think his impulse to want to allow her to stay Saturday night and take her to brunch or whatever on Sunday is that bad. He already said you could do your own thing (nothing), so take him at his word.

I don't understand this comment.

OP's MIL is her husband's mother. Her husband wants HIS MOTHER to stay for mother's day. He's a keeper, OP. You're lucky to have him.

No he’s not. He’s an ass.

You're going to get what you deserve, PP. Time flies. Before you know it your kids will be grown and, having taken their cues from you, won't bother with you on mother's day anymore.

This. Her kids will ignore her on Mother's Day like a POS.

Calm your tits, MIL.

[Anonymous]

Happy Mother’s Day, OP. I hope everything worked out for you and you were able to enjoy a relaxing day. I’d love an update so we can either cheer your success or commiserate with you, depending on how everything went.

I’m sorry you received so much flack from DCUM, I think some posters just like to pick a fight and you were apparently their target of choice. DCUM could always be blunt and harsh, but it seems to be developing a mean streak.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Tell him, sure, his mom can stay an extra night. But you're going to give her a big hug on Saturday evening, say goodbye and tell her you're looking forward to seeing her again next week, and explain that for Mother's Day, you are seizing the rare opportunity to not have to get out of bed in a rush on Sunday.

Then he is going to get up, take his mom and the kids to brunch, come back and help her load her suitcase in the car, and send her on her way with a bouquet of flowers. Then he's going to come in, strip her bed, and wash/dry/fold/store the sheets and towels.

After/during which the laundry festival, he can take the kids out again. You will be on the sofa with the remote.