Divorced Men - How is your love life today?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Divorced men, especially with younger kids, are such a huge red flag to me. It means that they couldn’t figure out what they needed to do to sustain adult partnership.

Women don’t divorce men unless they’ve really messed up.

Those men are gross.

My ex-husband had an affair and is still with the affair partner. She left her husband for mine, trading a sober, community volunteering, church going, primary caregiver dad (he works full time, just from home) for an alcoholic, cheating, smoking atheist. I'm friends with her ex and I'd say he has some mild self-esteem issues and can be kind of stubborn, but that's nothing compared to my ex's enormous pile of flaws and failures. My ex makes a lot of money and is in better physical shape (I guess . . . until the smoking and drinking catch up to him), so maybe that was the appeal.

Her ex is totally going to get snapped up by some churchy lady.

And sure, I'm not the most reliable narrator in this situation, but I think the AP's flaws are objective fact. She moved out when her youngest was 7 and she refused to have the kids overnight or even let them in her rental because it was her "sanctuary"; this went on for 9 months. She told her ex she was leaving him because he "failed to love her like Christ loved the church." I love that part of the story. How is a cheating, alcoholic atheist going to love her like Christ loves the church? She's constantly leaving her kids with her parents so she can follow my ex around like a puppy. They're a match made in . . . somewhere.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Having sex with dozens of women college age up to my age has been the only good part of my divorce.

Everything else (half the time with kids, moving from a house to a condo, navigating schedules) hasn’t been great.

Hope you get tested regularly. Your know, even kissing is not a particular safe activity. Herpes, papilloma viruses, Epstein-Barr etc. everything transmits with skin contact

Amazing some people are just like walking trash cans !

This is like the average 25 year old these days. Young people have very high body counts

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Having sex with dozens of women college age up to my age has been the only good part of my divorce.

Everything else (half the time with kids, moving from a house to a condo, navigating schedules) hasn’t been great.

You sound trashy.

You just don't like that he's dipping his wick inside 20 year-olds. That threatens you.

Yeah ikr. That 40 year old dating a 22 year old used to be a 22 year old who got rejected so the girl his age could date a much older man. Circle of life, don’t hate the player!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Having sex with dozens of women college age up to my age has been the only good part of my divorce.

Everything else (half the time with kids, moving from a house to a condo, navigating schedules) hasn’t been great.

You sound trashy.

You just don't like that he's dipping his wick inside 20 year-olds. That threatens you.

It’s in no way threatens any normal woman who wants a normal long term relationship and takes her time to get to know her partner

Your problem is that you are invisible to men.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Having sex with dozens of women college age up to my age has been the only good part of my divorce.

Everything else (half the time with kids, moving from a house to a condo, navigating schedules) hasn’t been great.

You sound trashy.

You just don't like that he's dipping his wick inside 20 year-olds. That threatens you.

It’s in no way threatens any normal woman who wants a normal long term relationship and takes her time to get to know her partner

Your problem is that you are invisible to men.

Thank god! Best day of my life.

[Anonymous]

I immediately fell into the most emotionally healthy and sexually satisfying relationship I've ever been in, and it's so far lasted almost a year. She's a few years older than I am. I sometimes wish I'd spent a couple years reliving my youth and indulging my midlife crisis by having sex with a series of beautiful young women, but I figure that phase would have ended soon enough and eventually I'd be looking for what I already found, so I'm sticking with this.

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Anonymous wrote:If it’s not irrevocable trust in a specific child’s name, your attempt at a point is moot.

It is (there are several). And I paid a good law firm a substantial amount of money to set them up. Thanks for chiming in. I'm sure that would have been helpful in the case of an absolute moron trying to set up trusts for his children using legalzoom.

Or changeable revocable ones.

Or irrevocable ones that include your future children or step children.

Setting up wills & trusts is $3-5k initially and the. Then $1k a pop each add’l. Nothing most people can’t afford to avoid probate.

What’s in it for Indonesian woman? She’s basically an imports sex worker for green card food and shelter

Yes, and?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm curious how men's responses will compare to women's

Much better than it was…

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Divorced men, especially with younger kids, are such a huge red flag to me. It means that they couldn’t figure out what they needed to do to sustain adult partnership.

Women don’t divorce men unless they’ve really messed up.

Those men are gross.

My ex-husband had an affair and is still with the affair partner. She left her husband for mine, trading a sober, community volunteering, church going, primary caregiver dad (he works full time, just from home) for an alcoholic, cheating, smoking atheist. I'm friends with her ex and I'd say he has some mild self-esteem issues and can be kind of stubborn, but that's nothing compared to my ex's enormous pile of flaws and failures. My ex makes a lot of money and is in better physical shape (I guess . . . until the smoking and drinking catch up to him), so maybe that was the appeal.

Her ex is totally going to get snapped up by some churchy lady.

And sure, I'm not the most reliable narrator in this situation, but I think the AP's flaws are objective fact. She moved out when her youngest was 7 and she refused to have the kids overnight or even let them in her rental because it was her "sanctuary"; this went on for 9 months. She told her ex she was leaving him because he "failed to love her like Christ loved the church." I love that part of the story. How is a cheating, alcoholic atheist going to love her like Christ loves the church? She's constantly leaving her kids with her parents so she can follow my ex around like a puppy. They're a match made in . . . somewhere.

She offered your ex something that you wouldn’t or couldn’t. Move on.

[Anonymous]

Life after my divorce is amazing for me. I’m finally enjoying the lifestyle I couldn’t have as a broke college student. Just turned 39 and I’m flying and ba*ging instagram models all over the country.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"Divorced men, especially with younger kids, are such a huge red flag to me. It means that they couldn’t figure out what they needed to do to sustain adult partnership.
Women don’t divorce men unless they’ve really messed up.
Those men are gross."

+1
and you'll never get to the truth until you have to rely on them for something and see them fall on their face, ladened with excuses.

[Anonymous]

Hard to answer. I was always a serial monogamist and things ended with someone I had been dating for two years. Time will heal it but until then, taking it easy and have no interest in dating. Not the type of person who always needs to go out with someone so catching up on things like golf, reading, bicycling, and learning a foreign language. Sooner or later a new person will come along so open to that.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If it’s not irrevocable trust in a specific child’s name, your attempt at a point is moot.

It is (there are several). And I paid a good law firm a substantial amount of money to set them up. Thanks for chiming in. I'm sure that would have been helpful in the case of an absolute moron trying to set up trusts for his children using legalzoom.

Or changeable revocable ones.

Or irrevocable ones that include your future children or step children.

Setting up wills & trusts is $3-5k initially and the. Then $1k a pop each add’l. Nothing most people can’t afford to avoid probate.

What’s in it for Indonesian woman? She’s basically an imports sex worker for green card food and shelter

Sheesh have you been to Indonesia? You have no idea what you are talking about, most Indonesian people don't want to leave the country.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If it’s not irrevocable trust in a specific child’s name, your attempt at a point is moot.

It is (there are several). And I paid a good law firm a substantial amount of money to set them up. Thanks for chiming in. I'm sure that would have been helpful in the case of an absolute moron trying to set up trusts for his children using legalzoom.

Or changeable revocable ones.

Or irrevocable ones that include your future children or step children.

Setting up wills & trusts is $3-5k initially and the. Then $1k a pop each add’l. Nothing most people can’t afford to avoid probate.

What’s in it for Indonesian woman? She’s basically an imports sex worker for green card food and shelter

Sheesh have you been to Indonesia? You have no idea what you are talking about, most Indonesian people don't want to leave the country.

Even worse, then. It shows the woman was in real need if she needed to leave such an amazing country …

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Having sex with dozens of women college age up to my age has been the only good part of my divorce.

Everything else (half the time with kids, moving from a house to a condo, navigating schedules) hasn’t been great.

You sound trashy.

You just don't like that he's dipping his wick inside 20 year-olds. That threatens you.

I’m a landlord of 20 years. Didn’t see any applications from couples more than 3 years apart in age in my practice; all my 20 yo girls tenants are getting engaged and invite handsome 20s boys over. Nobody opens legs to 50 yo dudes.

It happens often on this forum. I presume these old men pay sugar babies from specialized sites for short term sex.

Prostitution is not dating, dudes !

There’s no difference between dating and prostitution. They are both fornication.

You are a sad very sad human being if you really think so

Don't pay any attention to her. She is our resident lunatic who chimes in with the same nonsense about fornication and sin in every thread.

Why is it lunatic when one tries to live a moral life?

No one cares about how you live your life. It's the lunatic preaching you do about how others should live theirs.

Again u are not answering my question. What’s is lunatic about Not fornicating and preaching about it?

DP. For starters, it's crazy to believe that there's an all-powerful supernatural being lurking just out of sight who is deeply concerned about what humans do with their genitals.

The creation of this unique and many of its intricate details proof that there is an all powerful and all known creator.