Divorced Men - How is your love life today?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Having sex with dozens of women college age up to my age has been the only good part of my divorce.

Everything else (half the time with kids, moving from a house to a condo, navigating schedules) hasn’t been great.

Why didn’t you gray divorce instead!? Much easier since nil logistics and children stuff.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, it feels really good. I don’t feel like I’m walking on eggshells trying to figure out the right thing to say to someone who hates the way I breathe. It feels good to tell a joke and have someone almost spit on themselves laughing rather than getting a lecture. I can drive places without constant directions on everything, how I’m driving, the parking spot I just missed, etc. I feel like a human.

My time with the kids has been amazing. We have 50/50 and on my weeks we can do all kinds of stuff. Whether its sitting down to study, playing a game together - there’s no yelling anymore - there’s mostly just calm.

Aside from that dating has been fun and I’ve met some great people. Sex has been amazing and I think I’d forgotten what it felt like to actually be wanted and to want someone else.

I viewed my divorce as a failure before and that really got to me but the farther I get away from her I realize there was no chance of success with her. What was inside her burned a scowl onto her face that nothing I could do would fix.

I feel like you could be my DH in a few years.

Have you unpacked your relationship yet? Why do you think she held such contempt for you? I hope you figure this out before you enter another relationship. “What was inside her” was years and years of neglect of your relationship and probably years ignoring her trying to communicate to you about it. Did you communicate to her what was wrong? Or you just thought her “bad attitude” was the entire problem in the marriage and you were happy as long as that changed?

He doesn’t care that he was an unreliable, opting out husband and father when married. He still is though, and he still cuts corners and avoids the heavy real stuff.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, it feels really good. I don’t feel like I’m walking on eggshells trying to figure out the right thing to say to someone who hates the way I breathe. It feels good to tell a joke and have someone almost spit on themselves laughing rather than getting a lecture. I can drive places without constant directions on everything, how I’m driving, the parking spot I just missed, etc. I feel like a human.

My time with the kids has been amazing. We have 50/50 and on my weeks we can do all kinds of stuff. Whether its sitting down to study, playing a game together - there’s no yelling anymore - there’s mostly just calm.

Aside from that dating has been fun and I’ve met some great people. Sex has been amazing and I think I’d forgotten what it felt like to actually be wanted and to want someone else.

I viewed my divorce as a failure before and that really got to me but the farther I get away from her I realize there was no chance of success with her. What was inside her burned a scowl onto her face that nothing I could do would fix.

I feel like you could be my DH in a few years.

Have you unpacked your relationship yet? Why do you think she held such contempt for you? I hope you figure this out before you enter another relationship. “What was inside her” was years and years of neglect of your relationship and probably years ignoring her trying to communicate to you about it. Did you communicate to her what was wrong? Or you just thought her “bad attitude” was the entire problem in the marriage and you were happy as long as that changed?

He doesn’t care that he was an unreliable, opting out husband and father when married. He still is though, and he still cuts corners and avoids the heavy real stuff.

DP but so much projection!!!

[Anonymous]

What do YOU do when someone is upset with you? To the point that they don’t even laugh at your jokes.

A) talk it out and fix your behavior or habits

B) do more of the same, passive agreesive style so they file

C) put yourself in a pedestal, quit and file.

D) avoid them and any conversation about it, just get defensive and start an argument

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, it feels really good. I don’t feel like I’m walking on eggshells trying to figure out the right thing to say to someone who hates the way I breathe. It feels good to tell a joke and have someone almost spit on themselves laughing rather than getting a lecture. I can drive places without constant directions on everything, how I’m driving, the parking spot I just missed, etc. I feel like a human.

My time with the kids has been amazing. We have 50/50 and on my weeks we can do all kinds of stuff. Whether its sitting down to study, playing a game together - there’s no yelling anymore - there’s mostly just calm.

Aside from that dating has been fun and I’ve met some great people. Sex has been amazing and I think I’d forgotten what it felt like to actually be wanted and to want someone else.

I viewed my divorce as a failure before and that really got to me but the farther I get away from her I realize there was no chance of success with her. What was inside her burned a scowl onto her face that nothing I could do would fix.

I feel like you could be my DH in a few years.

Have you unpacked your relationship yet? Why do you think she held such contempt for you? I hope you figure this out before you enter another relationship. “What was inside her” was years and years of neglect of your relationship and probably years ignoring her trying to communicate to you about it. Did you communicate to her what was wrong? Or you just thought her “bad attitude” was the entire problem in the marriage and you were happy as long as that changed?

He doesn’t care that he was an unreliable, opting out husband and father when married. He still is though, and he still cuts corners and avoids the heavy real stuff.

LOL it sounds like his ex-wife was the problem, pp. I'm not sure what you're projecting but it's pretty clear you lack basic reading comprehension skills.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, it feels really good. I don’t feel like I’m walking on eggshells trying to figure out the right thing to say to someone who hates the way I breathe. It feels good to tell a joke and have someone almost spit on themselves laughing rather than getting a lecture. I can drive places without constant directions on everything, how I’m driving, the parking spot I just missed, etc. I feel like a human.

My time with the kids has been amazing. We have 50/50 and on my weeks we can do all kinds of stuff. Whether its sitting down to study, playing a game together - there’s no yelling anymore - there’s mostly just calm.

Aside from that dating has been fun and I’ve met some great people. Sex has been amazing and I think I’d forgotten what it felt like to actually be wanted and to want someone else.

I viewed my divorce as a failure before and that really got to me but the farther I get away from her I realize there was no chance of success with her. What was inside her burned a scowl onto her face that nothing I could do would fix.

I feel like you could be my DH in a few years.

Have you unpacked your relationship yet? Why do you think she held such contempt for you? I hope you figure this out before you enter another relationship. “What was inside her” was years and years of neglect of your relationship and probably years ignoring her trying to communicate to you about it. Did you communicate to her what was wrong? Or you just thought her “bad attitude” was the entire problem in the marriage and you were happy as long as that changed?

He doesn’t care that he was an unreliable, opting out husband and father when married. He still is though, and he still cuts corners and avoids the heavy real stuff.

LOL it sounds like his ex-wife was the problem, pp. I'm not sure what you're projecting but it's pretty clear you lack basic reading comprehension skills.

DP. Very rarely is it one persons problem a relationship fails. Presumably she wasn’t like that that married and a normal person would want to know what changed. Doesn’t mean that she wasn’t wrong to take that approach but life is constantly presenting opportunities to grow if we take them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Having sex with dozens of women college age up to my age has been the only good part of my divorce.

Everything else (half the time with kids, moving from a house to a condo, navigating schedules) hasn’t been great.

You sound trashy.

You just don't like that he's dipping his wick inside 20 year-olds. That threatens you.

I’m a landlord of 20 years. Didn’t see any applications from couples more than 3 years apart in age in my practice; all my 20 yo girls tenants are getting engaged and invite handsome 20s boys over. Nobody opens legs to 50 yo dudes.

It happens often on this forum. I presume these old men pay sugar babies from specialized sites for short term sex.

Prostitution is not dating, dudes !

You’re a landlord dealing with men who rent. Does not apply at all to the scenarios here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Having sex with dozens of women college age up to my age has been the only good part of my divorce.

Everything else (half the time with kids, moving from a house to a condo, navigating schedules) hasn’t been great.

You sound trashy.

You just don't like that he's dipping his wick inside 20 year-olds. That threatens you.

It threatens our daughters/nieces and every woman we love.

Yuck! Wrinkled balls and not full formed young women. Double yuck. This is how we get Epstein. Girls your daughters age

[Anonymous]

Divorced men, especially with younger kids, are such a huge red flag to me. It means that they couldn’t figure out what they needed to do to sustain adult partnership.

Women don’t divorce men unless they’ve really messed up.

Those men are gross.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Having sex with dozens of women college age up to my age has been the only good part of my divorce.

Everything else (half the time with kids, moving from a house to a condo, navigating schedules) hasn’t been great.

It may feel good now, but won’t feel good in the hereafter. Please repent and get married

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, it feels really good. I don’t feel like I’m walking on eggshells trying to figure out the right thing to say to someone who hates the way I breathe. It feels good to tell a joke and have someone almost spit on themselves laughing rather than getting a lecture. I can drive places without constant directions on everything, how I’m driving, the parking spot I just missed, etc. I feel like a human.

My time with the kids has been amazing. We have 50/50 and on my weeks we can do all kinds of stuff. Whether its sitting down to study, playing a game together - there’s no yelling anymore - there’s mostly just calm.

Aside from that dating has been fun and I’ve met some great people. Sex has been amazing and I think I’d forgotten what it felt like to actually be wanted and to want someone else.

I viewed my divorce as a failure before and that really got to me but the farther I get away from her I realize there was no chance of success with her. What was inside her burned a scowl onto her face that nothing I could do would fix.

I feel like you could be my DH in a few years.

Have you unpacked your relationship yet? Why do you think she held such contempt for you? I hope you figure this out before you enter another relationship. “What was inside her” was years and years of neglect of your relationship and probably years ignoring her trying to communicate to you about it. Did you communicate to her what was wrong? Or you just thought her “bad attitude” was the entire problem in the marriage and you were happy as long as that changed?

He doesn’t care that he was an unreliable, opting out husband and father when married. He still is though, and he still cuts corners and avoids the heavy real stuff.

LOL it sounds like his ex-wife was the problem, pp. I'm not sure what you're projecting but it's pretty clear you lack basic reading comprehension skills.

DP. Very rarely is it one persons problem a relationship fails. Presumably she wasn’t like that that married and a normal person would want to know what changed. Doesn’t mean that she wasn’t wrong to take that approach but life is constantly presenting opportunities to grow if we take them.

Naw, I believe him. What he said rings true.

If this were a woman posting, you wouldn’t be spewing this nonsense.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Divorced men, especially with younger kids, are such a huge red flag to me. It means that they couldn’t figure out what they needed to do to sustain adult partnership.

Women don’t divorce men unless they’ve really messed up.

Those men are gross.

And men don’t divorce women unless they are really done. Whatever is your point.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, it feels really good. I don’t feel like I’m walking on eggshells trying to figure out the right thing to say to someone who hates the way I breathe. It feels good to tell a joke and have someone almost spit on themselves laughing rather than getting a lecture. I can drive places without constant directions on everything, how I’m driving, the parking spot I just missed, etc. I feel like a human.

My time with the kids has been amazing. We have 50/50 and on my weeks we can do all kinds of stuff. Whether its sitting down to study, playing a game together - there’s no yelling anymore - there’s mostly just calm.

Aside from that dating has been fun and I’ve met some great people. Sex has been amazing and I think I’d forgotten what it felt like to actually be wanted and to want someone else.

I viewed my divorce as a failure before and that really got to me but the farther I get away from her I realize there was no chance of success with her. What was inside her burned a scowl onto her face that nothing I could do would fix.

I feel like you could be my DH in a few years.

Have you unpacked your relationship yet? Why do you think she held such contempt for you? I hope you figure this out before you enter another relationship. “What was inside her” was years and years of neglect of your relationship and probably years ignoring her trying to communicate to you about it. Did you communicate to her what was wrong? Or you just thought her “bad attitude” was the entire problem in the marriage and you were happy as long as that changed?

He doesn’t care that he was an unreliable, opting out husband and father when married. He still is though, and he still cuts corners and avoids the heavy real stuff.

LOL it sounds like his ex-wife was the problem, pp. I'm not sure what you're projecting but it's pretty clear you lack basic reading comprehension skills.

DP. Very rarely is it one persons problem a relationship fails. Presumably she wasn’t like that that married and a normal person would want to know what changed. Doesn’t mean that she wasn’t wrong to take that approach but life is constantly presenting opportunities to grow if we take them.

Most “marital problems” stem from one or both individuals not adapting to nor adopting adult responsibilities of owning a property, raising children or living with a spouse.

The one who continues to live as if they do not have kids to parent, a spouse to be a partner & teammate with, and a SFH to maintain & manage, cause the marriage to fail.

They couldn’t step up to that life and must revert back to a simpler life with considerably less adult responsibilities.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, it feels really good. I don’t feel like I’m walking on eggshells trying to figure out the right thing to say to someone who hates the way I breathe. It feels good to tell a joke and have someone almost spit on themselves laughing rather than getting a lecture. I can drive places without constant directions on everything, how I’m driving, the parking spot I just missed, etc. I feel like a human.

My time with the kids has been amazing. We have 50/50 and on my weeks we can do all kinds of stuff. Whether its sitting down to study, playing a game together - there’s no yelling anymore - there’s mostly just calm.

Aside from that dating has been fun and I’ve met some great people. Sex has been amazing and I think I’d forgotten what it felt like to actually be wanted and to want someone else.

I viewed my divorce as a failure before and that really got to me but the farther I get away from her I realize there was no chance of success with her. What was inside her burned a scowl onto her face that nothing I could do would fix.

I feel like you could be my DH in a few years.

Have you unpacked your relationship yet? Why do you think she held such contempt for you? I hope you figure this out before you enter another relationship. “What was inside her” was years and years of neglect of your relationship and probably years ignoring her trying to communicate to you about it. Did you communicate to her what was wrong? Or you just thought her “bad attitude” was the entire problem in the marriage and you were happy as long as that changed?

This is quite a leap. It's not impossible, but your use of such a declarative statement says more about you than about PP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, it feels really good. I don’t feel like I’m walking on eggshells trying to figure out the right thing to say to someone who hates the way I breathe. It feels good to tell a joke and have someone almost spit on themselves laughing rather than getting a lecture. I can drive places without constant directions on everything, how I’m driving, the parking spot I just missed, etc. I feel like a human.

My time with the kids has been amazing. We have 50/50 and on my weeks we can do all kinds of stuff. Whether its sitting down to study, playing a game together - there’s no yelling anymore - there’s mostly just calm.

Aside from that dating has been fun and I’ve met some great people. Sex has been amazing and I think I’d forgotten what it felt like to actually be wanted and to want someone else.

I viewed my divorce as a failure before and that really got to me but the farther I get away from her I realize there was no chance of success with her. What was inside her burned a scowl onto her face that nothing I could do would fix.

I feel like you could be my DH in a few years.

Have you unpacked your relationship yet? Why do you think she held such contempt for you? I hope you figure this out before you enter another relationship. “What was inside her” was years and years of neglect of your relationship and probably years ignoring her trying to communicate to you about it. Did you communicate to her what was wrong? Or you just thought her “bad attitude” was the entire problem in the marriage and you were happy as long as that changed?

He doesn’t care that he was an unreliable, opting out husband and father when married. He still is though, and he still cuts corners and avoids the heavy real stuff.

LOL it sounds like his ex-wife was the problem, pp. I'm not sure what you're projecting but it's pretty clear you lack basic reading comprehension skills.

Calling out bad behavior is indeed such a problem. Make it go away!