Divorced Men - How is your love life today?

[Anonymous]

I'm curious how men's responses will compare to women's

[Anonymous]

Honestly, it feels really good. I don’t feel like I’m walking on eggshells trying to figure out the right thing to say to someone who hates the way I breathe. It feels good to tell a joke and have someone almost spit on themselves laughing rather than getting a lecture. I can drive places without constant directions on everything, how I’m driving, the parking spot I just missed, etc. I feel like a human.

My time with the kids has been amazing. We have 50/50 and on my weeks we can do all kinds of stuff. Whether its sitting down to study, playing a game together - there’s no yelling anymore - there’s mostly just calm.

Aside from that dating has been fun and I’ve met some great people. Sex has been amazing and I think I’d forgotten what it felt like to actually be wanted and to want someone else.

I viewed my divorce as a failure before and that really got to me but the farther I get away from her I realize there was no chance of success with her. What was inside her burned a scowl onto her face that nothing I could do would fix.

[Anonymous]

After divorcing in my fifties, I was amazed to learn that I was attractive after all. Many women (older than me, same age as me, younger than me, and much younger than me) have been into me. Emotionally and physically, my life and my love life have been much, much better. My relationship with my children also improved. I'm sad that I won't grow old with the mother of my children, and I don't hate her, but my marriage was awful. I'm very glad I got out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, it feels really good. I don’t feel like I’m walking on eggshells trying to figure out the right thing to say to someone who hates the way I breathe. It feels good to tell a joke and have someone almost spit on themselves laughing rather than getting a lecture. I can drive places without constant directions on everything, how I’m driving, the parking spot I just missed, etc. I feel like a human.

My time with the kids has been amazing. We have 50/50 and on my weeks we can do all kinds of stuff. Whether its sitting down to study, playing a game together - there’s no yelling anymore - there’s mostly just calm.

Aside from that dating has been fun and I’ve met some great people. Sex has been amazing and I think I’d forgotten what it felt like to actually be wanted and to want someone else.

I viewed my divorce as a failure before and that really got to me but the farther I get away from her I realize there was no chance of success with her. What was inside her burned a scowl onto her face that nothing I could do would fix.

It's decades of living with the same person. It is not internal.

[Anonymous]

Lonely.

[Anonymous]

Everyone is better off when the two parents aren’t living together fighting and failing at adulting. The unreliable tagalong ones muster up fun time for 50%, the reliable one continues to be the default at everything else. And the kids hopefully get more and more independent, the right ways.

[Anonymous]

Having sex with dozens of women college age up to my age has been the only good part of my divorce.

Everything else (half the time with kids, moving from a house to a condo, navigating schedules) hasn’t been great.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Having sex with dozens of women college age up to my age has been the only good part of my divorce.

Everything else (half the time with kids, moving from a house to a condo, navigating schedules) hasn’t been great.

Hope you get tested regularly. Your know, even kissing is not a particular safe activity. Herpes, papilloma viruses, Epstein-Barr etc. everything transmits with skin contact

Amazing some people are just like walking trash cans !

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Having sex with dozens of women college age up to my age has been the only good part of my divorce.

Everything else (half the time with kids, moving from a house to a condo, navigating schedules) hasn’t been great.

You sound trashy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, it feels really good. I don’t feel like I’m walking on eggshells trying to figure out the right thing to say to someone who hates the way I breathe. It feels good to tell a joke and have someone almost spit on themselves laughing rather than getting a lecture. I can drive places without constant directions on everything, how I’m driving, the parking spot I just missed, etc. I feel like a human.

My time with the kids has been amazing. We have 50/50 and on my weeks we can do all kinds of stuff. Whether its sitting down to study, playing a game together - there’s no yelling anymore - there’s mostly just calm.

Aside from that dating has been fun and I’ve met some great people. Sex has been amazing and I think I’d forgotten what it felt like to actually be wanted and to want someone else.

I viewed my divorce as a failure before and that really got to me but the farther I get away from her I realize there was no chance of success with her. What was inside her burned a scowl onto her face that nothing I could do would fix.

I feel like you could be my DH in a few years.

Have you unpacked your relationship yet? Why do you think she held such contempt for you? I hope you figure this out before you enter another relationship. “What was inside her” was years and years of neglect of your relationship and probably years ignoring her trying to communicate to you about it. Did you communicate to her what was wrong? Or you just thought her “bad attitude” was the entire problem in the marriage and you were happy as long as that changed?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Having sex with dozens of women college age up to my age has been the only good part of my divorce.

Everything else (half the time with kids, moving from a house to a condo, navigating schedules) hasn’t been great.

You sound trashy.

You just don't like that he's dipping his wick inside 20 year-olds. That threatens you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Having sex with dozens of women college age up to my age has been the only good part of my divorce.

Everything else (half the time with kids, moving from a house to a condo, navigating schedules) hasn’t been great.

You sound trashy.

You just don't like that he's dipping his wick inside 20 year-olds. That threatens you.

It’s in no way threatens any normal woman who wants a normal long term relationship and takes her time to get to know her partner

[Anonymous]

Great! I continue to do whatever I want and meet lovely ladies.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Having sex with dozens of women college age up to my age has been the only good part of my divorce.

Everything else (half the time with kids, moving from a house to a condo, navigating schedules) hasn’t been great.

You sound trashy.

You just don't like that he's dipping his wick inside 20 year-olds. That threatens you.

I’m a landlord of 20 years. Didn’t see any applications from couples more than 3 years apart in age in my practice; all my 20 yo girls tenants are getting engaged and invite handsome 20s boys over. Nobody opens legs to 50 yo dudes.

It happens often on this forum. I presume these old men pay sugar babies from specialized sites for short term sex.

Prostitution is not dating, dudes !

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Having sex with dozens of women college age up to my age has been the only good part of my divorce.

Everything else (half the time with kids, moving from a house to a condo, navigating schedules) hasn’t been great.

You sound trashy.

You just don't like that he's dipping his wick inside 20 year-olds. That threatens you.

Ewwww, different poster. If my date told me this, I would be instantly repulsed. It screams "unresolved issues" and low self-esteem.