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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Have you ever actually dated an older guy long term? Besides the nursemaid issue and heightened risk of becoming a single parent and widow early, think of the kinds of attitudes towards women that were acceptable when this group came of age. If he’s that old and never been married before, or has been married a bunch of times, he’s so much more likely to espouse some of these undesirable views. It will be harder for you to find couple-friends to socialize with who are a good fit. Media has conditioned us to think of older men as being wiser, more patient, maybe richer, maybe more self-sacrificing, but remember they are not a monolith and there are plenty of handsome (and not) older men who are literally none of these things. I’ve seen some older guys infantilize younger girlfriends and basically aren’t able to take them seriously or treat them as equals. And with the rich, social types, just go in with eyes open that you will get a good twenty years max, but at some point they’ll decide they just want to be homebodies and live simply and not keep up with your constant gallivanting and will leave you. OP honestly if it’s just the look you’re into, marry someone a little closer to your age in a higher-stress job and they will age more quickly, and you will get your silver fox lol.[/quote]

I'm in my mid 50s. "the kinds of attitudes towards women that were acceptable when this group came of age" are the same as today. All the guys I know have wives with similar education (grad school educated) and similar career trajectories. We all shared the child care and cook and clean as much as our wives.

Granted, that doesn't apply to every 55-65 year old man, but it also doesn't apply to every 25-35 year old man.
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